Narcissistic Parents: How Authentic People Would Handle Them

In this video, I talk about how truly authentic people handle narcissistic parents—and how you can too.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[godzillamanstreb]

Love!! The moving away until their bad behavior doesn’t affect me…..it just takes years of healing for some of us to arrive at this stage, but we most definitely do & it’s exhilarating

[kdjourney]

That is my responsibility. To let go of the fantasy.

Thank you for the actionable steps.

[joelzsheridancomedy]

I think coming out of abusive families is like coming out of war. There is that mix of fond memories and horrible memories. The comradie, friendship, beauty in the little kindnesses juxtaposed to the unmentionable, the inexpressible, the stuff that jolts you awake at night. But it’s all war you can’t pick a piece of it, the context defines the whole. So you have to walk away and not look back, the old is gone the new is come.

[orangecat]

No contact . That’s my authentic opinion. Worked for me !!

[t.f.]

I find the "broken record" technique works really well, with family and difficult people in general.

[VisibleTimes]

I am accepting the truth that other people don't need to change for me to live my best life. God is doing the transformational work in me. Praise the Lord ❤

[dusklvr]

You have to have a really thick skin and let a lot of the abuse slide off you.
Ground yourself in reality everyday and protect your heart.

[ERnarcfree]

Thank you!! I am 57 years old and I have finally realized my father was a narcissist!! Thank you for your amazing videos!

[HotTamaleez]

Tell them you need an apology for something insulting they did (knowing they never will) and that you won’t speak to them until they do. Then let a set amount of time go by before blocking them on everything and closing the door completely. If you let them think they discarded you, it’s a win. I hope my mom’s self righteousness was worth her spending the rest of her sad life broke and alone in her old age. My life has improved exponentially now that she’s no longer a self-absorbed, raging burden.

[JJ_FLA]

Healing Developmental Trauma book explains how the environment we experience as babies and toddlers create all of it in later life. Attunement, attachment, bonding. Lack of positive experiences are marked in our brains and bodies.

[carolynkepler]

I wish there had been some authentic people in my life. There was no one there for my brothers and me in dealing with our mother.

[nmc]

Thought i was free. She gave me a silent treatment for many months and i felt better without the lying gaslighting minimizing infantalizing etc etc in my life.

Now that im healing and gaining confidence - she "wants to talk" I feel my nervous system ill at ease

[DrmCom]

How to handle them is to not be around them.

[Ursaminor]

They never change and they never will. No co tact was the most painful decision I have ever made, but completely worth it. I chose me, so I could become more to many others

[drsarita-questioneverythin]

So helpful “that is my preference at this time “ over and over is enough …accept the fact that they will never change —if they do great but I cannot spend another 50 years waiting …

[jeffreyboyd]

There seems to be a gap between acknowledging the personhood of a narcissistic parent and that they deserve care, and being the one who provides that care.

Yes, my father is old, but I’m not going to fetch his tomato soup and slippers just so he can start making me feel like I’ve been a bad son and eventually just spit in my face and kick me out.

I have a toddler of my own!

[nickg]

Thank you for your videos. I am finally concentrating on myself and my health. I took care of my Narc mom for 6 months after her stroke. And now I am bedridden from stage 3 liver failure and she stills expects me to travel 7 hours for a visit. She walks 10 miles a week and is able to cook, clean, and do laundry. I am in the process of getting evaluated for a transplant. She simply doesn't care. Her latest demand was for my husband to travel 7 hours to bring to my home for a weeks visit. I told her my husband is not traveling and I am not seeing visitors at this time.

[lindathomas]

I like your podcast because I feel that you are very positive in the advice you give. A lot of podcast just keep saying negative things about the narcissist which doesn't help. I love it that you give positive advice that isn't harmful to either person, the narcissist or the one being subjected to them. Thank you for your balanced advice!

[larshesthaven]

Rule number one and the only rule to follow through: get away and stay away from the narc blood sucker..and then take your time to heal the inflicted wounds caused by being close to the narc sickness...they cannot and will not change...save yourself and let the narc be narc in the quicksand swamp