Authentically forgiving the narcissist

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[fedesperanza]

Forgiveness is said to relieve the forgiver of internal conflict; it is achieved when the forgiver no longer feels resentment nor the desire for revenge. One thing I have learned is that forgiveness does not mean reconciliation... it is possible to forgive a narcissist but end the relationship and no longer engage with him/her in any way.

[artifundio]

Indifference is more achievable than forgiveness sometimes

[KoolT]

I don't believe you have to forgive everyone of everything like the new testament says. I believe in staying away from them and shaking their dust off my feet.

[darrenheapy]

To a narc forgiving means forgetting. You can forgive but don't forget. That's how you learn to protect yourself.

[sparrowemerald]

I feel forgiving the narcissist in my life for all the awful things he's said and done would be excruciating hard and fake. I have set boundaries and that has helped. No one should ever pressure and shame someone to forgive another.

[vickischaller]

Forgive yourself...for allowing the narcissist to continuously mistreat you, for doing things for the narcissist that were never appreciated, for remaining in a situation where you were not loved, respected or cared for. And run, run from them as fast as your legs will carry you. Forgive you, respect you, love you. You can do the same for the narcissist but do it from a distance.

[yehudah]

I have once seen a documentary of a Holocaust survivor that chose to forgive the Nazis even though they took everything she had. I learned that her forgiveness angered many other survivors who said that she has no right to forgive. But that’s the thing: she needed the forgiveness for her own healing, and since it’s such a personal process who are we to be judgmental towards others on this topic?
Thanks again Dr. Ramani for being a beacon of light for so many people including myself.🙏

[beyourowntruelove]

Something that’s helped me ALOT with forgiveness - it’s 2 parts - releasing that individual or situation to god or higher power. Then believing and having faith that God/Divine/Higher Power will give out consequences or not bless that person as a result of their actions. God/Divine/Higher Power knows all - intentions, motivations, and all the bad behavior no one publicly sees. This releases the survivor

[judithrasmussen]

Distance makes forgiveness a lot easier!

[ai]

One of the best videos on "forgiveness " - non judgemental, freeing and genuine. Thanks Dr. Ramani and team♥️

[sofiable]

Such a great video! Takes off the guilt of placing boundaries when everyone says you are just being selfish. Thank you 🙏

[marianaspecian]

Forgiving is letting them go. But never contact those narcissists anymore. (It is worthless)

[jesstallfeather]

Yes, forgiveness is a process. Forgiveness does not mean you ignore the hurtful action like it didn’t happen. Only you need to know that you have forgiven your offender, and only tell the offender if they show true remorse by their actions toward you. Yes, forgiveness is a process of healthy mental healing and accepting the real truth about the person who hurt you, and moving on to better .

[luvyatubers]

Thank you!!! The ones who try to convince others that forgiving is for the victim are secret narcs themselves. Being
forgiven is a huge gift to a narc and a ticket to do more damage

[linitamaria]

The ultimate forgiveness it to forgive ourselves from allowing the narcicist to do all they did, to understand that we did the best we could under the influence of someone as manipulative as they are and even like that we had the strength to get away

[Jumoke]

"Forgiveness is a process, not a destination" - These are powerfully validating words. Thanks so much for posting on this topic ❤️ 🙏🏾

[luisacosta]

I forgave my ex-narc after5 months of discarding him, thus I no longer want to be around him ever again. I hope he finds some kind of inner light away from me.

[patriciafry]

So wise. Especially about giving oneself time to deal with the resentment or hurt, and about the fact that an act of forgiving may well just be the granting of a license to continue abusive behavior.

[susanerickson]

Forgiveness is TOTALLY different than reconciliation. The prisoner set free when forging is yourself. It is 💯 possible to forgive AND maintain boundaries.

[yurimachado]

Thank you for this post Dr. Ramani. I have been listening to your posts religiously for the last 2 years. It always brings me comfort to listen to what you have to say. I think this is where I am struggling the most in my healing journey. While I feel that I have forgiven the other person for their actions towards me, I find that I have yet to forgive myself for having allowed the disrespect and emotional abuse for as long as I did. I wish I would’ve been strong enough to have chosen me above them. I’ve learned to treat them with indifference, in an amicable way, but my internal struggle at moving forward and actually forgiving myself it’s something that I can’t seem to get a hold of.