SHOULD I IGNORE THE NARCISSIST OR GO NO CONTACT?

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse Escaping a narcissistic relationship means freeing yourself both physically and mentally. Our minds need space away from the gaslighting and manipulation that can cloud our judgment and leave us second guessing ourselves. Ignoring the narcissist by not engaging with them is helpful, but protecting ourselves from seeing them, their messages or their social media are ways to give our minds and hearts space to heal.

Here is contact information for when immediate help with abuse or self harm is needed. It is recommended that you use a computer or phone that your abuser cannot monitor:

Emergency: 911
National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone]
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
National Hopeline Network: 1-800-SUICIDE (800-784-2433)
Crisis Text Line: Text "DESERVE" TO 741-741
Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
YWCA - 202-467-0801
Canadian Assaulted Women's Helpline: 1-866-863-0511
UK National Domestic Abuse Hotline: [phone]
South Africa POWA: 011 642 434/6
Australia: 1-800-RESPECT

[manifesting]

She is more better than an expensive therapist.

[coach_amy]

Great points in this video. This is so good: focus on what is good for ourselves, and don't be concerned about what the narc will think or if the narc will get supply, or otherwise benefit, from it. In my experience, my not thinking about the narc is what has made the biggest difference. Just my thinking about the narc was enough to keep the narc fully-active in my life (even when the narc wasn't in my life at all, the narc was still able to torture me just by my thinking about this person). So of course, looking narc up online, reading their messages, etc. is just solidifying thoughts about the narc. When I had enough of my emotional torture, I began disciplining my thoughts. The narc cannot hurt me if I'm not thinking about the narc. It's almost scary to know the power was in my hands all along: my thoughts. This is true with a lifetime of narcs I have been involved with.

[TheEighties]

No contact is always the best way, because there's no forced interaction or having to pretend.

[BrendaBaBoom]

It took me series of events and wasting time ignoring the Narc to realize that NO CONTACT is the most effective and empowering strategy to move on from this very toxic individual.

[smokingfoxx]

Good video. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Sad, no help for these “people”

[petertrzos]

You absolutely need to go no contact to break the addiction to the narcissist and stop them from breaking down your logic and causing you to rely on emotional thinking. Them seeing that their messages are read/received gives them thought fuel, and makes them continue doing it. Your description of your emotional responses to their messages indicates that they were still having a negative effect on you, which makes you think emotionally, which increases your chances of interacting with them more.

[rjlacroix]

Very Important information for those of us breaking free from a trauma bond . Thank you again. Outstanding ! 🙏💪

[mercyrahma]

❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much
Going no contact is about choosing Ourselves indeed !
Stay safe my Friends💖
Marshall has the sweetest face😍🥰

[KleeKaiPuppiessale]

In my opinion, you are a professional.

[Truthtellers]

I love Marshall! We need to see your kitters more often.❤

[Allison_Macklin]

I sort of slow faded my covert ex-best friend over a couple months and that worked. She’s had other friends leave her this way so I think she got the hint that I was done as well and just let me go rather than risk a confrontation where I told her the problem was her treatment of me. It made it easy, but reinforced my suspicion that she never cared about me at all. We went from talking every day for 20 years to no contact and she moved on like it was nothing. I just wish I’d woken up sooner because I feel like I was used all this time when I could’ve been putting more energy into other people.

[amothergoddess]

big help, she returned my phone i had lost while i was out buying a new one, I'm really tired and i felt like this was too much, but you're right, she doesn't care about me, she just wants her supply back! its my sister so its hard! i've been feeling exhausted, migraines!

[lauraswanson]

So much great advice, I'm so glad I was able to maintain no contact. I had an order of protection that limited communication by email only and only about the kids. Then he cowardly moved back to his parents house over 3, 000 miles away. Then during divorce the Judge only gave him supervised visits, which he didn't see them at all and stopped talking to them, 1 year after that I had his parents rights taken from him for abandonment.

[pamaylward]

Yes! You explained this so well. You can feel energy drain with any message... it's all for emotional reaction.

[mariannekoroleva]

YES, leaving a normal human being you are one day happy you never see him again, leaving a narcissist you regret being born into a world where you can experience this kind of treatment. Thank You!!:))!!

[lauraswanson]

I did slip up and looked at his fb and it was hurtful as his profile was a picture of him on his brand new Harley he just bought with our retirement he stole when he left, he couldn't pay child support but he could afford a brand new Harley, . It was hurtful but it bit him in the a$$, I downloaded a bunch of pictures to use against him in court, lol

[lucianom.]

I tried to ignore, I tried grey rock. Didn’t work. Just gave me more anxiety. I just totally blocked. No choice.

[WandaEnlightened]

Marshall wants to say goodbye..Marshall struggles to get away..Yes you do! 😍😂 He is so cute!

[beawarenar]

dear sis the way you explaining looks you explaining my story...😢😢😢. I am going same path.. you are brave sis GBU.

[jorgeluiscapiello]

I have have three kids living with her, no contact is not possible but I try to keep it to a very minimum.