Watch Out For These 7 Red Flags Disguised As Love - You Could Be Dating A Narcissist

If you can identify that your ex was a walking red flag (in hindsight), you may have been dealing with a narcissist or another toxic manipulative personality. But why couldn't you have seen those red flags sooner? Maybe because they were disguised as love...

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[phoenixrising]

When their compliments turn
to criticism 💥

[elizabethinvermont]

As an independent woman, I refuse to be controlled, coerced, manipulated, respond to guilt or treated badly!

[RichardJamesStayAtHomeDad]

I completely lost my sense of self, I’ve been discarded and don’t even remember who I was before all of this. I’ve given her everything and when it was gone, she got rid of me.

I can’t believe I was this stupid. Never again, I’m not going to be guilted or manipulated into doing anything I don’t feel comfortable doing anymore.

[MereAYT]

Wow is this spot on about their responding to being asked to pass the salt with "How dare you question my character and integrity, because of course I knew you wanted the salt, and I was going to give it to you if you had only given me a chance." The only thing missing is "But now you've ruined it, so I will not pass you the salt now, and in fact, I never will." They were never planning to pass the salt, but now they have an excuse not to, and it's magically your fault.

[janetstonerook]

I can sniff out a guilt trip a mile away. Because I am very sensitive about not hurting others and giving them their space . So if someone steps over a certain boundary, I know instantly and will back them off. But it took me years to fine tune this skill!🤗

[hassanchop]

Such a fine line between normal behaviour and toxic behaviour in the love bombing stage. So hard to know where the line is when you're emotionally invested.

[riturajmitra]

I wish everyone gets to come across this video before they get into a relationship.

[face]

I was such a fool, literally had all these red flags and I failed to see them. Ultimately I ended up getting hurt very badly.

[herbamare]

I wish I knew all of these 28 years ago .. I became to have depression, anxiety and adjustment disorder. My mother and husband are the narcissists diagnosed by my psychologist.
I'm on the recovery stage, it's tough. Hope I get to see the better side of this beautiful life.
My husband (boyfriend at that time in early 90's), he accused me of being pregnant and having an abortion. No matter how many times I told him I was never pregnant or had an abortion, he wouldn't believe me.
I should have respected myself more and trust my instinct...

[bs-rwbb]

My ex told me he loved me 2 weeks after we met and 1 month after we met he behaved like he would die without me.. I was forced to go to dates every second day and he was always sad because I give too little and he would die for me. Another red flag was his constant use of social media with lots of followers and chatting, flearting and texting with 1000s persons and when I would say it makes me jealouse and unsure, he would became angry.
Another red flag- his relationships with friends and familly members that were hot and cold, love-hate relations. When I thought I was finaly secure in relationship, his cheating begins

[nicolecarnevale]

Christina,
This is so accurate.
I noticed toxic relationships begin with intense quick involvement, a string of bad prior relationships, nothing is their fault, guilt trips, telling you who to hang out with, critique your style of dress, jealousy you felt was sort of cute becomes stiflingly controlling.
The questions and idealization in the beginning feels good.
I remember an ex questioning as I was thinking “ a penny for your thoughts. What are you thinking about you can tell me.”
Those very intimate personal details are used later to pick you apart.
The involvement is intense and the person seems to have dropped his life for you.
It never occurred to me he didn’t have a healthy life before me.
I replaced an ex wife blamed for all the issues.
Thanks Christina for helping people to look before they leap.
I noticed relationships begin very quickly..
So much easier to avoid entanglement than pull yourself out of the twisted thorn patch.

[morbly]

Jealousy isn't a red flag. If someone you're seeing devotes more emotional energy to an ex or someone else that supposedly is just a friend, then it's reasonable to feel jealous. If you feel jealous it's a sign you're either not getting your needs met and or you're using the other person's attention as validation of your self worth. If you have an anxious attachment style, you're likely to feel threatened by the other person's relationships from time to time. It's important to work on your own personal self worth but it's also important to find someone who can be reassuring instead of dismissive of your emotional needs. It's not okay, on the other hand, to become controlling of who the other person hangs out with either through demands or more subtle manipulation. It's not okay to violate the other person's privacy or demand that they give up their privacy. Direct accusations of cheating when there is no clear evidence is also wrong.

It is normal for people to feel jealous, it's normal for people to sometimes feel insecure in a relationship, it's not a red flag on it's own. Jealousy with a sense of entitlement, or doing things to control the other person, that's a red flag.

[matermatuta]

100% true from beginning to the end. My sadistic psychopathic ex was extremely jealous of me. Always cheating and triangulating with other woman. 4 years he refused to acknowledge me on my singing skills until one day...he said with the most envious voice ever ": as if you dont know how i feel about your voice, i always wanted to sing and i listen to real music but its you, you of all people that has a voice like this and you can sing anything you want" he said it with a face full of disgust. Thats when i realised he never loved me and never will. I moved away didnt give him my adress since he had been stalking me for long. Thank you for making amazing videos like this very inspiring and soothing. Great work👍🤗

[caseywatson]

I was Love Bombed HARD by my last bf. He told me he wanted to marry me within in the first month. We were together for a year and a half...and a month ago he told me he cheated on me.

Now I know. NO MORE of that! He dangled his new man to me on social media and presented him as just a friend before he confessed. It was almost like he wanted to get caught. Horrible feeling.

[DudeRanchDan]

I remember that my narcissistic wife used to love all the "me" things I did, but slowly over time she flipped on all of it. Understanding this now has given me a guidepost to seeing the other polar flips that she has done, particularly my ability to trust my own eyes and ears when she denies something she did in the past.

[spikebat]

My husband did every single one of these behaviors. We are now separated cause he's doing the same things, just with another woman. Definitely better to catch these early on!

[alanterry]

One of the last red flags, in my humble opinion, varies from situation to situation. If someone telling someone they are connected to not to hang out with someone, simply are to make sure certain boundaries are not crossed. I was in a relationship with a person that deliberately had a relationship with a married, continued contact with him while we were in a relationship together, while allowing him to flirt with her inappropriately. I find it amazing, logically speaking that people would consider that controlling when all you are doing is setting boundaries. If I knew the person I was with fooled around with different people, and they are currently still in her life, and she continued to talk to them and allow them to do inappropriate things while we are together. They have to go, or I will.

Plain and simple. I hope people use these as guidelines and not the gospel truth. Nonetheless, great video!

[rileybergin]

My friend definitely had jealousy issues...but she presented them as "I know I shouldn't be jealous and you're allowed to have friends"...I think her goal was reassurance?...Although this usually came after the interrogation of where was I, was I having fun, who was with me, and what were we talking about?

[etaokha]

All that just described my ex. Glad he is gone for good. Yuck!

[fernandomartin]

SMH!!! All of them she use on me !!! When I had enough I left without remorse!!! I just got blinded with so call love looking at this videos to retraining my mind!!!