9 Signs You're In A Fantasy Bond, NOT Love

Are you mistaking a fantasy bond for real love?

A “fantasy bond” describes an illusion of connection between two people that is substituted for feelings of real love and intimacy.

In today's video, we will talk about what a fantasy bond looks like, its impact on mental health, and how to distinguish it from genuine love.

Whether you're single, have a secret crush, just broken up, navigating dating or long-term relationships, understanding the nature of the fantasy bond can shed light on common relationship dynamics. Watch to learn the key signs that might indicate you're in a fantasy bond rather than experiencing authentic love.

#mentalhealth #love #relationship #psychology

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Julie Ma
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[CindyPsychgo]

Question for everyone, how is everyone liking the topics lately? Is there a topic you wish us to cover on? Let us know below!

[Bananamilk]

1:01 you fall inlove with potential, not people
1:43 you ignore red flags
2:24 you use them to escape reality
3:02 you avoid conflict
3:45 there's no emotional intimacy
4:30 theres no sacrifice or compromise
5:00 you've lost yourself in love
5:27 a superficial relationship
5:52 you feel an empty happiness

[Kraken_JPN]

It feels wrong to watch myself being called out in a video.

[enoch]

“You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.” Wanda from Bojack Horseman

[Splat]

I have no idea why i got automatic japanese subtitles, but i am loving it

[destinyjohnson]

This is actually perfect for me rn because I’ve been being confused on my feelings for a few years.

[Dastorm]

I genuinely hate how much reality this video shattered for me.

[gamermapper]

Honestly I think that sometimes being too dreamy and dreaming a lot about crushes isn't actually a bad thing. As long as you know that it's just a fantasy and could not be exactly true. Because the feeling is still extremely positive and sweet. For a lot of people it really helps them cope with the hardships of life and actually feel a lot of happiness. So I'd say it's actually a good thing! 😊🥰💕

[Tofu_shrimp]

I thought it was genuine love because we never got into any conflicts or arguments. But when i saw that avoiding conflict was one of the signs, it hit me. While he’s sweet and all, there were many times where his attitude was.. concerning, to say the least. I dont think he did it deliberately, but ive shed tears because of the things he has said and done. But i never mentioned it because i thought it would be healthier to avoid it, rather than stirring up, what i thought, were “unnecessary” disputes. I've also started letting go of my hobbies, because now all i do is text and talk to him. I guess there’s a chance this was all a fantasy bond after all. Thank you for this, Psych2Go <3

[MistyMoonie]

This actually educates me since I've never known what a fantasy bond is, so this really gets me to truly know that I'm not in a fantasy bond. If you want to ask somebody out, go right ahead and have the confidence!

[aseman]

I just got out of a relationship, realizing that the connection between us wasn't love. This video was something that I needed to see since I was afraid that I did the wrong thing by breaking up even after he begged me not to.Ngl I was blaming myself thinking that I was acting selfish and immature until I saw this vid.Thanks ❤

[topazmarigold]

Crazy how this has been happening for the last few days and this pops up as soon as I wonder why I'm doing this so much

[ChoompaLoompa-uwlw]

what if your fantasy together is your goal? making it better, efficient, satisfying...What if you and another person have a place that is just for the two of you that you can nourish like a garden?

A fantasy bond is an ideal vision of the relationship you both must work hard for... it's the same as people who believe in a utopia, and people who are inspired by utopian ideas to makes something less than perfect but still amazing.

[rikitikitavatiki]

Well, the idea of love is all I've ever really had, so I guess a fantasy bond would be a step up for me. It's funny... I've learned so many things about keeping a relationship together. If only I knew how to start one.

[brodieudunno]

You know I've always felt this type of way but never had the words. It felt like I was so in love that when I was alone I would be so confused on why the happiness I felt never felt as deep as it seemed.. I always wondered why I felt better when I was by myself feeling that empty happiness but never knowing why and realizing now part of it is my fantasy of what our relationship could be and only seeing the potential of the person and not the person themselves.. gives me a lot to think about but more clarity. It hurts but I'm thankful. It's hard to say where to go from here but it's nice to know an explanation

[expldegaming]

The amount of eye opening to see a video describe your life is crazy.

[gamergabetuber]

This honestly helped so much, just knowing how I became so attached and confused on why I fell so hard for my ex, because getting over her has been hard but at least I can see clearly now and this video really made me open my eyes.

[alexantics]

This actually helped me understand the reason why my last relationship ending really didn’t affect me that much and honestly I feel like the majority of these things were happening throughout both sides of the relationship

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). You fall in love with potential not people 1:00
2). You ignore red flags 1:42
3). To use them to escape reality 2:22
4). You avoid conflict at all costs 3:01
5). There's no emotional intimacy 3:44
6). There's no sacrifice or compromise 4:29
7). You're lost yourself in love 5:00
8). A superficial relationship 5:26
9). You feel an empty happiness 5:51

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[Elenaza]

As a BPD person, this is so difficult to notice. Thanks for this vid, it helps a lot ❤