Here's what to do when you're triggered

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[TheHolisticPsychologist]

#selfhealers, I hope this is helpful. Remember, our triggers are teachers. Our work is just to see them that way. -Nicole

[gurudra]

If your mind is a garden, and your thoughts are seeds, you can either grow flowers or grow weeds

[Poniella]

It’s so easy to forget all this when the trigger comes. Need a panic button that automatically plays this video! X

[monicatomlinson]

This is wonderful. Im 50 and 2yrs ago I went to the police and ended up in court with a deviant who sexually abused me as a 8/9yr old. I kept all that in for 48yrs. It was horrendous. But one of the most important things I learnt then to help me through court, was the breathing. I have learnt your other 2 points since then. I love watching your videos. They are soothing in themselves, just listening to you....thank you. he got 20yrs in prison!

[forjusticeandtruth]

Better idea when triggered is to find a way to release the energy in the quickest way ie through exercise.. breathing is great but if you're highly traumatized, let's be real, you're not about to sit and breathe when you're enraged. So my suggestion would be go for a walk, run, anything that allows you to release the tension and cope with the discomfort of emotions without allowing it to overcome you... just a suggestion because as a therapist, a lot of my clients say they are way too stimulated to sit and breathe when triggered because of the intensity of emotions. Also don't underestimate how long you can stay triggered... I have had to sit for HOURS at times when triggered before my system calms down. So be patient with yourself, sometimes it takes a while for the emotions to pass through. Thank you for the video ❤️🙌

[RachelVHill]

Learning how to control my reactions has been one of the BEST skills I've learned.
Thank you for this video.

[ecb]

I was in the middle of a trigger when I found this and worked myself out of a potential spiral. Thank you.

[tortoiseperson]

Wish I had seen this 2 hours ago. Massively triggered, behaved very regressively then felt massive guilt from self and others ("confused or critical" exactly as you say).

[carolyn]

Thank you from all of us still suffering from past wounds. So refreshing to be validated instead of being critised.

[sarakh]

An hour ago I had an argument with my family. My mother came home from a fam gathering, she said I should've gone, everyone was there. I told her how when we were kids she wouldn't let us go to these gatherings/functions and now when we don't wanna go you force us to go. She was like wow I don't even remember stop talking about the past, everyone sided with her, told me not talk like this to mother. I'm still crying, somehow can't bring myself to stop. When my siblings have a problem my mother listens to them though her help to them looks like denying their experiences lovingly but when I say something she just outright shuts me down like I'm not supposed to have difficult feelings and hold up myself all the time. This hurts a lot. I've completely turned towards myself for space, support, love. I'm so grateful to contents like that and the healing community, it's much easier now. Idk where I'd have ended up without, I'm tuning in. I'm sorry for the long rant. I feel much better now

[leeboriack]

Great information.
•Identify our emotional triggers and how they pop up.
• When triggers happen, calmly acknowledge and replace with a positive reaction.

[GirlyDesigns]

Thank you for this! I'm an abandoned daughter here. I am currently dealing with triggers and each time I get triggered, I tell myself that it's wrong to feel that way.

I learned that I must honor my emotions as a normal part of life.

More power to you!

[cb]

I have to say a few things and trust me, they are all good.
Thank you, first and foremost. You changed my life!!! Your book, the way you explain things and presented them were so clear. The awareness I gained so early on in the book blew my mind! The ego. My entire perspective of old and new beliefs has changed.

What I really wanted to say is this:
This just proved to me it was that it had an immediate impact on my life. I just watched this video and I cried. I cried because I realized “I am practicing” (self journal) the steps you laid out here.

I cannot thank you enough. I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

[flookie]

Changing the narrative and witnessing the ego as an observer 👌👌
I had a narrative of being unloved. I just meditated for 5 minutes and began changing the narrative. I can literally feel the release in my physical and emotional body. It’s like a giant weight has been lifted off my chest. Thank you so much. 🙏

[mjcjjcc]

Something I learned that helped me on breathing is the explanation of, when we are triggered, our mind and body goes into fight or flight mode. Then our breathing changes to short quick breaths. The heart beats faster in response to the faster, shallow breaths. So by changing the breaths to long slow breaths it slows the heart rate and calms the nervous system down.

[LunaLeea]

Perfect timing, going to see my parents and brother and always triggering when we all gather for Christmas! Happy Holidays and thank you!

[Jess-ypfo]

this is the first vid that popped up when i search 'what to do when im triggered' and i got excited because ive been following the holistic psychologist on IG for a while and didnt know she had a channel!! i was EXTREMELY triggered but this helped me sooo much thank you!

[NicoleHeals]

Love your videos so much. I'm originally a Creative Writing major but started taking psych classes because I was really interested in the mind and why we do the things we do, and I've come to realize just how spirituality and psychology really supplement one another. Your channel is a testament to that as well. Thank you for your content :)

[evaaller]

😂 the word “Ego” triggered me. I’m an only child & so I’ve heard the word egocentric easily thrown about in a presumptuous prejudice off the cusp way so many times in my life and I’ve had to self heal from many who tried to devalue my worth. Then I learned that sometimes people are just hurting so they’re hurtful. I stopped taking these things personally & internalizing it but I guess it was thanks to my strong “ego” as you call it, that protected me. Now my ego is out of wack from prior to learning this & all the years of internalizing so I’ve become defensive. I’ve always thought ego was a bad thing and never heard this term used this way but now I’m understanding that it can be both like a double edged sword. Thanks for sharing this wisdom.

[sfxbwhe]

You are so kind to share your knowledge and personal stories in such an accessible and inclusive manor, taking your time to help others is truly one of the best gifts given by someone. You have, and are helping me daily. Thank you. A genuine offering like this where people have free access to heal and therefore heal others around them. you are seen. Keep up the fantastic work cant wait to read your book, your hard and consistent work is a credit to you. x