What is 'narcissistic supply'? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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[sophiasebring]

They don't want you to tell them the truth. They only want you to tell them what they want to hear. Everything else is "attacking" them or "putting them down"

[jakeserdynski]

What blows my mind is that a narcissist want a "supply" but they don't give out any and don't do anything to deserve it.

[dance]

It’s soooo frustrating to look back and realize how obvious it was! The demands are insane and walking on eggshells was exhausting 🤦🏻‍♀️

[bmoremom]

I’m so glad that this quarantine has given me physical legitimate reasons to stay away from the annoying narcissist in my live. It’s really a breath of healing air!

[Hawelufamily]

After 27 years of narcissistic abuse, it trains you to overthink everything. Trying to read minds. Uggg this is the thing I’m trying to overcome. It’s emotionally exhausting. So glad I’m out of that marriage.

[sw]

One of many insights I found helpful: Narcissists CANNOT regulate their sense of self internally, so they have to get "supply" from other people. Also: The narcissist’s relationships are transactional, meaning: “If you give me supply, I’ll hang out with you.” What comes to my mind is a vampire of sorts. Thank you Dr Ramani.

[Freethinker]

Dr. Ramani, you are literally saving my life- my sanity. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏻

[annikoistinen]

For everyone who have gone through this:

You did great to let go of narc. Now your true healing can start. Forgive and slowly move on. Wish the best for you and strength to your life. Someday you will smile again. You do matter <3

[angelesgonzalez]

I´m 54 years old, and you just described my whole life, my family and most of my I have a lot a work to do with my self, Bless you for the work you are doing.

[alienlizardqueen]

Narcissists always have a new picture they drew with crayons and expect you to be like “omg it’s so wonderful, it’s better than the Mona Lisa, it’s even better than the one you did yesterday.” Meanwhile, you forget what it’s like to talk with a real adult.

[raymondezell]

This breakdown hits all the major points. If you give me supply, I’ll hang out with you. A transaction. A business transaction. Yet they try to sell it as a loving and caring relationship then wonder why you’re not as connected as they would like you to be. You’re a fraud, that’s why. And now I’m trapped in a situation of emotional blackmail due to fear, obligation or guilt. PLEASE do not allow them to make you feel guilty for the little “breadcrumbs” that they feed you, the attention they give to bait and switch, then guilt and try to monopolize that energy. This is control. Do not acquiesce to this.

[MsGroovalicious]

It almost feels that the infant or toddler inside of them wants us to be their "mommies" or "daddies" watching them do something and be so happy about it. Very interesting...

[colette]

I am always so surprised when I listen to your videos. Your insight to narcissism is unbelievably exact to what I have lived. Yes, you make it incredibly clear . Thank you

[Ash-vkvr]

A mother narcissist is the worse . After 33 years of emotional abuse, I’ve started the process of healing

[AxA]

I’m going through a divorce. I physically had to kick him out of the house. I am grateful u stumbled upon these videos because they opened my eyes to my reality. I thought I was going crazy but after watching and reading and doing research I realized I was married to a narc. After trying 5 Counsellors, church, psychologists, family interventions I realized this man was never going to change. I now have anxiety but I now it’ll go away, if I showed you a before and after photo I looked like I’ve aged years, they’re energy vampires. My advise plan your escape and don’t feel bad! These people don’t need your help they want your soul. Run.

[diannamichaels]

The best way I “dealed” with the narcs in my life was to totally disconnect. Women and men. Nasty ppl!!!

[MA-upkq]

"FLATTERY" using charm, praise or flattering the victim is one way of gaining that person's trust. The victim is naturally happy to receive such compliments but in doing so lowers their guard. Talk about this please.

[Chlurr]

"... only valued for how they look..." hitting too close to home with this series Dr. Ramani

[della]

Food, money, sex, shelter, social status is narcissistic supply for the lower level, relationship hopping, couch surfing, hobo narcs.

[tiptapkey]

This has opened my eyes to a friendship/potential relationship that I need to back far away from. She always complains about not being validated at work or in other relationships and complains that I don't "see" her properly because sometimes I'll focus on the "wrong" things. So your point about mind reading is really, really spot on. Unless my attention is nearly 100% on her, she gives me the cold shoulder or silent treatment. I've come to the conclusion that nothing I do would be ever enough beyond being downright obsessed with her.