Relationships Aren't Hard

[soffren]

Relationships aren't hard. Relationships are work, but that is what makes them valuable.

[chanmonymiller]

So I agree with what you said, and still think relationships are hard. Because they push us to confront our selfishness, pride, insecurities, and ither flaws. Learning to dance through life with someone, figure communication and teamwork, you're going to step on each other's toes sometimes. But if you're both willing to grow, love, forgive, and hold each other accountable, you can create something beautiful.

[Zasalamel]

Difficult times in relationships are actually a test of how strong you are both separately and together. What do you think about the couples who have been together for 40 years, why are they actually together? Yes, you can make excuses, but the real truth is that they accepted each other as they are and made each other a promise. That they will be together in good times and bad times.

[dhoelbinger]

EXACTLY!!! Top tier input. Know your role. If both members of a relationship did the exact same thing, about half of everything ends up undone.

[SomeStickmanGuy]

To the women out there who have a crush on someone, if they aren’t making a move, they may either think you are a friend, or love you but are afraid to tell you. So if they aren’t, maybe try confessing to them.

[notpayingtaxes]

I’m glad I ran into this channel, it’s really helping me out. Thank man.

[dawnagar]

Absolute truth spoken .. I dig your mind deeply

[Thespiritleads]

I cannot stress enough that competition within a relationship is madness!

[kittyspipas]

For real!!! Love using the term, "Customer service"

[simonotori]

100% agree with you. I broke up with my last girlfriend 3 months ago. Although i should be with her knowing we're only 3 and a half months in, I already saw signs that she's not ready nor compatible with me. It's understanding tho because this is her first relationship and afterall, she's new to this sort of feeling of being with someone. But for me, I feel she isn't ready and I myself am not in the right place in my life atm. I have a lot of things to catch up to before I commit into a relationship and contribute to that relationship.

Though, the problem I noticed from her was that she would give relationship advices to her friends, yet she never does exactly as she should with our relationship. She's prideful and she herself even admits that. And the thing with pride is that, they would always think they're right... She never communicates what's on her mind, she never tells me or talks to me about her emotions, she always keeps a smile on her face and disreguard any concerns I have for her, sometimes she'd tell me but most times she just really doesn't tell me anything. Even though what she tells me is half of what's really happening but the rest is kept to herself. I've always had that gut feeling. When i spoke to her about this, she asked if I thought she's lying, and I said yes. Even though she had no reason to lie to me and she had never lied to me, from my point of view, having your partner keep things from you makes you feel emotionally neglected and start to doubt your worth for them.

For the past 3 and a half months she has been doing this. And being in my state, I wasn't mentally well. I was going through severe depression, and feeling emotionally neglected from her adds to the problem. I've been trying my best to fix the relationship, used my last remaining energy just for her, being patient, remaining understanding, and TRYING for this relationship. Yet she had never done her part. I cannot even pinpoint anything she had contributed into the relationship. Most of what she should be sharing to me as a partner to keep me updated, etc., she shares with her friends.

I've already talked to her that she needs to share whatever is on her mind even if its about me. But with reassuring fake words, she never did. Which is why I've decided to call off the relationship. She's not ready, and she refuses to learn from a different point of view. I was being direct, open about my thoughts, i gave her my vulnerability and intimacy, i gave what I had left of me even if I was suffering mentally. I did my part. At least, what I know I've done right and all that I could've done in that time and moment.

My word for her, she's not ready for a relationship yet. She needs to work and focus on herself before she even gets into one.

[timmybubbyboi]

this was just abt to be the first video I disagreed with in like 11 months of watching, but turns out, I never thought of this before and I 100% agree with it.

[BQ]

Advice to my single friends:

Men are not complicated. He's not investing in you because you're not worth it to him, he's not chasing you because he doesn't want you, he's still entertaining you because you let him.
He's not giving you what you want because he's not afraid to lose you.
Stop making excuses.

[CandyThePuppy]

Dang this kind of advice is SO RARE these days! But so true!

[maenad]

Well both of them were equally important so there was equality lol.
In this context “equal” obviously doesn’t mean “the same”


By analogy
2 + 3,
1 + 4,
1 + 6 - 2
& 2.5 ✕ 2
are all entirely different equations composed of different parts. Thus neither of these four equations are the same but they’re all equal in value (= 5)

[athomewiththemrs]

Also communication is key. Learn how to communicate with each other. And don’t try to fix your spouse. A lot of people (specifically women) will focus on fixing their spouse and wonder why they aren’t happy. Focus on bettering yourself, because at the end of the day you are the only one you can control the actions of.

[SameAsAnyOtherStranger]

Idk. You can't speak for everyone. By my experience, emotional involvement makes things difficult. I could ace any test about what to do when certain situations arise, but in the heat of certain moments all of that being well informed flies out of the window.

Then there's how these difficult moments can get moved past and the enduring relationship signifies acceptance as apprehension fades. Or it doesn't and one or the other or both people don't feel reassured as they would like to be.

[freedomofspeechfreedomofme]

Only enter into a relationship with someone who has the same morals and values as yourself.

[SamKBlang]

I like the way you think. Thank you for making me think a bit more today. Have a nice one

[header_guard]

I've been trying to tell people this. Once you have the fundamentals, nothing else really matters.

[jeffpopiel]

That was well said! Powerful information, I wish Id had it years ago.