How to treat ROCD (Relationship OCD)

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Relationship OCD (ROCD) can cause immense amounts of anxiety for individuals. Treatment really tends to work for those individuals who are willing to take the plunge. 🤗Let's go through the researched-based treatment is for ROCD. 👍

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[ocdandanxiety]

Do you have ROCD? What treatment strategies work for you?

[christeningg]

if you looked for this video, you found your true love. keep trying, stay strong and just know we’re all going through it together. ❤️

[EternallyLoved]

When I'm with him, everything is fine its when we're apart, my head starts to wander and worry.

[John-xxzb]

It’s not easy, guys but it’s definitely do-able. Watch the anxious thoughts with a neutral mind, choose to agree with the bully in your mind (maybe even laugh at the bully) and have a “let’s wait and see”
Attitude. Also remember, OCD is attracted only to the things that mean the very most to you.. let that sink in!! ❤️

[Catz.in.hatz.]

Anybody else almost crying with relief

[adventureswithgeno]

My obsessive thoughts about my relationship are torturing me, but leaving her is the last thing I want to do because she’s the best partner I have ever been with. I’m holding onto hope

[MadManEtv]

if you're watching this please stay strong. I didn't figure it out quick enough and I left my girlfriend when things were great leaving us both broken. Now I know what it is I refuse to put her through the pain again. she deserves to be happy.

if you're still in a relationship, fight for it.

[Liv-gnuk]

I’m so terrified that my rocd and anxiety is going to drive my boyfriend away. Even though he says he’s never going to leave, my rocd makes me feel like he will at any moment.

[tendainjovu]

Wow, I feel so normal... I'm actually tearing up ...🌸

[ashleemcdaniel]

when you really think about it, it’s kinda hard not to laugh about it when you aren’t having the anxiety in the moment

[maverickmondala]

i hate how i’ve had meaningless relationships before and never had these thoughts. then i meet a boy that loves me and i actually love them and now there are times when i think these bad thoughts. like why him?! i finally meet a boy that really likes me and makes me feel good and i love him exactly the same. i just don’t want this to be the end of my first meaningful relationship 😢💔

[jessgrenier]

Thank you so much for exploring the topic of ROCD. I've been with my partner for 3 years now. They are the best. Patient, loving, caring and giving... I love them. I don't want to leave them. There are many hardships in life and I want to tackle them with this person by my side. But these doubts "Do i really love them?" "Am I lying to myself?" "I am a terrible person and taking advantage of this person"... They are horrible. They are sneaky and always come back. Learning about ROCD is life changing. Now i realise all those compulsions i've been doing and understand why they aren't helpful in the long time. "Seek uncertainty" really struck me. Thank you ❤

[alourajane]

This may or may not have just saved my relationship. Thank you!

[alamp]

I suffered with this years ago. It took me so long to find out I was suffering from OCD. I used to sleep just to avoid the anxiety and panic and suffering I felt when awake. SSRIs and working on my daily happiness and filling up my own cup really helped me, as well as exposure therapy as explained here. Now I don't suffer anymore. :)

[danibessette]

One thing that gives me comfort is knowing that...maybe this relationship isnt for me, or maybe it is. But even if its not the "right" relationship, that doesn't mean it has to end today or tomorrow. The whole point of dating is to get to know each other. It takes a while to really learn a new person. Sometimes you know within 6 months, but sometimes you may not break up for a couple years or more. Thats normal. You dont need to see the end result to enjoy the journey. True "security" doesn't come from knowing you will spend forever with someone. Security comes from taking care of yourself and knowing that if it doesn't work out, its not going to end your life. And who knows, maybe it will end up being absolutely fufilling.

Also, if you are obsessing about a partner too much, maybe thats a good time to call a friend and talk about something else. Or explore a hobby. There are healthy ways to take your focus off your partner. If its not gonna work out, you will know in time. But in the meantime you can enjoy other things. Obsessing over the outcome isnt going to change the pace of the process.

[idreamtadreamlastnight]

I have this. My therapist told me these thoughts are a form of OCD so it's nice to know I'm not going crazy. It's awful, they came out of nowhere, telling me "you don't love your partner" "you're lying to yourself" "you're fake and are hurting him by not breaking up with him". It's scary. OCD makes me doubt everything. We are long distance, have been together for a year (it's my first long-term relationship) and with covid my mental health has been awful. Every time I facetime him I feel safe, I know that I love him but when I'm alone, it's awful and the thoughts attack me. My therapist said that we are going to work on this and I really hope it will get better. Please, tell me it gets better. If I actually think of breaking up with him I feel awful and sad, so I know I shouldn't. I just want to be hugged by him. The rocd is very difficult to deal with...

[michelehaas]

My problem is that I have the feeling that everything I think and feel is real. I am convincing myself that I don't have rOCD and that my thoughts are real. I often think that it would be the right choice to break up but I always get this feeling of anxiety. Then I think, that I love him. But then I start to question it and think "maybe you're just too scared to break up, you don't want to hurt his feelings". I often am anxious and panicked and feel like I'm losing myself. I often think I don't love him and am completely numb, totally believing that I truly don't love him. But that will be later on followed up by anxiety. I can't feel very many positive emotions right now, I'm not even happy to see my friends anymore. Since I realised I was out of the honeymoon phase this started because of course the feelings have changed. And I've been questioning myself for over 1 month now and it hurts really badly. Sometimes I have moments of "realisation" where I don't feel any emotion and think "I don't love him anymore. I have to break up ". But shortly after I'm panicking again, falling into a hole of my thoughts etc. And I am crying a lot. It just feels so real, that I wouldn't love him anymore, even though there's no reason not to be anymore. Is that normal for rOCD?

[yeet-hcds]

you saying all the uncertainty exposing phrases made my heart just drop.. damn

[Smileysahana]

This man’s presence makes me feel so calm

[Garf]

This video is insanely helpful. I've been racking my brain with intrusive thoughts lately so this video couldn't have come at a better time. My partner and I have been together for 4 years and we're very open with my mental health as I've suffered from anxiety for much longer than our relationship. She is so supportive and really helps me with progressing past it.
Great video as always