OCD3: What is Relationship OCD (ROCD)?

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[SkulloMad]

"The idea of looking for love detracts from experiencing love"

Really needed to hear that.

[Kevintheconservative]

My girlfriend has ROCD and we've been together for almost 3 years and many years to come



(Update) We are now 4 years together ❤ And we are fighting the rocd With therapy.

THANK you all for the wonderful comments


Final update [i was catfished] it was never talking to her, I just wanted to say that make sure you guys are loyal to your partners. God bless you all ✝️

[dariakiruyshina]

Guys, please don’t you stop fighting! These thoughts are only the thoughts and your love is e real love and it’s your choice! Don’t listen to these silly voices in your head! You are more stronger! You are already won if you are here and watching these video! You are already won if you have a person who loves you by your side, you are already won because you are not giving up! I promise to you that it will pass, but please don’t you stop fighting, all my girlfriends who used to have this rocd are now happily married those guys! ROCD means only one: THAT YOU LOVE THIS PERSON SO MUCH AND YOU ARE AFRAID TO LOSE HIM! do not panic, you can’t imagine how strong you are! This will never break you and this shit will never influence on your amazing relationship! OCD is always opposite! Which means you will never do this if your brain plying this tricks with you! You deserve love, you deserve to be loved and you deserve all the best!

[NewYorkBattleCat]

Ppl think OCD is a joke about perfection.. They dont realise its... There u go i can't even finish the sentence cause i think it will make it worse. Enjoy your mental health.

[yasminbeatricebahaoui]

This fight is killing me. This feeling is horrible

[marycerda]

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. And for the past 2 months I’ve been obsessing over the thought of knowing for sure whether I do love my boyfriend or not because I’m basing it on feeling. Sometimes I believe I have rocd but I sometimes tell myself that I might just be making this up to convince myself that I do love him. This thoughts are sometimes so much that I breakdown and idk what to think anymore.

[elizabethgrant]

I was diagnosed with OCD a month ago, but I remember being a 6 y.o. girl with obsessions and compulsions. I remember I couldn’t go to bed because I had to do my compulsions over and over again. I cried and I couldn’t understand why I had to do it. I remember the compulsion that I had to do and it was kinda attempt to ‘shake off’ some bad things from myself (for example if I heard about disease/death or smth like that). I’ve got a neighbor -(lower floor) a very old man. And he died. I thought that he died because of me. I thought that my compulsions made him dead because I shook bad things off myself and hit him.
So it wasn’t a big new that I’ve got OCD. Due to this shit I lost my lover. So I want to tell you - don’t you stop fighting with this awful thing. Don’t you forget that love is a choice. Don’t let this shit ruin your life

[dianacortes]

I’m going to this exactly now. I cry all the time. I’m afraid of losing my partner (the best person I’ve ever met) for being obsessed with whether I live him enough or not. Previously I’ve had tremendously bad experiences with love, always been humiliated, victim of ill jealous and so. But the person I’m with now has nothing bad, just love, care, and so my h great things to Offer me. I feel miserable because deep inside I know I love him, but this thoughts come over and over again and had ruined the last 4 months of my life. Help me please I’m desperate

[theboogie_monsta]

Top Tip! ROCD doesn't just mean scrutinising your partner / relationship. It also can involve the obsessive avoidance of conflict, not being honest, trying always to present as DIFFERENT to how you actually think / feel. The way out can be to start identifying what's authentic for you, and doing that stuff consistently. If the relationship is meant to be, then it is not a problem. IF you start finding the relationship pinch / not working out, then time to move on and find someone better suited to your actual authentic self.

OCD evolves around repressed anger, a struggle expressing our spontaneous real emotions for fear of conflict. So if you have issues with ROCD, you're going to need to get better at conflict.

[caralangerman]

Well this man just called me out and I needed it

[wyattandwill]

Ahhh I love having Pure O so much. I sit there for hours trying to see if it's love or infatuation or lust and can never make my mind up. The truth is, we're in the early stages and we have to get to know each other if we'll ever fall in love. My views on things are very imaginary and like a movie; people can meet, fall in love, and die together in an hour and a half and it makes us forget that things take time.

[christie_quite_contrary]

I have been dealing with this for years!! I have OCD, scrupulosity and never knew this relationship preoccupation is recognized as a separate aspect of OCD. Thank you!!! This is so helpful.

[RachyNoodleNest]

I have terrible OCD but not how you'd think....I have the most terrible intrusive thoughts about medical things, to the point where they can make me faint.

I've been with my partner for 4 months and he's wonderful but ROCD has started. It's a deep doubt constantly in my gut yet all I want to do is love him, protect him and never leave his side. I have good and bad days...I haven't told him about this yet!

[รtค-jt]

Thanks for this. My partner has rocd, and I always want to be there for them. I want to encourage transparency and im trying to not take it personally.

[GuaranteedGames]

I had ROCD about 5 years ago. I saw a therapist at Dr Phillipson’s office and it was the greatest decision I ever made. I owe his practice and that dr that helped me my life. I was able to get to be my normal self and straighten other aspects of my life that were non ROCD and OCD related out. Thank you guys so much.

[reggiep]

I'm happy to have found out what was troubling me for so many of my late teen/adult years.

I already suffered with OCD/anxiety/depression from a young age developing into something a lot more problematic as I entered adulthood and with relationships I was full of doubt, self doubt and every anxious thought I could possibly conjure up bothered me.

Now I know it is called ROCD and is a verified subset of OCD, I need to read more about it and temper my illogical thoughts with more accepting and happier thoughts and make my girlfriend aware of it so she understands me to a better extent ans understand my endless catalogue of reluctance to push on to more happier and rewarding chapters of life.

Hopefully we'll all make it to a happier place and put our fears aside.

[thespansihbelle]

I can't express how much you have helped my 21 year old son. I suggested he look up videos and he found your video and he is seeking counseling. He now KNOWS the problem and can get help. I have OCD and so do my children and I am so grateful that OCD is now FINALLY being discussed and talked about. Our lives are being changed greatly now that more people are talking about OCD and is being accepted and treated. Thank you or posting your videos because I can say these things a, illion times but when my children research and see these videos they accept what I am telling them and again...I am so grateful. Not to mention some people can't afford care or are afraid. Thank you very much for taking the time to educate others. God bless always.

[zoeparker]

All I can say is thank you. Thank you so much

[shannonbear]

OMG yes i relate to this so freaking much . maybe this explains the fact why i was single my whole life, i mean yeah apart of my shyness and stuff, i'm just so obsessed with finding the "rightest" partner for me and obviously this is just impossible because this thought is OCD-driven . This also applies to my friendships . It's weird how just earlier today i got so sad because i thought my relationship with someone was coming to an end, and it was over the simplest things like not having smooth and good conversations for like 2 days . wow

[orionrodgers]

I currently just figured out I had ROCD. I was in a relationship for two years within those 2 years the breakup urges got the best of me I broke up with her 4 times. Toward the 4th breakup I learned more information and cognitive tools to help me. But I think she’s in a state of wanting to focus on herself. I wanna try again and I’ve told her that. After all that happened I don’t think she’s ready to do that again right now. I honestly still have hope it’s only been a month an a 1/2 since the complete split. Send your love man cause I miss her an wanna make this thing work.