Autistic Parenting Challenges & Tips - Feat @MomontheSpectrum

Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I'm joined by Tay from 'Mom on the Spectrum' to explore some of the biggest #autistic parenting challenges. Plus, we share our top hacks and personal lived experiences as #actuallyautistic people. #autism #asd #autisticadult #whatautismfeelslike

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[Isaiah-ftnx]

I had to choke down tears when you said “I shouldn’t have been a parent.”

[MomontheSpectrum]

ITS So fun collaborating with you, Orion. Thanks for all you do for the autistic community.

[kristenriley]

I literally cried during the convo about parenting being more challenging for autistic parents. For so long I wondered, what is wrong with me? When do I start to enjoy being a parent? This is wrecking my nervous system!

[ShellyDeBuhr]

I am a grandma with ADHD and Autism, 55, caring for 2of my grandsons -one age 7 diagnosed with ADHD (I’m am battling to get his
Autism diagnosis and one age 3 showing obvious signs.
This episode was incredibly validating- I’m in tears here because it seems nobody in my circle understands…….
Thank you both💜❤️💚

[alexustalkington]

This video has really made me feel so validated and has almost perfectly described why I've had such a hard time being a mom... Being a mom actually helped me realize that not only am I autistic, I have ADHD and cptsd as I'm sure most autistic people do... And having an undiagnosed autistic husband...and an autistic child who is only 17 months old and has exhibited signs since the day he was born, and just how frustrating it is that neurological people just... Don't... Get... It. So thank you guys very much for making this video, I can show it to my family and friends and hope that maybe they will start to understand just how much of a nightmare my daily life is now that I'm a parent.

[whitneymason]

Wait...is this a crossover episode?! I'm newly diagnosed this year at 30 and parent of 2 children, one with autism. Growing up I remember people calling me a baby, weak, or overly emotional. As a parent before diagnosis I felt how you did, Tay, questioning what I was doing wrong?! I agree with you both regarding the feeling of having to suppress my self regulation techniques when parenting. I tend to either shutdown or lash out and both I obviously can't do. Therapy has really helped me, that and you both are amongst my absolute favorite YouTubers and have been so so soooo helpful since getting my diagnosis. Many thanks for doing this collab, makes me feel less alone.❤️

[sueannevangalen]

I had an extremely emotional response when Orion was saying, "Maybe I shouldn't have become a parent." I think that almost every day, especially after self identifying as autistic (which didn't happen till our third child was about six months old). Would we have three kids if I'd known I'm autistic? It's a question that haunts me. The noise! The fighting and whining and meltdowns (our oldest was diagnosed autistic at age 2). When it comes to discipline, I don't know what I'm doing. I'm just making it up as I go. I don't know how to make my house less noisy. It helps me sometimes to take each child aside for a few minutes and stroke their hair and remember how happy I was when they were born. It helps to set aside time to just delight in them. Also, I think stroking their hair is a form of stimming for me. Not sure what I'm getting at. Thanks for talking about being an autistic parent to autistic kids.

[divinelotus]

Yes. I love what she said. That parents is mega mega hard. So damn hard. I cry. My husband is normal and he thinks it's easy. No, it's not. Everything you guys have said is 💯 me .
Thank you for this. I use my headphones daily now.

[jennifergauthier]

SO AMAZING to see and hear the two of you!!!! I felt so validated at so many points during the video😃A few that stand out the most for me, were screen time (THANK YOU, THANK YOU. So necessary, not a big deal), and feeling like you have to "control" your own autistic reactions to parent your kids. OMG, I love to sing and make noise and it drives my autistic son and ADHD daughter absolutely crazy!!! And, for the longest time, I felt so guilty that I would feel overwhelmed and frustrated and absolutely pushed to my limit by my autistic son. When I began to suspect that I was also autistic, it just fed my imposter syndrome, because I thought neurodivergents were supposed to all get along! 🙄 That was wonderful. Thank you so much, Tay and Orion!

[tanyatyrie]

I have been watching Orion Kelly's video's a wile and I am a big fan. I'm also a mum to a young child in my forties and its tough, but at least I know now that all I feel and have experienced so far is just normal. Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou.

[LisaAnnOberbrunner]

I seem to be autistic, and my son seems to have adhd. There are so many ways that I can relate to what both of you are saying. Thank you.

[somethingfromnothing]

As my children has started to get bigger and louder i have found it harder to cope with. When my wife isnt home and im left home alone with the kids for the day i try and get them to play on their xbox or watch tv to keep themselves entertained but the arguing and bickering inevitably starts and i cant cope with the loud noises. My wife was due to go away for a full week with a uni trip and leave me home with the kids and we were both dreading it until thankfully it was cancelled due to covid. It really hurts my self esteem knowing that because of my autism i am not capable of parenting without the support of my wife and knowing that if anything ever happened to my wife whilst the kids are still young, that i wouldnt be able to cope alone. I suspect my son also has autism, one of the things he does is to have an immediate extremely loud meltdown whenever we say no to him. When he starts having a meltdown the noise triggers my sensitivity to noise and makes me feel overwhelmed like im going to have a meltdown. My instant reaction has become to give in to his screaming and give him whatever he wants just so he’ll stop screaming and i think he’s also learning that that is what he has to do to quickly get his own way. When my wifes home its easier because i can walk away from the situation to stop my own meltdown but when my wifes at work and im home alone its very hard to get through just a day as a lone autistic parent

[ElizabethLovesFitness]

I can completely relate to having times when my brain feels broken/fried from an over stimulating day. I will ask my daughter to watch tv or read so I can decompress by vegging out or having my own quiet time.

[HeatherLandex]

I'm protective of my stuff. I'm not a fan of playdates either but as a kid I loved playing in other peoples houses.

[relentlessrhythm]

I'm not a parent myself but am an autistic woman who a teacher assistant (two year olds) and one of my students is also autistic. My aide often has me take him to a quieter place since I get him (this makes me happy!). I sometimes get overestimulated by his echolalia so I start stimming echolalia style myself!

[Everloveme]

I really appreciate this video and these tips. My oldest kiddo is neurodivergent and so am I. We are both in the midst of new diagnoses. But my oldest has been calling himself stupid a lot lately and I just don't understand where it came from. But I do notice it more when he is disciplined. When someone is upset with his actions.

And on the parent side I just haven't been able to find the right way to teach him and help him. As well as balance my own needs.

[MyFisher]

newly diagnosed at 48 october 2021 learning lots love your videos

[LASmith-]

👏 my two favourites together. Dream team x

[brittanyorapello]

This is an awesome video I'm saving this to watch it better another time

[thatgirl]

Wow this video is amazing!
Thank you so much to both of you for making it happen and for being so open with us ❤