Helping Parents and Therapists Cope with Autism Spectrum Disorder | Susan Sherkow | TEDxYouth@LFNY

Dr. Sherkow will talk today on helping parents and therapists understand and cope with Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Dr. Susan P. Sherkow is a practicing child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist trained at Tufts University School of Medicine, Albert Einstein College of Medicine, and the New York Psychoanalytic Institute. She is currently the Director of The Sherkow Center for Child Development and Autism Spectrum Disorder.

[headsofaruptheassandlovini]

I am a 42 autistic man and going to give the best advice for parents, friends, loved ones about autism.  Don't ever let a person with autism be around to many people who are evil or stupid.  From Dr.s, schools, most age groups to jobs, do not allow it.  Always seek smart people, family-oriented parents,  and more caring people from all walks of life.

[angabluewellness]

The spectrum works like this...
WHEN YOU HAVE SEEN ONE, YOU HAVE NOT SEEN THEM ALL.
They are all different.

[cherishrake]

I have multiple children on the spectrum and felt like I finally understood my kindergartner today and how she has been introducing herself and saying that today is her first day of kindergarten all year.

[vulpixfairy]

I work in childcare and I never caught the signs of autism in my now turning 7 year old son, but my colleagues at work did. The diagnosis shook me but it answered so many questions to his behaviour. Delayed language, some difficulty in emotional regulation and processing some social situations and fixation in spinning things. But on the other side, he loves connecting with people, loves hugs and cuddles, loves his Pokémon, Anna and Elsa, his soft toys and his trains and marble mazes and processes new things quite quickly. He’s considered on the lower end of the spectrum but the support of his OT and SP during his Telehealth sessions really really help and having understanding teachers also help. I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world.

[clararaimundi]

I lashed out at my now teen daughter because I felt she never knew what to do, even though I had explained so many times already. She seemed normal. I never suspected she had an issue. No one at school thought she had a terrible issue, they just said she was being a child. Things didn't make sense to her. I am now working on repairing our relationship. She is still very angry at me. All the love I didn't give because I wanted her to stop pretending not to understand. If I had known then....

[adrialee]

Thank God for the relationship and bond me and my five yr old son have. Hes non verbal autistic and some things are hard but hes affectionate and loving and our bond is so strong.

[gumoak]

"Doesn't allow them to develop."
Oh, dear.

[masonallridge]

The one thing I wish I that I could see my male 18 year old Autistic actions, emotions, interactions from my mom’s, my 2 best friends, my friends parents, who absolutely love me, perspectives. That’s all I want. And I try with my own mom but it feels impossible. I can’t tell you how many arguments we’ve had and it’s always ended with her saying, “You’re acting Autistic again.”
And I tell ya, being an Autistic kid who’s just trying, and failing, to help you see his point of view, I guarantee you that I will never feel as angry as I did in those moments. Being reminded you’re different is not the right thing to say in even the best situations. I feel so lost.

[dianewiegel]

My 28 year old son is reading, Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's
by John Elder Robison, and getting his first assessment for this. He is super smart, developed normally, liked snuggles, was an A+ student and not until high school did we see his difficulty looking with social interactions. Through some self reflection on my part and his part, he is on a better track now to get some coping tools for social interactions.

[cafeconlechegrl]

The stress and anxiety made me sick…😢😢😢😢😢 My family don’t care… What advice do you have for mothers that have health issues and trying to raise autistic child?

[mkhan]

My son has been diagnosed with mild to moderate Autism. Now that I'm back in his life I intend to do the best for my son in terms of his social & educational development. Let's see what happens. Chin up.💪😇

[heryzo-prdk]

I love the perspective. Thank you for sharing. As a dad of a 15y.o autistic son, I'm searching for resources helping dads to help more develop their autistic kid/teenage

[TobychaserTobychaser]

It's been hard to find good content on understanding autism. So much of it is rambling on about whatever but this was good, thank you.

[marymurphy]

What is it always parents and therapist talking to other parents and therapists about how to deal with us. I've been asking this question since I first started to research autism and what it meant about me in the 5th grade and now I'm 22. Not much has changed. I realize this video is 6 years old, but still...

[anonymouse]

I have PTSD, a son with ASD and ADHD. And on top of that I have a thyroid condition that affects my emotions in random ways.
Stress makes my health worse, my health affects my ability to regulate my mood, my mood affects my ability to manage my son's autism. I feel so alone in my situation with no support, no one to notice that I need help too.
I feel so lost as a mother and a person 😩

[lostindisorder]

Does anyone know what can help reduce that high pitch buzz/ringing when the video is playing? (Windows)

[Chris-hymv]

I have 2 boys 19 and 22 who both have been diagnosed with autism. My youngest has gone manic to the point of not going to sleep for 2 or 3 days then will crash for a couple of hours then wakes up once again. Both my kids are non verbal. Can anyone offer advice?

[scottsegan]

i have mild autism and im so weeiirrdd! everyone at school says it and i just wanna be a lil' more normal. im also very sensitive, if someone points out something i did wrong i burst into tears for some reason. also it's very hard to focus in the classroom, so i get bad grades and all my friends have good grades. i used to have a friend who was super weird like me and we got along very well. sadly i moved schools. oh, now im just ranting about my life haha. also i come off as rude to people and i dont know why :(. i try to be nice but it ends up sounding mean so i dont make a lot of friends. i also dont think she knows what se is talking about because autistic people arent always angry i had an autistic friend and he was siz at the time i knew him. he was very sweet and he always liked giving hugs and greeting everyone.

[annak]

This may describe SOME presentations of autism, but definitely not the full range of possibilities. Not all autistic kids are aversive toward physical connection and affection. They are super loving, sweet, clingy, and have very close bonds with their mothers. These are the ones who have difficulty separating for going to school, have difficulty making friends bc they expect the same physical and emotional affection from kids that they get from their mothers. They think peers don't like them if they don't receive the attention and affection from peers that they get from their mother. So they live in a constant perceived state of rejection by peers, when it's not actually peer rejection, it's the autistic child's inflexibility and errent social expectations.

A psychiatrist would naturally have this bias, as these are the ones who are "problematic" at home and come to her office for help.

[samanthaeaston]

Great info. Speaker is stimming from side to side as she delivers this awesome speech.