How to Discipline a Child with Autism

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Kate shares tips on disciplining a child with special needs.

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[legendr]

Just wanted to let everyone know you are amazing. It's hard being a parent in general but parents of autistic children are beyond strong and amazing. I know it's hard. I know that most of us have no village. I know it's hard. Stay strong 💪🥰

[mariairwin]

Thank you. This video was what I needed to hear. I struggle saying no to my non verbal autistic son but i needed a reminder that sometimes it’s okay.

[thereseward]

I'm a foster mom with an adult with autism. The first year there were many melt downs. I learned some melt downs were because I spoke too much which overwhelmed my foster daughter. I learned when I'm upset (teenager in house) my foster daughter absorbed my tension and acted out so I learned to calm myself before interacting with her. I learned that any kind of exercise or motion calms my foster daughter. After a death of a family member - we walked daily. We listened to calming ocean sounds and heart beat sounds - a sound machine helped. When hands were used to hit things - after she was calm Ikissed her hands and gently stroked the top of her hand 1 to 3 times and said "hands are for love- we touch gently"
Out of frustration I would also have a short meltdown then say - I need a time out.
Or - I need to ... breath
I would speak out the feeling - I see you are upset or I see you are sad..

[angelakalmer]

You didn't answer the question. You just said it was ok to tell them "no". How do you get them to stop doing a bad behavior? Just tellthem "No" doesn't alway work! Especially when they're tired, hungry or upset for any other reason. A boy in our day care hits other children. He's going to be around loud noises. That not something that can always be avoided. So, how do you stop them from acting out their frustrations on another child?

[TJayne-zyyu]

I suggest all parents read "The Reason I Jump" wrote by Naoki Higashida, a 13 year old autistic boy. This book has been invaluable in understanding my son's behaviour and the way his brain works. It reads like an interview where he explains what goes through his mind when he blurts things out in a loud voice or why he stims etc. Its quite sad in parts too as its such a true account of how much work it takes for him to navigate & function in a neurotypical world. I struggle with my son’s behavioural daily but this book has shown me that no matter how tough things are for me, its far tougher for him❤

[aruvielevenstar]

My autistic adult child (27) is now in his puberty it seems and doesn’t acknowledge his diagnoses anymore, is very agressive and very difficult. Every day a huge tantrum, we are exhausted and don’t know what to do anymore. He doesn’t want to take his pills anymore, makes every room a mess and doesn’t listen to us. Demolish our things and has no empathy. Because he is an adult we can’t do anything. He has to put his signature under everything ( like a home care or guidance or treatment etc) and he refuses, because he thinks he is normal.
We don’t know what to do, we are getting older and things are getting worse and we are exhausted 😢

[belledamer]

Being undiagnosed for years and with corporal punishment caused confusion in my young adult life with what was love and what was pain. For anyone who happens to pass by in the comment section, never use corporal punishment on any child.

[mandylisamarie]

I don't have a village. It's just me. The noting of what time of day, what happened before etc was actually pretty insightful. I'm going to try it when my non verbal autistic son is aggressive. Please do a follow-up vid with more detailed methods on handling aggressive behaviors frm non verbal children. 🙏 Even trial and error suggestions would be appreciated. 🙏

[celeste]

Umm, click bait if I've ever seen it! You gave no advice whatsoever!

[jackv]

Thanks I didn't learn a thing from this

[Owen_]

I have some things to say about this.

When you said “it’s ok to tell your kid no” I’m like, Isint that necessary for discipline? I am autistic myself Especially as From an early age I’ve not just been told no, but I’ve been set straight on how I should treat people with respect, and know boundaries and face fears head on, it may take a little longer for me to get to where I am (I’m 21 rn and still learning) but I still am where I’m at to be like my peers/colleagues are. Every child needs discipline to become who they want to be, even if they don’t like it, they need it to grow. Punishments (within reason, yes) need to be set, and depending on the severity of the issue, make sure you are firm with it. I’m saying this cause I’m still learning a lot as a young man. There are some things my parents don’t believe in with punishments but they did believe in things that helped me get to where I am today.

[lubystkaolamonola]

You discipline your child with autism the same way as you do with normal children. Sooner the better. You cannot be afraid of meltdowns. Any child, autism or not, must know basic rules like hands to your self, use your voice properly, clean after yourself etc. And if long lecture does not work, administer discipline manually. A spanking never hurt anyone (it is not the same like beating). Your goal is for a child to be afraid of misbehaving again in same way. If you want your child not to hurt anybody, he or she must be afraid of consequences of such acts.

[ketsiamoreau]

My son keeps breaking all the screens in my house. He finds a cord swings it on the screen until it cracks. He broke his tv, mine and now he broke my phone. Each time I explain to him that he shouldn’t do that, limit screen time and send him to his room for a few minutes. He just laughs. He is nonverbal but he understands clearly.

[RitaRita-grdo]

What was the point of this video? You talked a lot but said nothing - just pointless....

[Sagatta]

What a Lovely lady with a great explanation!

[zeenasaleh]

This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior

[smyrnasstory]

And no resident will say: “I am sick.”

[Prettylightskim]

I'M SO DONE WITH THIS!!!! I JUST WANT TO DIE

[mayathecollie]

YOU DONT KNOW ANYTHING YOU NEVER KNEW WHAT WE GO THROUGH

[billdec]

Audio is not even close to 10% of the commercial sound.