How to deal with someone who is interested in you but already has a girlfriend/boyfriend!

The question you have to ask is why doesn't he/she break up with his significant other to be with me? If he really likes me, that is what he would do! Sure, unless he is a player. How to handle a guy/girl like this!

[ilovetruffles]

Never be The Other Woman. Just wait. My sister in law met my brother when he was with his second gf, and she thought he was cute but didn’t pursue him at all. A few months later he broke up with that girl, and they got together and four months later were married. Things always work out when they’re supposed to. Don’t worry, make good choices.

[amandabanks]

You ignore them and walk away. If they'll cheat on them. They'll cheat on you. Bad character.

[marcycat]

The side girl shouldn't even be asking what should I do. She needs to have more integrity than the player.

[Gldwaves]

such bad advice that you can be friends.. no ofcourse not. you should not settle for less. you are worth more than that. It will only hurt that you cannot have them. leave.

[soldieroffreedom]

yea, you're right, and that's what I did, no more flirting, no more smiling sweetly at him. I'm done until he makes his decision.

[brightbite]

Take it from me, you can't even be friends with a guy who is already in a relationship or married. If you have the slightest interest in him, and you have the slightest crack in your will, he will breach your boundaries- and you might just let him. Save yourself the trouble.

[balddate]

....Establishing and having boundaries is very important in any type of relationship....dont cheat, stay out of any triangulation situation, and be prepared to be alone if possible....

[patriciaspeicher]

Great advice ladies!! This can happen at any age too. Set yourself "free" of this player. He is not worth you giving him the time of day. I learned this late in life. He is not worth it(you)!

[mariedubuque]

SS, have nothing to do with him!!! He is not worth it. If he is not willing to leave his partner for you, he is not worth it! Your self esteem will be affected. And honestly, I would leave your boyfriend too. Start fresh. It can't be a good relationship, if you feel the need to cheat. Get rid of all the emotional baggage, and you will meet someone really great, and be glad you got out of the situation you are in now.

[lina-kqiw]

is actually better to be single than to have a bf. :-(

[lovelikethislove]

This was such a hard pill to swallow. =, / But, thank you Marie for speaking the truth!

[AUUnboxer]

Marie I think this can happen in the workplace especially amongst shift workers. Someone that is attached can be spending more time with you at work and in social situations if your partner is always on conflicting timetables to you. One thing leads to another and it becomes like an interested crush thing.

[mariedubuque]

TheKatalicious17, yes definitely! Get your career going first, absolutely. Otherwise you might end up resenting your spouse for squashing your dreams. You don't know if you will end up having to move, or go back to school. Once you're more settled, then you can commit to someone and feel good about it. And it's OK not to know what you want to do. Talk to different people, research your options. Often, spending many years in school does not lead to a better job. Ex:Medical tech training is great.

[ShaliiynSki]

Marie you are so amazing honestly you're like a life coach for relationships 100% and you must be really good with people :)

[Sisssten]

Thank you, Marie. I've left my boyfriend already, couldn't handle it anymore. And I'll try to stop thinking about the friend too (I haven't even heard from him since me and my boyfriend broke up, so I guess your'e right about him)... I'm gonna let go of everything now! Thank you, you truly are my mentor in life <3

[joshuaarvizu]

Really needed to hear this. Have a crush on an unavailable girl who has been giving me some signals on one end but not doing anything about on the other end (she’s engaged to one of my best buds of course).

So what should I do? Like she said, nothing. Nothing at all. Truth is she is playing some games to make herself feel better and I won’t be some pawn in that, and that gives me a lot of clarity. And I’m not going to give it any more of my time and energy.

[sheilastevens]

Don't date someone who is GOING to break up with someone because you could be the someone next that they are going to break up with for someone else. Just saying!

[mariedubuque]

Kawaii, let her have him!! You can do much better!! Remember, demand to be number one in someone's life, always.

[stacyrensburgoliver]

The one I like is engaged 😂…. But I respect other people so much I’m letting it go.

[tolivich]

Im gonna listen to this alll day all night