Coming Back After Failure & The Primal Question That Motivates Your Life | With Mike Foster

Mike Foster joins Carey to talk about how to tell when it's time to leave your job, coming back after public failure, and finding the question that's motivating your life as he unpacks 7 primal questions that drive all human behavior.

Mike Foster discusses the importance of understanding our primal questions - the core emotional needs that drive our behaviors. Foster identifies seven primal questions, such as "Am I safe?" and "Am I loved?" He explains that understanding our own and others' primal questions can help us better understand and support them. Foster suggests that leaders should be aware of their team members' primal questions to effectively motivate them.

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Intro Music:
Song: Alexey Anisimov - Always Be Beautiful
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Chapters
0:00:00 - Are you answering your employee's primal question?
0:00:30 - Welcome to the Podcast
0:02:16 - Entrepreneurial Shifts
0:08:30 - Signs You Should Make a Career Change
0:20:00 - Dealing with Public Failure
0:24:30 - 7 Primal Questions
1:03:00 - Using Primal Questions to Build Relationships

[caryvaldes]

This episode with Mark Foster was fantastic

[boblee]

Carey this was excellent. Thanks for bringing Mike onto the podcast.

[anithaabraham]

Another great interview with so many life-giving takeaways! I need to get this book. Thank you Carey!

[gracelin]

I love all your podcast episodes and as a pastor, I deeply appreciate the insight I gain from your conversations with guests. This episode was a mixed bag for me as an Asian American who remembers what happened with his "public failure". While there were aspects of the episode that were helpful, I did find it hard to receive in general because of the fact that the guest seemed more defensive of what happened to him than truly owning his part in it. The words "one person" (as if it were just one person who was offended by their lack of understanding of Asian culture and imagery used in their book that perpetuated Asian stereotypes) and being "misunderstood" show a lack of remorse for what happened and even some "victimization" that I sensed from his narrative. I'm glad he was able to bounce back from it and publish books and start a company even after this "public failure", but I encourage him to share more about the journey he went on to a place of healing and not repeat the same mistake (hopefully learning about Asian American history beyond Bruce Lee's bio).

Regardless, I'm grateful for the work you do, Carey. It is truly an encouragement to me in my ministry.

[timepray]

That was really wrong Carey what happened to you when you were 23 years old with that terrible boss who was mean rude and took away that beautiful leadership spirit that you had as a young man, shame on him! You are awesome. May God heal you of that and many other things that have happened in your life. Thank you for all that you are doing today, I actually was more curious about the moral failure although I know Mike didn’t want to get into it that much but that is more interesting to me since a lot of the things he says is about skill building and that’s great but I think it’s in the areas that we have trauma which Are the greatest life lessons, and yet it is one of the hardest things to heal from and talk about. I do thank for Mike’s honesty in the sexual abuse that has happened in his life and sharing that definitely helps other people who can relate to him to have the courage to speak up as well!