7 Signs They Are 'THE ONE'

How can we KNOW if someone is the right partner for us? Regardless of whether we're seriously dating someone or thinking about marriage, there are certain traits that NEED to be present in them and in ourselves in order to ever have a successful relationship. These are those traits.

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[tinkerbell]

1. safety
2. trust, respect (you and your boundaries), kindness (and vulnerable sharing)
3. integrity (personal accountability, no secret keeping, apologies without excuses)
4. shared values, compatibility (religion, politics, kids, inlaws, money, sharing chores, ...)
5. empathy (ability to see the world through he other's eyes)
6. interested in growth, healing and emotional maturity (open to working on it if things get tough)
7. friend

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Sending this to my husband, not because he does anything wrong, but to tell him he's amazing and does a lot of these already. Hi husband if you see this 👋

[mr_queso]

I’m 17 and am trying to prepare myself to be a good partner for when I actually find somebody, and these videos have been so eye opening.

[katherinebraithwaite]

This is not just romantic relationships, it also helps a lot with parent/child relationships. Listening, being empathetic, taking responsibility for behaviour, showing mutual respect- it all matters with every relationship in life.

[roxyndra]

“Love, love, is a *verb, * love is a _doing_ word..”
- Massive Attack, Teardrop

[LaurieGo]

After losing my partner of decades ( this week was the second anniversary of his passing), I’m gauging how ready I am to move on. And then I found you. My marriage was not perfect but it was damn good and I started listening to you to figure out what we got right, how we did that, and what we could have done better. After hours of listening, it has been illuminating. I miss him so! But he would be right there, cheering me on. This particular video has been enormously helpful in clarifying my thoughts. I downloaded it so I can revisit it frequently. Wish me well. I have every intention of making lightening strike twice.

[justinaadk]

2:07 There is no One
4:10 Safety
6:43 Trust
9:13 Kindness
11:54 Integrity
15:05 Shared values
17:34 Empathy
20:38 Growth & Counselling

[myrnaalexander]

As a marriage /family therapist of 52 years, I love the vital ingredients of healthy relationships of which Jimmy speaks! His message is so significant to the viability of a healthy relationship; his talk has so many pearls of wisdom! This man is so right on!

[janetttyminski]

Having been divorced twice, I knew there were deficits in our relationships but I thought love would see us through. Love simply is not enough. This is an exceptional video that all couples should watch before deciding to marry.

[estherufuomaenejeta-eroh]

....Love doesn't make the difference, how you love is what makes the

[tainara]

He's like the best friend we all should have found years ago but we're still grateful we found him recently

[CupcakeChan]

This man just gave me a whole free therapy session 😭😭

[krystleklarity]

@10:15 100% Why my last relationship failed. He would pay attention to his phone over me then want affection after ignoring me. IF I had the audacity to mention feeling snubbed, he went into victim mode, every time. I learned not to share my feelings and he never asked about them. In the 3.5 yrs we were together I do not remember him starting a conversation 1x. It was always me, and after the first 1.5 yrs all attemps to communicate that I felt unsafe sharing my feelings, were always met with defensiveness, projection and accusation. So I stopped trying to communicate. The last 7 months were beyond toxic. "Relationships die in the conversations that were never had." So much truth. Thank you Jimmy. There is a lot of good guidance here.

[jointedlegs]

My boyfriend and I are planning to get married but I’m increasingly frustrated with him. I realised after listening to you that he lacks kindness, empathy, and frequently blame-shifts (accusing me back when I’m upset w him until he makes me cry), becomes defensive, and gives me the silent treatment when we have a conflict. I’m increasingly getting very weary trying to teach him how to be emotionally mature. He says he’s trying to change and grow. But I’m not sure if I should continue this…so tired of this recurrent behaviour…

[kimrhea]

The boundaries are important and this is so spot on. I'm tired of feeling unimportant and devalued.

[judithvillegas]

Your video came in a perfect time. I’m thinking of leaving a two year relationship. He’s actually a great guy and has grown so much. I’ve even sent him some of your videos and watched them. Truth is, he still is inconsistent in making me a priority. His promises just seem empty words now. He’s a nice man, but isn’t ready for loving me how I want to be loved.

Thank you for saying “how” your loved is important.

[maxguntaniii]

Oh gosh. I didn't realize that I have so much to improve on how I treat my partner. Over the years with my partner, I've become a better person and this made me feel that it's never too late to change. I've started looking into myself more evaluating if it's me. I can attest that there's so much more to a relationship than love, and both should work to keep the relationship a safe place for both. Thank you for this wonderful video!

[AtpeaceMakita]

Jimmy: "go thru a fake fight, map it out, where does it go wrong? Try to re-correct it before it you go into the next one..."

What a wonderful exercise! Love and appreciate your perspectives💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[janetryan]

The "One" to me is someone who supports me in creating a safe, loving space to express how we feel and how to help each other get our needs met to the best of our ability. Now if I could just meet my "One". 😊

[SoulGlowHealing]

This is so packed full of good points. I can see why my ex partner and I were not working. We each wanted to change one another and did not admire one another