confidence is uncomfortable

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[inayah]

hi everybody <3

I cannot thank you enough for all of the love! We are truly on this journey together and I am so grateful for your kindness and support ❤️

Let me know what else you’d like to hear me ramble about in the future 💐

[JuliannaHigginss]

I live by this motto “discomfort is the potential for more comfort” and it has changed me life.

[naomim.]

I love when random small youtuber videos pop up on my feed and the video is so good

[GabrielleNozil]

I miss when YouTube pushed out all different kinds of small creators to the forefront, I love thisss

[setoki]

I heared the quote "to become the person you want to be, you need to build up evidence for yourself, that you are that person". For example, if you want to become an clean person then think about ways to improve cleaniness of yourself and your surrounding and the more you clean and think about it, the more you will actually become a clean person.

[mijni]

Being a painfully self-aware and self-conscious person who has a vision but not the confidence, I feel this. Thank you.

[chelogarcia]

this is the format i miss. just sitting down naturally doing things not all the music effects and animations and crazy transitions and editing. just human to human. thank you

[julianamattson]

Once you start to practice the confidence, your passions start to make themselves known stronger and you can fully breathe them in. The passion and compassion you're exhaling in this video is beautiful <3

[amberhouchen]

i know im late to this video but i cannot even begin to describe how much this changed my perspective. especially when you said, "know that that vision and that version of yourself is you, or else you wouldn't have been able to create it." this just made me feel so much more confident in myself and i have the motivation again to strive for my dream goals. thank you so much, genuinely.

[bexiexz]

this visual vibe is perfect for my eyes

[theabyss]

It's so hard to hold confidence at the same time as being sensitive to your feelings, like the moon and the sun

[Vix-nboh]

soo important to talk about this!! confidence is a CHOICE it is not bestowed upon you naturally

[tayalashae]

this felt so kind, genuine and resonated well. most self help videos are lowkey condescending and have a “if your life sucks it’s your fault” vibe 😅

[helenarosno]

trusting yourself is a big one. the ONLY reason i start to doubt myself is when other people butt into my life and start giving advice that i didn't ask for lmao.

[schleepyzo]

i think the biggest stepping stone into being confident is realizing that self love and self respect are two different things. to be okay in your self, you have to not let people walk over you or put yourself in situations where you feel ‘loved’ but with side effects. once you respect yourself, even if you’re insecure this gets you in the mentality of not letting people waste your time and finding people who actually enjoy you and your presence.

[benjachoper]

bro i love the quality of the camera plus the letters font plus her style plus shes making flowering while speaking facts

[AwesomeeCrew]

Thank you. I’ve been in a depressive slump for the past 2 almost 3 years. Haven’t updated my wardrobe or thing, felt terrible about myself, lost friends, self sabotaged, and wanted to just die. Watching this video and another lovely older woman’s has made me decide to take the first steps into my new life. Fear has taken over me completely, but I’m gonna use this to help it no longer run my life and start living again.

[devidocs]

I really needed to hear everything that was said in this video 😭 here are some things I noted down in my journal
- there is someone waiting to look up to you
- the world is waiting for you to do all the things that only you can do
- "everyone is stupid and I just decided not to be"
- you are on the right path and going backwards is only going to be way more uncomfortable than going forward and making it (my personal note)
- people need an example and there are so many people who are in the same situation as you and they need you to do what you need to
- you are that person and you have that vision for a reason
- it is worth it
- everybody is going through the same thing it's just a matter of who is good at combatting it and who is consistent with being uncomfortable
- pave the way ❤

[yuriplisetsky]

thank you for this!
i also want to add: the way you talk about yourself, whether it's a "joke" or not, also can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. i used to make a lot of self-degrading jokes (like, "oh, i made a tiny mistake, i'm the worst person in the world"), and it didn't do anything good for me. even though i was never completely serious when i said things like that, it still impacted me in really small ways.
after a while i shifted to self-uplifting jokes (where, for example, if i messed up when cooking something, i'd call myself the best chef in the world), and while it was still sarcastic, i saw a huge boost in confidence in myself after making that shift.
i think i started doing this because of something i read a long time ago (but i don't completely remember), so i'm passing on this tip to hopefully help someone who still might be struggling with something of this nature :)

(btw, did watch the whole video! beautiful arrangement at the end <3)

[DlES-IRAE]

I'm a 28 year old guy and this video was really moving. It really matches many processes and changes I am and have been experiencing lately.

After 4 years of therapy I have come to a point in my life, where, for the very first time, I can look at myself in the mirror and say 'hey, I like you, I think, I can maybe even love you' without cringing and feeling like a joke, like a liar and an impostor. What you say is so true, it is a long journey of reinforcing yourself in the smallest things, over and over and over again until it starts sounding believable. I look back on so much pain and hurt, feeling worthless and inadequate, unable to acknowledge my own value, beauty and competence.

Since I was a little child I have treated myself with disdain and put myself down whenever I didn't meet the expectations I projected onto everyone and everything around me. For me it was an essential step to deconstruct the relationship with my parents, especially with my father, to realize how my own system of beliefs about myself was formed. The things you laid out so beautifully and empathically in this video, alongside with a few years of therapy and ultimately confronting my parents on the role they played in me forming very hurtful and dysfunctional ways of interacting with myself and the world around me finally led me to a point where I can actually catch a glimpse of me as a beautiful being worthy and deserving of unconditional love, both from myself and from others.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. I can only encourage everyone to listen closely. You might feel like there is such a long journey ahead of you, but every little step will get you closer and closer and before long you might realize that even if you're not exactly where you want to end up, you've already come such a long way. You can do it! I didn't believe I would ever be able to believe in myself, but here I am, actually starting to do so. Not every day, not in every situation, but every day a tiny bit more.
❤❤