My Advice for Sensitive People

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What does it mean to be a sensitive person, or even a highly sensitive person? How can we make sure to take good care of ourselves as sensitive people, and do the things we need to feel happy and healthy? What makes us different, what are our gifts, our strengths, and how can we deal with things when the world feels overwhelming? That's what today's video is going to be about. :)

Lots of love,
🌼 Vera

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VIDEO CHAPTERS
Sensitivity 0:00
Dealing with strong emotions 1:22
Being overstimulated easily 4:23
Setting boundaries with others 8:04
The best environment for sensitive people 9:53
Wishing more people were considerate 11:20
When loved ones are in trouble 12:43
Day to day life tips 14:21
Exercise as a HSP 15:29
Sensitivity in our partner 16:17
Being sensitive as a man 17:18
HSP as a superpower 18:29
Feeling less than others 20:14

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[tracyrupp]

As an INFJ, an introvert and an HSP, I'm finally, at the ripe age of 64, realizing that the world needs us. We are the ones who think before speaking. We need the movers and shakers, but we also need those of us who contemplate. The world is better for our existence.

[gretchendoyle]

When I was a child, my great-grandmother told another relative that I was the shyest, quietest child she had ever come across in her 80 years. In college, one of my best friends would always tell me, and everyone around us, that I have “delicate constitution, ” but not in an understanding way. It’s definitely hard to embrace these things as being ok, or even good, when most of the world doesn’t see it that way.

[alexandraalmeida]

Being sensitive or highly sensitive is the best! We can see the subtle things that most miss out on, we can appreciate our alone time, when everyone craves for socializing all the time; we can drink a simple cup of tea as if we’re drinking a nectar; we receive a wild flower as if we had been gifted with a diamond; we smell the sea as the best perfume in the world.... And I could go on, but I’m just going to add that I love to eat the simplest thing in the world as if I were eating caviar: a cheese sandwich!
I’ve always set my boundaries, since I was a child: I don’t like crowds, too much noise, artificial light, confusion or people talking at the same time. And if anyone doesn’t understand me or makes fun, I step away. I prefer to be alone to be with someone that doesn’t get me.
I hear too that I’m missing out on many things! GREAT! I want to miss out on noise, loud conversations, unhealthy environments and uninteresting conversations. I’m happy in my simple home, with my simple shells, my simple drifted wood and my simple dried leaves. I’m happy with my simple art journaling and my simple slow stitching.
I do love to travel BUT I always go to bed early no matter if the others find it strange. I don’t care if they find me strange! People find strange that I love broken shells. I am not able to explain them that I see that as scars, as stories they can tell, as travels in the ocean... so if they don’t understand, I just keep quiet and do not share.
Being sensitive is appreciating others, ourselves and our amazing earth, so, yes, it’s an awesome way of being ❤️💙💛💚🖤💜💗🧡♥️

[rufinareyman]

My YaYa passed last month and talking with her family, they struggle to understand why she was the way she was. I sent this video to them. Since I found your You Tube Channel I have come to better understand myself but also how to help others to understand me without judgements. I had my husband watch one of you videos and after he looked up at me and said, “ This is how it is for you? I never understood. I’m sorry!” It was a wake-up call for him and after 20 yrs he no longer talks to me in the same way. He asks if I need time alone or in the quiet. I’m so Grateful to you. So blessed to have found you here. Thank you. In my book your AMAZING! ❤❤❤❤

[lunastefanieroy]

When I was a little girl, my mom would tell my sister to be gentle with me because I "had a fragile heart that broke easily".Thank you for this video! <3

[SK-]

I'm an extroverted, outspoken, chaotic HSP. Its been rough but I've learned a lot of ways to adapt. These videos are a helpful addition. Thank you.

[onimendez]

Yes Vera, we are the ones whose eyes swell up with tears at the sight of something beautiful, whether that be in nature, art, music, other people's suffering.
We are the ones who take nothing for granted and give gratitude for things others may consider "insignificant ".
Thank you as always for your lovely and helpful comtent.

[francineh.]

I would never trade my empathic abilities no matter how difficult it can sometimes be...and I chose that word 'abilities' on purpose as I feel us highly sensitive people are here on this world for a reason. Most of us are the artists, the environmentalists, the social workers, the writers, etc. of this world and we all have our places in it. The things I've learned is to put an 'energetic barrier' around myself before I leave my house if I know I'm going to be going into a challenging environment. I'll also wear one of my crystals or keep a tiny stone or little tiny piece of a branch in my pocket that I can touch to keep 'grounded.' And after, to recover, I'll need to be in nature - having bare feet on the ground helps immensely. I once dated a guy who told me I was "too sensitive" so I broke up with him a week later and said he wasn't sensitive enough haha.

[myrnarenoud]

What a blessing you are for so many people! I’m 73 and I’ve always been sensitive and I have learned to be quite happy by living my life the very best I can! Of course, age has given me a lot of knowledge about what’s important but each one of us are unique and we should embrace and feel confident in how we were made! Thank you Vera for such uplifting advice!

[KJSvitko]

Quiet time and alone time are valuable stress relief and are healthy way to cope with people, places and things causing anxiety.

[jennifermcdonald]

When I was a young girl, we were driving through the city, and I saw a old man going through a garbage bin. I broke down and cried for two days about how sad life can be for some of us. My Mum said I was acting like Sarah Bernhardt, ( a famous old time actress). It hurt! By the time I was twelve, she had me on antidepressants. So I understand what being over sensitive feels like!

[aceofartsss]

3:43 is soooo helpful. I always tend to absorb emotions, if someone is angry i also feel angry if someone is sad i also feel sad. Its good but sometimes it is not helpful since there are days when I need to accomplish a lot of things however I accidentally absorb the negative emotions of the people around me.

So what I also do is I ask myself 3 questions:
1. Am i being logical or emotional?
2. Is this thought useful?
3. Will my future self thank me for this?

These questions also helped me stop overthinking and it also helped me make better decisions. I hope these also help my fellow HSP😊💕

[ljshaw]

I love embracing all the little things too - art, nature, simple beauty in things other people do not see. Thanks for sharing another heartfelt video. You're a gem to this world!

[dianeyoung]

This video is very helpful and I appreciate the fact that you are getting this information out into the world Vera. Back when I was growing up, I was told by a therapist that I needed to develop a "thicker skin". Now I know that basically you cannot change who you are and that no matter how well-
meaning that therapist was, it was the wrong thing to say to a kid who was struggling. We are who we are.

[osbo]

I read a book several years ago about HSP's. Bingo...I finally understood me. Why I did not like crowded places, why I always look for a way out, why I don't like loud anything or bright lights, why after a big family celebration, I had to go to my bedroom and rest and be alone, why I hated parties and socializing, etc... I finally know what's "wrong" with me. Not my words, but other's words. When I try to explain the sensitivity I hear, "Oh, everyone is sensitive." When I try to explain that it's a deeper level and can be painful, I just get blank stares. Oh well, at least I have my answers. 🙂

[ruthhesson]

Vera, this video helped me so much to better understand my friend who is highly sensitive. Your suggestions and insights will be things I will remember when spending time with my dear friend. In fact, it’s her high sensitivity that is one of the many reasons I love her so much. I just want to be as good a friend to her as she is to me. Thank you!

[jenmorricone]

With 8 billion people now on earth, I feel like I have to minimize my exposure to the busy noisy world that I no longer recognize as the world that I grew up in. Thank you for being a positive influence in a crazy mad insane world.

[teresaromero]

Hey Vera, I have always thought that “ I get overwhelmed with too much going on around me …”, I didn’t realize that I am not alone in this field.
Balance is the key word !
Getting out of my comfort zone periodically is good for me ….and coming back home to my “ alone time “ to recover from noise and crowds.

[elizabethsummermeado]

I read your recommended book The Highly Sensitive Person. Something clicked, finally, and because of you and learning about being a HSP, I am changing many things in my life, and no longer apologizing to others who may never understand. I've changed jobs and made many other healthy changes to take charge and no longer allowing others to cross my boundaries. This channel has helped change my life, THANK YOU!!!💗💗💗🙏

[scheila]

Thank you for this a 72year old woman who was told at a very young age I could not wear my heart on my sleeve by my mother and I needed to toughen placing your feelings in view helps us all confirm our lives....your statements help to confirm our being....that we do have choices to manage ourselves and that we were born this way and there is nothing WRONG with us....again thank you...