Have The Best Relationship in 2025, Muslim Dating Apps, & 'The Wife Beating' Verse in the Quran

Sayed Mohammed Baqer Qazwini is opening up 2025 with the blueprint on how to have the best relationship ever this year. Step-by-step from how to start to get to know someone all the way to marriage and how to preserve the marriage after you get to it.

There is no stage in your relationship where this conversation does not provide value and insight for you.

He also goes into topics like Muslim Dating apps, Khirah, why get married in the first place, and so much more.

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00:00 Intro
06:23 Only scholars can be good servants of God?
10:45 Pairing sociology and Islamic scholarship
14:17 The Wife Beating Verse in the Quran
18:30 New Years Resolution list
21:12 What people get wrong in relationships
29:29 The Influence of couples content on social media
35:33 Setting proper standards in your relationship
46:57 Khirah in marriage
54:32 Getting to know someone in American culture AND Islamic culture
1:00:35 Arranged marriage is taboo + Hollywood moment
1:02:56 Meeting someone publicly
1:06:35 Parents role in the future of their children’s relationships
1:11:19 Stop putting effort after marriage
1:17:00 Practices to maintain your marriage
1:22:08 Ego in marriage and overcoming it
1:26:51 Why should we still get married
1:37:57 Muslim Dating Apps
1:42:54 Sisters wanting to unalive themselves because of parents’ pressure
1:46:44 Not taking your time in your katb-kitab

[Mahadoniii]

Alaikum assalam wa rahmatallah wa barakatu! Inshallah this comment finds you well! Thank you for this podcast, it was truly a blessing for it to come across my YouTube homepage.

I was hoping to ask, is there an official way in which we could get in contact with the Seyed? Maybe by email or social media? I don't live in the U.S, therefore I can't visit his office.

I'd appreciate your assistance on this, thank you again for the wonderful video!

P.S. Congratulations, inshallah you live a happy and peaceful life! Inshallah, inshallah, inshallah.

[zizimakki]

He’s amazing, he was in Iraq during my Ziyarat, and spoke to our group. Great guest to have for our community on your podcast.

[zennahjolie]

He is one the best scholars i've known❤

[aysidic]

An amazing episode, Sayyed's got such a celestial vibe ❤

[samir.kobeissi]

This podcast was needed. Alhamdulillah for brother Ja’afar bringing this video to spread the message to the community. ❤️

[jamilali]

I liked the video before listening 😅 I know this is going to be wholesome

[DrHussainQasem]

I really liked that this Islamic perspective, which is presented in a nice setting with excellent speakers, can outshine hundreds of Western culture content on the same subject !

I hope other wonderful speakers find quality production, good interviewer like this one so the correct version of Islam clarified

[FatimaMoosavi-vctf]

This is probably one of my favorite episodes you have had thus far . So much information given, keep it up!

[arabicmusiclady]

Thank you for making and uploading this interview. Sayed Mohammed Baqer Qazwini and his family are truly wonderful Iraqi Shia Muslims! This interview was interesting, and I enjoyed watching.

[DrHussainQasem]

Having seen tens of videos on man/woman relationship, this one is definitely a must-see ! Bless you

[syed]

Incredible insights by Sayyed, much needed!!!

[sarshhhjevgfv]

Great guest wonderful view points!
جزاك الله خير

[rohiyakubi]

Beautiful podcast, truly every single word of Sayed Mohammed Baqer Qazwini is pure wisdom and knowledge mashallah!!!

[ktoryaykiz]

وعليكم السلام والرحمه
شكرا شكرا على هذه الحلقة المليئة بالفائدة، رحم الله والديكم وزادكم علما وحكمة وثبت اقدامكم على الطريق الحق

[MaymoonahAbbass-pkho]

This man speaks to my soul. Thanks alot for inviting him and this video was very helpful to me ❤❤❤❤

[writingwitheart]

Thankyou Sayed and the team to broadcasting about this subject with a good manner 😊

[blisecig]

This podcast is fantastic, and we’re truly blessed to have someone as esteemed as Sayed in our community. However, as the host, it’s important to let Sayed take the spotlight. Your role is to guide the conversation with thoughtful questions, not to overshadow it with your own perspectives. Constant interruptions disrupt the flow and take away from what we’re here for Sayed’s insights. Please allow the conversation to breathe, letting us fully absorb his wisdom and experience. A great host facilitates the dialogue without getting in the way.

[Hatsoffsip]

Great podcast, may Allah bless you and the Sayed. Sayed MBQ is one of the shining stars of Shia scholarship, may Allah spread his name and extend his life.

While the podcast addresses a lot of misconceptions and taboos, there was still no mention of muta and its role in getting to know someone for marriage. Unfortunately, this side of muta is rarely ever explored — leaving non-Shias to focus on the abuses of muta (married men cheating on their wives without their knowledge, trafficking of young girls in Iraq and Iran etc).

With people getting married in their late 20s now, we need to pull our head out of the sand and acknowledge that Islam has a solution for this in between period before marriage in the form of muta. Yes, it wasn’t necessarily used in the way during the time of the Prophet (it was used for men who would travel for many months/years and for widows who were rejected by society), but that’s because there was no need for it when people were getting married very soon after puberty.

The Sayed mentions at the end that no matter how long you get to know someone, you will still only really know them after you get married and they get completely comfortable. Muta solves this. If you have been doing muta with someone, especially if you have lived with them (crucifixion from the community aside), you will know them. Yes, the Sayed brings up a valid point about the emotional hurt from getting to know someone for years and then not getting permanently married. However, contrast that with the hurt of getting married without fully understanding how this person acts at home and then getting divorced (this arguably carries more social stigma too).

I disagree with the amount of weight given to society as well. The Sayed hints that his stance is more out of practicality, rather than him or Islam agreeing with society, but we must remember that Islam came to upheave Arab society (otherwise there would’ve been no need to send a prophet). The culture in our societies towards marriage is primarily motivated by pre-Islamic Arab chauvinism. Yes, there are hadiths that indicate some respect should be given to societal norms, but these are in instances where the societal norms are Islamically good (like the 4 months of no war) or mubah — not when they conflict with Islam. Even the ones that seem to give a pass to things that conflict with Islam, these (if authentic) are not necessarily endorsements, but rather just practicalities as Islam couldn’t change society overnight and Islam doesn’t want to cause excessive hardship to people. We should make more of an effort to combat unIslamic societal stigmas, rather than finding ways to live with them

[teebasadoun]

These points are actually really great. I loved this episode. As a married woman, the stepping of ego is so crucial. Marriage is a lot of sacrifice to keep peace in the house and ourselves. Believe me, a lot of couples issues are things that shouldn’t be issues. They become things we laugh about later on in life. Love comes with actions and accountability and I pray all couples are happy and healthy. And to those who aren’t yet, good luck and send me an invite ❤

[أبرار-غلم]

Can’t wait to get these books inshallah 💚