Found Out My Wife's Affair on the Same Day I Planned to Share My Terminal Diagnosis. Now....

Found Out My Wife's Affair on the Same Day I Planned to Share My Terminal Diagnosis. Now I'm Rethinking How I Want to Spend My Days Alone.

#redditrelationship #redditupdate

[Torag]

Oh hey it's Swansong's story. And yes for those wondering, he's dead now. His daughter still updates every now and then. She did say he died in his home peacefully and was cremated.

[That_Thing_Lucy]

“I hope I can bounce back soon”
That broke my heart to hear, because I know that he won’t bounce back… his condition is just downhill from here and I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the last we hear of it.

[artemisia]

i cannot imagine how devastating it was for him to be hit with terminal diagnosis and discovery of the affair on the very same day. yet, he carried on with dignity and kept his head high despite all of it. and honestly? it was probably the best revenge on his ex anyone could ask for. if he raged, abused or threatened her then she'd have another reason to justify her unfaithfulness. if he tried to win her back or acted on his anger, it'd just feed her ego.
the most devastating blow to a narcissist is to make it completely clear you don't care about them. they build their entire worth and sense of self around other people's attention and approval. once you take it away - there's nothing left. they will never really recover from it and will always remember it as a personal failure.

[DarkEinherjar]

So... assuming this is story is real and years old by now, OP is not among us anymore...

People strive to be legends. Legends strive to be like this man.

What a fantastic person. I hope to have this kind of fortitude when my time comes.

[VampireSultana]

I tried posting the link, but my post got deleted. So I’ll post the title of his reddit post “I discovered the affair when I came home early to tell her about my diagnosis” by ThrowawaySwanSong. He has since passed, but not from his cancer, but in his sleep from a heart attack. So he was granted mercy from the amazing pain the illness would have caused.

[beyondreaper]

I went on Reddit and found this story. I went to OP's page, and sadly, OP passed away in February 2023. One of his kids is running his page now. Rest in peace, OP.

[BaeBunni]

Jane reputation is probably as bad as it can go "cheating on a terminal ill partner." Not to mention they want a divorce. If you can't even convince a dying person to stick around you know you are awful.

[DairyCat]

OP literally "ghosted" his wife as revenge lol.

[reillycurran]

Carol didn't care if it was robbing the reaper she wanted her late game swoop and by god she was gonna make it happen come hell or high water!

[rosebearcat]

The final update:
To my father's Reddit family,
We have rung in 2024. This will be the first year of my life without my father. And that weighs heavy on me. I wanted to stop in and give you all an update on my father's family. You all already know that we celebrated our week long celebration of the holidays that my father so cherished. While bitter sweet, the week was very good. Dad has succeeded in bonding us all as a family, and that included Carol. Her romantic, for lack of a better word, time with my father when he needed the most, means so much to us. He left us all letters for this year, and one final present for each of us. They were thoughtful and brought us to tears. One last act that he entrusted Carol. Though I expect that there are letters for the grandkids at all of their major events. The first one came about at last spring's high school graduation.
The home building is progressing. This year I started to realize what dad loved about this farm. The cycles of the seasons. The cycle of life that is present here. I understand a bit more about his decisions last year.
While I still don't agree, I better understand. I have also started watching the sunrises and sunsets at Dad's spots. Not as religiously as he did at the end, but just another anchor between him and me.
Jane's life has not gone well. In the fall she suffered a stroke. It was caught early enough and she survived.
She is currently still in a care center doing rehab. She has regained rudimentary speech, but it is still tough for her. She is still working on walking again. She has a very long road ahead of her. Her health issues have gained her a bit of sympathy from her social circles.
Even Mom and Steve as well as Dad's grandkids have put aside their hurt and pain and locked in on her l am not that charitable as of now and may never be.
I do not have much information on the AP. He has disappeared from my business circles. The only morsel I have is that the company did receive an inquiry letter from a bankruptcy law firm. So far we have not seen any official filings. As for the company, without his leadership and financial anchor, the company is in the black and we got the debt manageable and did give every employee a nice bonus.
I want to thank all of you again for what you did for my father. I am sorry for not responding to any DMs or responding to any comments. It has been difficult enough to just give these updates. And I expect this update to be my last. You all have my gratitude.
throwaway SwanSong's daughter

[ladylizifer]

I watched my grandfather fight the same cancer. Good for OP for refusing treatment. My grandfather was an army man (lied about his age to get into WW2, but since he was a genius and spoke 3 languages they kept him). So being a army career man he fought tooth and nail. But all that treatment did was make him suffer. Shame on the doctors for even doing that to an old dieing veteran. They knew the chances of his survival but were all too happy to make a profit. If you find yourself with the same type of cancer, please, don't let your family watch you suffer. My image of my grandfather went from a nazi fighting hero to a crying old man begging for death.

[penguinpingu]

Having stage 4 cancer usually means you should get ready to enjoy your last moments. Which is understandable for op. Prolonging his life for a stage 4 cancer treatment requires a miracle.

Organ transplants isn't going to cut it. Stage 4 cancer will spread to other areas of the body. Kinda like a rebel force, appearing in one area slowly growing once they are ready take over other areas, consuming a nation in violence and chaos.

[zergthe]

What kills me is he was apparently only 60. My own dad died two years ago at 54. It's too young.

[VenomLikeDat]

RIP Old Timer. Crazy the backend of his life he got to enjoy more than what he thought he would. Realizing the others with his ex was nothing but an illusion. Marriage scares me for this reason. Just be single and do what you want to do entirely, Why destroy someone’s else life, mental health, emotional well being all for a financial or sexual gain of some sort smh. Genuine people really are becoming extinct . I’m glad he is or did go out on his terms. 🤞🏽

[kos]

This guy is a true gigachad. Dude is close to dying and women still want to be with him (especially Carol) shows how manly he is they just can't help but loving him. Jane can go eat dirt.

[HUNTERxROY]

There are actually 3 more updates.... with the last one being only 7 days old... and yeah op passed away
The last 3 updates were all made by his family

[domeatown]

This is how you live and die with dignity. Knock a girl up? Take care of her. Marry a rich woman? Protect her assets. Rich woman cheats? Divorce her quietly. Ready to die? Retire to the farm.
Friends with his baby mamas husband. Keeps his old friends close. And when the time comes, moves into the unknown.
Damn

[C.G.Gaster]

I've sat and watched my great grandmother deteriorated, from 2014- early 2020. I understand that daughter's rage at the hospital, I understand wanting to make it go on longer, but I also learned that you can't fight for someone all the time. You can only fight when they ask you to. Op's decision to accept his fate is one I think we should all come to terms with. Besides at a point like that with something that is essentially un-curable (stage 4 cancer of the pancreas), it's easier to accept when it's time. The ex lost a lot here, and the AP is gonna face punishment after death.

[CionJSBJJ]

half of this story is missing, it gets very emotional, I remember crying listening to it

[blucz]

Maaan this is sad.. Hope he had a good last days... Rest in peace