Discovered my wife's (now ex) affair the day she was admitted into hospital, now years later...

Discovered my wife's (now ex) affair the day she was admitted into hospital, now years later she can't accept my engagement to my fiancé.

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[randomusername]

While the sister is awful, the fact that the person that actively choose to cheat on her husband is not being held accountable is so wrong
And she's definetly going to bring the son around the abusive ex the moment he comes out of jail

[dotsucks]

“To my pharaoh” that is so freaking romantic gosh dang

[Nolbolt]

Who else thinks the ex gave the son that idea

[VirginiaDowdy]

The ex wife definitely is responsible for her own actions. What I can't fathom though as a sister of 2 siblings is how her sister could encourage her to rebuild a relationship with a dangerous person (the wife's ex), knowing full well of all he was capable of. I also especially can't stand it when siblings encourage their siblings to cheat on their SO.

[juanhaines]

I heard this one before. Its always hilarious when cheaters say they didn't mean to hurt their spouse. If they didn't mean to they would have done it.

[sanddagger]

this is so typical. she gives the abuser everything and treats the gentle husband like a doormat that owes her things.

[Mark_Proton]

I had the desire and opportunity to "get it out of my system", but do you know what separates us from animals? We can think beyond our wants and needs for our future wants and needs.

[Baked-Potayto]

How the ex wife somehow manages to both take accountability while simultaneously pushing the blame off on someone else blows my fucking mind.

Either way, 0 sympathy for both ex and ex sister in law. You get what you get.

[whitehawk]

Imagine blaming your sister for not stopping you from cheating and then telling your ex-husband, who’s now truly happy with a wonderful new woman, that you’ll “wait for him”. The freaking entitlement of that awful woman!!! She’s delulu af and still refusing to accept responsibility for her own actions. Sure, her sister enabled her and is therefore also culpable, but she didn’t force her to cheat. She did that on her own. She CHOSE to cheat.

She’s clearly suffering from deep-seated issues, so her jealousy and manipulative behavior will exacerbate as OOP’s wedding day gets nearer. I don’t even want to imagine what she’s capable of doing when OOP’s new partner gets pregnant. I would say that she’ll start weaponizing their son to control OOP, but she’s already doing that. OOP needs to go low contact with her and only communicate via a parenting app. This won’t end well for his new relationship if he doesn’t establish firm boundaries with his ex, with strict consequences for overstepping them.

[herticate]

sucks, the entire situation sucks. i could feel OP's mental energy draining each time, trauma needs to be treated before any relationship could ever happen.

[BaeBunni]

Op can go "No Contact" with her what he needs to do is get one of those co-parenting apps that records and makes it only about the parenting and the kids. She can get past it but it helps if you stop being "nice" just be civil. Make your interactions only about the child and avoid talks about getting together even if the talks are her asking and you saying no. Because the situation is gonna get worse if Op has more kids.

[MKULTRA_Victim_]

“I will wait for you” UGH what a horrible and manipulative statement! I had a chick I broke up with say this too, I had to explain to her that this is not how this works.

[emmamartinez]

I had to pause on his new fiancé ring engraving “To my Pharaoh” I almost died because of the cuteness.

[ar]

To be honest, she deserves all that hate, the sister in law

[bgcno]

So she actively cheated on him with her abusized ex but him proposing to his girlfriend after their divorce is a problem for her? She needs to be institutionalized.

[dakkenblah]

Sounds like OP’s ex still needed way more therapy before going near her ex. I’ve known Abuse victims like this and they would pretty much do whatever the abuser wanted. Not condoning her actions but her not telling her family about the abuse and staying away from her ex guaranteed this to haopen

[Zantetsu]

Lol, really impressive that the Egyptian GF knew Egyptian.

[hmzzlks-kund]

Besides the horrible actions of ex and ex sil. I'm happy for op. He's lucky he found his fiancee, and over a bond of mythology no less. This has brought a smile on my face.

[AfuBinks]

Trust is like a mirror. Once broken, you can put it pack together but the cracks remain.

[Andresardon]

Each time I hear stories like these I become more hesitant about having a romantic relationship