Jordan Peterson: The problem of too much empathy

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This clip is from Professor Peterson's: "Strategy (1): 12 principles for a 21st century conservatism"

[alexpollard]

So much wisdom coming from his mouth that he needs two mics.

[howardrickert]

Life is a comedy for those who think, and a tragedy for those who feel. - Jean Racine

[AceTriggerz]

You can't be nice to people, you got to be fair. People respect fairness and understand it far more than niceness.

[kcvriess]

I work with disabled people. Since my studies we've been hardwired let take people take care of themselves as much as possible. Even if they struggle!! Only intervene when you sense/see that they are about to fail. It's then that you help.
It's called autonomy. Children need to learn it and old/disabled people need to preserve it, as much as possible.
Otherwise there's hardly any sense to anything anymore. It may sound negative but it isn't.

[praisehermie]

You have to think...you can't just feel.

[lukeakerboom]

"You need to Think not just Feel". Powerful

[aznsumthing]

The problem is that the people who primarily feel, think that they are thinking.

[chizzlemo]

I think about this a lot, I want my kids to be resilient, and I want them to still thrive when I’m dead.

[pummisher]

When I was a kid, I had a terrible stutter. Teachers and most other people would try to finish my sentences and would never be right. It was infuriating because they thought they were helping and they thought I was mentally challenged.

[beckymagnolia]

He's talking about a kind of compassion Buddhists call "Idiot Compassion". This is compassion for others that's based in your own ego and fears. It's enabling. True compassion is rooted in healthy mutual respect The politically correct stance doesn't come from true compassion...they're acting from their own ego.

[seetsamolapo]

This resonates so much. Being too high in agreeableness - what the mbti calls Extroverted Feeling can bring bad bad results in both the giver of the caretaking and the one given. "Never do something for someone that they can do themselves"

[neurohackstv]

There is a difference between helping and enabling. Enabling is doing something completely on your own for someone else. Help is offering something to someone that they don’t have in order to allow them to triumph over their struggles.

[roar]

He’s right, I work with children with developmental disorders and a big part of my work is teaching them self-help skills and being able to care for themselves. The goal is to work myself out of a job basically by helping them become more independent. In my opinion this is how you bring about strong individuals and not helpless people

[joesavv]

3 quarters into the video and I only just realised Jordan Peterson has 2 mics

[jaredmatthews]

Sometimes Compassion and Empathy will require that you let someone fall down and learn and experiences consequences. I still believe that Compassion and Empathy are the utmost needed qualities for humanity. You have to let people suffer if you are truly compassionate and Empathetic to their full condition.

[Torgo]

"The essence of balance is detachment. To embrace a cause, to grow fond or spiteful, is to lose one's balance, after which, no action can be trusted."

[jenniferdana]

Life is fun and enjoyable as long as you take actions to move forward to get things done!

[satsumamoon]

Ive learnt to be judicial in my empathy, to not always put myself in the shoes of others and feel what others feel. As a result I am much more emotionally stable. I can watch videos about concentration camps for study purposes and not feel depressed or angry. I dont know why I never figured this out earlier in life, its bloody amazing to have control over ones emotional states and not be blown about by the events of the outer world.

[Happylluk]

what a guy! so genuine. how can you not like him?

[gryranfelt]

I wouldn't call this a problem with too much empathy but rather a problem of over-victimizing. Someone who has true empathy will understand that all humans face adversity, no matter rich or poor, and that what a person needs is not always help, but for someone to believe in them.