6 Red Flags In Yourself To Watch Out For

Are you wondering if there are red flags in yourself, that you should be aware of? In this video, we cover toxic habits like unconstructive self talk, neurotic need for validation, need for control, perfectionism and so more. We hope that a video like this one can bring you growth in your personal lives.

Writer: Ria Parikh
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera
Project Managed: Geo Gao

1. Unconstructive self-talk 0:44
2. Neurotic need for social validation 1:28
3. Neurotic need for control 2:05
4. Toxic perfectionism 2:35
5. Avoidant attachement 3:02
6. Social media addiction 3:34

[ninomiqiani]

1. Unconstructive self-talk 0:44
2. Neurotic need for social validation 1:28
3. Neurotic need for control 2:05
4. Toxic perfectionism 2:35
5. Avoidant attachement 3:02
6. Social media addiction 3:34

[scuffedcoding]

As a teenager, I find these videos super informative and helpful. They give me a feeling of safety and calmness which I appreciate a lot.

[aparna]

I had all these things few months back . I am proud of myself that I overcame these traits .

[bradleydsmeltzer]

This channel has taught me
A. The many toxic traits my friends have
B. Bettering my life by including/excluding people & things.
C. Socializing is important for mental health
D. That I need social validation, and am people pleaser, and a social media addict.

I'm confused on what I should be doing next.

[migcool]

Always felt so helpless growing up. I want things exactly a certain way and when it doesn’t I don’t feel safe or secure.

[danujaa.]

By having a deep look into myself, I could have 5 out of 6 inner red flags. I go through all of those on a day to day basis, and having people that talk down on me instead of trying to bring me up doesn’t really help at all.

It feels like I need to find people who are willing to hear my problems….and….maybe get rid of my Red Flags, despite how hard it might be.

[yokiweyy]

My biggest issue is definitely the negative self talk. I insulti myself almost every day. Stuff like "you're ugly as shit, you're worthless, you're useless, you're stupid, you're mediocre at everything you do" and things like that are my daily mantra.
The thing is, I really don't see the reason why I should think otherwise. I can't find proof that I'm the opposite of those things I say to myself. I just accepted that this is what I am, a poor schmuck that amounts to nothing.
End if people tell me "nooo what are you talking about, you're great as you are" ecc, I just don't believe them, and think that they are not being logical or that they are messing with me.

[Demisearts]

Time stamps:
0:44 Unconstructive self-talk
1:27 Neoutic need for social validation
2:06 Neoutic need for control
2:33 Toxic Perfectionisme
3:02 Avoidant Attachment
3:35 Social media addiction



Personally i have two of these, both however is getting worked on since they do my own mental health more harm than good

[TiltedTilterGaming]

I was avoiding attachment, was too afraid of getting hurt and hurt someone I care for and myself.

If given the chance I would have changed back then but it’s a lesson well learned

[pierremercier]

I recognize myself in all the six red flags you mentioned in your video. I feel like a desperate case! (lol!) Seriously, on a more positive note, your video is a huge and benevolent signal that I have a lot to work on. It's always so helpful when competent people put the right words on the right problems. This insightful video and many others of your's helps me so much to grow up and becoming a better person. Thank you.

[nighttimeflames]

The Bojack Horseman beginning made me so happy. The quote was from the character Wanda, she was an owl who actually owns rose colored glasses and pulls them off well. She was dating Bojack and was talking about how relationships work and how they weren’t working. That show will have a special place in my heart ❤

[mikan_]

Thanks for this! I started getting self-conscious lately and your vids helped me out a lot!

[artinrohani]

I love how whenever I see one of these videos I know I’m going to end up saying “F- I have most of these”. But when I go to write a comment I remember no one cares. Best use of my time ngl

[mackeym]

The self-talk is probably my problem. I try my hardest not to be negative, but I don't know what else to say about certain things. Plus, even when I try to uplift myself, it feels extremely disingenuous.

[DFGameFan]

Thank you. I struggle with all these and struggle with remembering I'm not alone. I'm getting worse mentally, that it's been effecting me physically as well. Life, family, work, career, personal self, and relationships are taking a huge toll on me bc so much is happening that just seems to be getting worse. I want change. Be healthier and grow better. I understand that means a change in life style and routines and lots of focus and discipline. I can do that. What I'm currently struggling with is focusing and worrying about myself. So thank you for the videos. It's really been giving me a nice embrace of, "everything will be okay, don't give up." I wish the best for all you ❤

[marklouis]

Negative self reflection, need for validation and control issues are the main 3 problems I need to work on

[rickwhite]

The BEST thing I did was get off of Social Media!!! It has been almost 4 months and my self worth has dramatically changed for the better. ALL of the other red flags listed in here have gone away. Focus on yourself, set goals, and enjoy yourself. Friendships and relationships will improve once you get out of drama and static of a false word that cannot validate who you truly are. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way!

[SoulDigester]

I am still working through and fighting old habits from avoidment attachment style

[Your-Average-Bot]

Thank you so much for the help, ive always made fun of myself for laughs and have actually lost friends dues to this and with you all ive been able to self reflect and make myself a better person

[noahpark]

I got almost all of the six red flags in me🚩...this is scary...but Thanks for the Video..❤❤💜