CPTSD: The Number One Reason Your PAST is Making You MISERABLE

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I've noticed TWO BASIC types of comments on my channel, and one of them feels STUCK AND MISERABLE. In this video I talk about the patterns of people who are HEALING, vs. those who get stuck.
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[adrienne]

As a 48 yr. old with CPST, I would advise younger folks to listen to this message as it took me having a major stroke to wake up and realize EXACTLY what this kind lady is saying is THE TRUTH. Thank you Anna! 🙏🏻

[RatedArggg]

I was diagnosed with this a few years ago. Realizing that my mother and family GAVE me this caused me immeasurable rage. I got onto a C-PTSD forum and started to realize that this is a freaking worldwide epidemic. We need to teach people how to be decent parents, starting in middle school or earlier.

[shannonludden]

I used to think that self compassion was just coddling yourself and self pity. When I realized that it was ok be nice to yourself and hold yourself accountable for your own choices it was life changing.

[LeahThomasrealleah]

Every once in a while, I catch a glimpse of who I am without the pain, without the story of the people that hurt me. In this glimpse, I am joyous, not just hopeful, in knowing that I’m going to triumph. I can react to others’ faulty perception of me in a different way. Not being ashamed of myself for their faulty perception. Not blaming them for being a part of my damage, but reveling in the knowing they can no longer bring me down. I’m holding onto that glimpse a little longer each day. I’m starting off each day by writing my fears and resentments, and letting them go, as Anna suggests. This is the beginning of my new story; with more joy, more music and more dancing in whatever form my new life takes on. Look for the glimpse of your new story, and start telling it to yourself a little more each day. Thank you, Anna!

[karenalden]

Best description yet- childhood PTSD is the inability to connect!

[tomjames]

aint nothing fairytale about this women shes about as real as real can get. thanks for keepin it real.

[cassieoz]

A persisting sense of grievance is the biggest roadblock to recovery.

[bigneon_glitter]

Came across this quote recently: "Trauma destroys people's relationship with time because the loss of continuity means the absolute inability to imagine a future anymore"

Myself, I'm stuck in "the wheel" & have been caught up in that ongoing obsession loop, anger, & foreshortened future. My present focus is in *imagining* a future & goals. Tough to do, it's a weak muscle but I'm confident that it's a real step to "break the wheel".

[eveforsyth]

It's so hard to imagine what life would be like not having these symptoms, when I don't remember ever not having them. Right from a young child this was my life

[MrKit]

I saw a therapist as soon as I left home and went to college. My therapist told me that in over 30 years of practice they had never heard of such abuse. My therapist also got to meet my family through another client. She said "Never see those people again. Ever. Some of the most horrible humans I've ever encountered." I never got beyond the stage of recovery other than managing to not be suicidal all the time. Now I am an old man and it is too late. Sometimes you cannot just saunter away merrily from such scarring and pain.

[RobinDivine]

I'm guilty of being attached or maybe a more appropriate word is "addicted" to my past pain and trauma, it's become part of my identity. So my ego is saying along the lines of "Why do you want to change and surrender your identity." - Hence I have a lot of resistance to thinking differently that I can be an individual who is positive, outgoing and fun to be with and not have a trauma based identity and personality.
Hope that makes sense to some people here?

[msmonet]

Gratitude!!! Yes, I feel awkward as an adult, not being able to connect with certain people in social gatherings. I get along with children and the elderly

[Sugarbears]

Today I made 8 perfect crepes and ate four of them . Tomorrow I will eat the other four. That's my success of the day. (Actually I have been trying to perfect my crepe recipe for years. Today it went so well. Am in shock.) Lockdown Crepes. "Its a good thing".

[PearlJamAndBiscuits]

Whether you think you can or you you're right. We tend to 'own' our trauma and our damage. We become one with it. It becomes our entire identity. So if you can fully embrace being damaged, you can also fully embrace being healed. It's all in what we tell ourselves. Thanks again for another thought provoking, healing message! I cant get enough of your videos.

[samanthajgreen]

I isolate myself because I have felt like I’ve never belonged. I fear interaction with many people but generally love being around people. It’s difficult to explain why I want to go out but don’t want to go out. I also have that fear of allowing anyone to get too close because I don’t want to be hurt again.

[elleh]

What if the people in the first group with hope and faith are in that group because there was a "before" their trauma that taught them that not all things/people are bad? And then what about the people who literally were born into situations where there was never really a good "before trauma" time that existed--that there is no example in the minds memory to even know what that would be like to live with reduced trauma? Thank you for this video. I'm struggling with bitterness because I was born into trauma, and of course now live in a situation filled with it, as I just keep repeating my patterns. I don't want to be bitter, and yet its like I'm viewing the bitterness growing in me as if I'm watching another person. I see how dangerous and unproductive it is, and yet to be bitter almost feels
like a relief from the relentless trying that one with trauma endures. It's like your body gets tired of the struggle it takes. I don' know if any of this makes sense to anyone reading this, I'm just being honest with what I have been feeling.

[nathaliedufour]

Thank you for this, I am right there, bitter, lonely and out of hope, numb to my own life

[BenAvodot]

After many over reactive outbursts, which persisted for decades, and after talk therapy for years, I was summoned to jury duty for a crime of violence. I was the last jury member. I had to wait for hours after everyone answered the basic questions in which some were about personal experiences of trauma. My brother was found in a coma, beaten in the head with a baseball bat, all the bones on mis face shattered or broken, six weeks unconscious, woke up squeezing my hand after my mom told him to if he could hear us. This after visiting him for weeks with no response. Plus, our childhood was full of extreme abuse from our creepy dad. The third whammy, a lot of my close friends died horrible deaths during the AIDS epidemic. Anyhow, when it finally was my turn to speak in the jury box, I was completely agitated and almost hostile myself just having to re-live the trauma my family experienced due to violence. Afterwards, I realized that I needed psychological help. I had completed years of talk therapy which never really address my emotional outbursts, so I decided EMDR fir the first time at the age of 57. My reoccurring nightmares which plagued me for years, ended abruptly. I haven’t had that nightmare since. Some of my other symptoms are still with me, but there is a marked difference since the therapy. I recommend it and I also recommend this channel. The crappy childhood fairy is a breath of fresh air. I’m glad I’m not alone.

[annahollings]

Don’t give up on yourself, everyone has a unique, beautiful gift to share with the world. Thanks Anna, awesome.

[JL-lfrf]

This video made me cry for the first time in a long time... therapy didn’t work for me but I’m working on myself and I think things will get better, finally. Even if I don’t know where I’m going quite yet I think i will be okay. Thank you Anna for making me feel less alone.