Dealing With Social Anxiety

#selfimprovement #selfdevelopment #socialanxiety

Time Code:
What is Social Anxiety & Socially Anxious People: 0:00 - 2:44
The Ice Breaker & Dealing With Rejection: 2:45 - 8:26
One Way to Keep Conversations Going: 8:27 - 9:45
There is Always Another Day: 9:46 - 11:00

Social anxiety disorder is an intense, persistent fear of being watched and judged by others. This fear can affect work, school, and other daily activities. It can even make it hard to make and keep friends. The good news is social anxiety disorder is treatable

Social anxiety disorder is a common type of anxiety disorder. A person with social anxiety disorder feels symptoms of anxiety or fear in situations where they may be scrutinized, evaluated, or judged by others, such as speaking in public, meeting new people, dating, being on a job interview, answering a question in class, or having to talk to a cashier in a store. Doing everyday things, such as eating or drinking in front of others or using a public restroom, also may cause anxiety or fear due to concerns about being humiliated, judged, and rejected. Social anxiety disorder is generally treated with psychotherapy medication, or both.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), a research-supported type of psychotherapy, is commonly used to treat social anxiety disorder. CBT teaches you different ways of thinking, behaving, and reacting to situations to help you feel less anxious and fearful. CBT also can help you learn and practice social skills, which is very important for treating social anxiety disorder. CBT has been well studied and is the gold standard for psychotherapy.

For me the best possible medication or solution for social anxiety is Exposure therapy. Exposure therapy is a CBT method that focuses on progressively confronting the fears underlying an anxiety disorder to help you engage in activities you have been avoiding. Exposure therapy is sometimes used along with relaxation exercises. CBT delivered in a group therapy format also can offer unique benefits for social anxiety disorder.
The fear that people with social anxiety disorder have in social situations is so intense that they feel it is beyond their control. For some people, this fear may get in the way of going to work, attending school, or doing everyday things. Other people may be able to accomplish these activities but experience a great deal of fear or anxiety when they do. People with social anxiety disorder may worry about engaging in social situations for weeks before they happen. Sometimes, they end up avoiding places or events that cause distress or generate feelings of embarrassment.

Some people with the disorder do not have anxiety related to social interactions but have it during performances instead. They feel symptoms of anxiety in situations such as giving a speech, competing in a sports game, or playing a musical instrument on stage.

Social anxiety disorder usually starts during late childhood and may resemble extreme shyness or avoidance of situations or social interactions. It occurs more frequently in females than in males, and this gender difference is more pronounced in adolescents and young adults. Without treatment, social anxiety disorder can last for many years, or even a lifetime.

[Forged]

This video is simply a suggestion, not a prescription. Its what I personally utilized as an exposure therapy back when I've finally got fed up being a recluse since the start of college of in 2013, plus feeling overwhelmingly & despairingly isolated around 6 months after the pandemic started and when the only businesses that are open around me is either banks or grocery stores. And they're only open for half a working day. Yes, talking to friends online such as discord and group calls on WhatsApp helped a bit. But, its a whole different feeling when you're actually interacting with people face 2 face. Its a lot less passive, has individual authoritative presence and delivers a more genuine representation of the individual. Where online, you can still comfortably hide your intentions behind the screen & camera. Being isolated and a recluse for too long can really turn you robotic, because you spend soo much time online and interacting indirectly online that normal, traditional interactions actually becomes weird & uncomfortable.

[Occultsm]

The thing I used to suffer from was something called the imaginary audience which is basically you thinking everyone is watching and judging everything you do. That idea came from movies that I was raised to watch that put a false narrative that the spotlight is on you, Usually Movies that involved school and walking through hallways and everyone on the sides that seem superior are judging you and are gonna bully you and that struck fear and made me think that's how it was going to be. but I'm glad now that I've learned and grown from that Matrix perspective.

[haydeanbeatz]

Just the video I was looking for by one of my favorite creators.

[Ndw]

Ever since I experienced a three month period of extreme stress, my tolerance to social situations and basic stress is zero. I can barely handle anything anymore, and it’s only a physical sensation. My mind is calm, yet my physical body freaks out over nothing. I’ve been told this could be complex PTSD but who knows.

[saltyninja]

Thank you for your videos it has made it easier to evaluate myself on my own short comings as well as the goals I want to achieve. I was able to think on it and thanks to you I now know some major goals I wish to accomplish.

[thenarratorsfourthwall]

“Even if they DO Reject you, They will more often than not do it in a subtle, professional & respectful way Which OF COURSE will help soften the blow for your sensitive arses” lol gotta love forge

[florianpierredumont]

Go talk with people with the real intention to know and understand them.
See them as real human beings, with their own stories and struggles, it will ease yours and give you envy to know more.
Listen actively, talk less, and connect informations, you will learn a lot without even asking, and they will like when you notice and remember things they said.
Change the way you talk, use these words instead of these, learn how to manage the tone of your voice (for exemple, play an imitation game, use your voice as an instrument) it will change the way you interact and how they see you.
Be sure of what you give and bring, not about what you want or what they can give you. You must at first give, to recieve.
Practice gratitude, thank people, and they will appreciate you.
Have centers of interest in topics that can explain the world and humans : people love to learn about the world, understand why they are here, and being told about something they didn't know about themselves.

[DH-jkfx]

Would you please put this in book form. Small chapters for each topic. Or publish the transcripts here?

[titartarus]

M i c r o d o s e, it will clear all that right up.

[imanol]

I mean, social anxiety is there for a reason. I know that my brain has violent impulses / paranoia bc I see other people act in such a way that feels natural and trustworthy which I have been try to fix / cure for almost 8 years.

[daviddimalanta]

This method to deal social anxiety is...PATHETIC. (Unless you have to do semen retention for at least 30 days or as long as your mind is free from brain fog. The clarity enables you better creativity and managing fear in conversation.)