5 Signs You Have Poor Boundaries

Boundaries are defined as the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. Sometimes, they may be hard to set or come with some not-so-ideal situations, but they are healthy and necessary. How good are you at setting boundaries? To help you become more self-aware, let’s do a quick check! Here’s five signs you have poor boundaries.

Researcher/Writer: Brie Villanueva
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Sam Rain
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[kimjinnie]

I have been obsessed with your videos . These are so educational, interesting and HELPFUL. I really appreciate your hardwork. Thank you for always entertaining us .

[freefall]

The woman who narrates these videos has the most gently, warm and caring voice. An absolute joy to listen to. Thank you for all of the encouragement and wisdom.

[jacksont]

I just feel like whenever I put down boundaries, people act like I’m a bad guy.
I feel like I’m surrounded by people who are allowed to be comfortable, but the minute I put my foot down, everyone loses their minds

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Guilt 0:26
2). Inconsistency 1:33
3). Indecision 2:17
4). You should know 3:03
5). Skewed priorities 3:50

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[thefork]

I have NEVER been able to say no. This is a huge problem in my life. And along with that I always try to please people, and it’s very frustrating

[a.k.akarin]

I grew up being told that having boundaries was disrespectful. Now that i am nearly 30 i am trying to stick to the ones i have put in place. Currently on week 2 of my dad not speaking to me because he crossed one of my boundaries and i told him off and reaffirmed the boundary. It wasn’t even a boundary like “please don’t eat my food in the fridge”. It was “please do not take my child without my knowledge, put them in a dangerous situation and then try to hide it”.

[vir]

Signs of poor boundaries (!!!):
1. Struggle to say no
2. Inconsistencies
3. Indecision
4. Using the phrase "you should know"
5. Skewed priorities

[AnimateTheArts]

Recently ive been feeling bad about wanting to set boundaries with someone, they keep doing things that im not comfortable with them doing but im comfortable with people im closer to doing, so this helped me a lot.

[JillofTrades]

"Guilt" and "You should know" are my biggest problems. I remember saying no a lot and ended up guilt tripped and emotional abused because of it. "You should know" is because my mom and dad expects me to read their minds on what's wrong. They give me a choice, I give my choice, then they're mad at my choice, and act like I was doing wrong.

[keip]

Many people don't have boundaries yet they get away with it especially with those who act postive in public or can manipulate their way around it.

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
0:26 1. Guilt
1:34 2. Inconsistency
2:17 3. Indecision
3:03 4. You should know
3:51 5. Skewed priorities
4:48 outro

[neofulcrum]

Indecision. Yep. I was so used to going with the crowd that I hardly ever stood for myself. This along with self esteem issues hurt and I’m doing my best with affirmations to build up confidence.

[dizee]

I am sure a few of you would agree, hard to have boundaries when you have a big heart, and justify it as being unconditional, non judgemental, optimistic, there's good in everyone, with positive emotions, accepting the balance, that it is this, that has you bound.

Sending top flight energies, to any and all, who require them, even those who don't, feel free to add more good vibes and send them on, you got this.
Keep smiling 😁🙃😊😃🙂

Love this channel, thank you 🙏🙏

[PokidotGamer]

I definitely have some of these, i can say no to certain things, but always say "Whatever you want, I'm cool with whatever" Because i usually don't know what I want and hate wasting peoples time with me overthinking it and don't want them being bored as well with the activity. I am what you would call a people pleaser. I think defo have some poor bounderies but i feel they'll get better over time.

[funnytv-]

The version of you that exists in the future deserves your belief. The version of you that exists right now deserves to be celebrated for all that you do.

[crankypantsmcduff]

I always feel guilt if I say no then I'll say yes to them and I've then made a rod for my own back as now it doesn't stop and I struggle to politely refuse people and I know what's going on. I hate people shortening my name to Lou, I HATE It but everybody still does even when I specify not too 😡

[lovelybrown]

But they have no problem letting you down.. thats your message to stop pleasing them.

[wpyyexe]

I need to remind myself to re-watch this every now and then.

[bobbruce]

Boundaries are especially true to avoid or deal with a narcissist. And, chances are you'll get with a narcissist if your market value or position (especially relative to theirs) is lower. This is why Own Way is the best way for both genders. Keep things light.

[ProbablyHeavensDoor]

The sixth sign is the fact this is on my recommended