If You Feel 'Too Ugly' For A Relationship, Watch This

We’re about to get really real today, so this is your invitation to mentally prepare. Are you single and feel like you’ll never be in a relationship? Why do you feel that way? If you clicked on this video, it might be that you believe your appearance is the reason for your single status. I hear you, and I think a lot of us have felt the same a time or two. However, I’m here to tell you this is not fact. This is perception. It’s both your perception of yourself and your perception of how others perceive you. Let’s talk about why you are not “too ugly” for a relationship and how to change this perception.

Disclaimer: Please know that this video is meant for informational purposes only. This is not meant to be a substitute for professional therapy. If you identify with this video, please reach out to a trusted mental health professional.

Writer: Brie Cerniglia
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Zyan
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Abc-rtqm]

I really loved this. Even if I don’t feel pretty, I still am, and so is everyone reading this comment. Feeling beautiful is what really counts, not what others say about it. Do whatever you want, just stay safe ❤️

[calliopeshifts]

honestly i don’t blame other people for not choosing me for a relationship, i wouldn’t choose me either :(

[tameraydin]

I can’t even imagine someone loving me romantically. Everyone around me has found the love of their lives and I haven’t even had a kiss

[slackerofhell]

I've been told I'm not attractive most of my life. I've had people pretend to ask me out just to laugh at me with their friends. I've had people tell me straight up that they or someone else is just better than me. At this point, why would I believe anything else when I've been told this same thing for nearly 28 years of existing?

[hnemmoz]

Im not body ugly, im face ugly, cant fix that

[Amy-lrce]

"this person is never gonna like me because I'm too ugly" is something that I have always said to myself, maybe it's also an excuse for not to open up an have feelings for that person. Being a teen it's pretty hard on these days; mental health, fake standards on social media, etc it's destroying my self esteem and it's not easy to recognize that you're not feeling okay. :/

[stranger]

I've felt too ugly for a relationship my entire life.

[erasto]

Low-key this channel gives the best therapy a person can ever receive.... People are slowly getting to love themselves and see themselves differently in a positive way... Big ups

[justrd]

This is a good video. However, when you're 33 years old and never had someone that seemed interested in you romantically in your entire life, it's hard to feel secure that you are good looking enough for a relationship and you won't be alone forever.

[matthacker]

Thanks for this video! I’d like to point out a couple of things:

1. The media still often portrays “beautiful” as skinny, muscular, etc. It’s a major reason why many people lose confidence. They’re so busy comparing themselves to others to stop and realize that many of these “healthy habits” that are being pushed are unrealistic.

2. Negative feelings about one’s attributes don’t go away overnight for most. Many people who think they’re ugly have spent months or even years struggling with that mentality.

[svan]

The reason why mental health has declined so much in today’s era is because of social media, you’re constantly looking at people who are more beautiful, more fit and more successful than you. You feel jealousy and insecurity, just delete all social media. It has helped me a lot and now I’m feeling a lot more confident than I used to.

[AbbyRenwick]

I’ve always had low self esteem, and sometimes I do think that I’m not good enough for a relationship. But this video has really helped me realise what beauty and self love can really be:)

[lauragadille]

I've been told I was too ugly to even being alive. This was in childhood into adulthood.

[x_kobalt]

I feel too particular for a relationship, that means I don't think I have that big amount of chances

[MissieMarie]

I am disabled, in a wheelchair, a bit chubby, have alopecia, and have majorly crooked teeth. Not only have I been bullied first hand, but society as a whole finds these things unattractive... then so do I. Yet when I'm by myself or at home, I personally don't find these things ugly. For me, they're just part of me. But the reason I have insecurities about them is because society says I need to. Food for thought.

I found out maybe people don't see our flaws as much as we do. I usually don't smile with teeth because I don't want my crooked teeth to show. So I do a sort of half smile with closed lips, and I guess the insecurity shows. My aunt told me that my natural toothy smile is beautiful and unique, and that it's just a part of the special unique being that is me.

So if you're reading this and have anything society says is "ugly"- like crooked teeth, frizzy hair, acne, birthmarks, scars, amputations, hair loss- you are beautiful, no matter what society says. It's part of what makes you, you. And you're pretty awesome, so please know that you deserve all the love. Stay strong, beautiful people. ❤

[MariaV]

I have been feeling ugly my entire life because of bullying, resulting in being single my entire life. So, I stopped wanting a relationship and just enjoy my life. I am getting old and life is too short to spend on my couch.

[feelstora]

The problem is if you've always and everywhere been told you're ugly (or even worse) of course at one point you start to believe it and it's hard to get away from that if people around you still act on that. Plus there exists no nice photo of me so it's really hard for me to believe otherwise... But I know that how you see yourself is not how others see you. And I slowly start to "accept" I can't change anything about it anyway.

[𝔲🅂ₑ𝓻④𝟘🈁]

0:50 Where did these feelings come from?
1:35 What do i do with these feelings?
2:21 Why you should care?
3:28 You are beautiful

[beamcore]

I’ve struggled with this problem for years along with my social anxiety… I can understand how these tips help others but I feel that I can’t tell myself these things and suddenly it magically becomes true… I’ve just turned 25 and not once in my entire life up til now has anyone shown any romantic interest in me… As each day goes by it gets harder and harder to believe it’ll ever happen… I honestly think I’m an incredibly boring, dull person and I can’t just tell myself positive things about myself simply because I believe they’re not true.

Rant over… but I truly hope these tips help someone out there

[herelizabethan]

Anyone remember when we would be called time travelers for commenting here before it was uploaded? I still love this channel as much as I did back then.