How to Not Get Offended and Ditch Your Ego - Terri Cole

How to Not Get Offended and Ditch Your Ego:
This week's Tune Up Tip is called "Got Ego," but it really could be called "How Offend-able Are You." How often do you find yourself saying things like, "I can't believe this person said that to me," "That person owes me an apology," or "I'm so pissed that they thought [or said] that." Do you often feel offended? Being offended is an ego response to what someone else has said and the cure is to realize that we cannot control others. We can only control how we respond and react. You can always speak your truth about a way someone else made you feel, but you're the only person whose opinion matters in your own life. Be mindful for the next seven days about not reacting to what other people say to you or about you. It's all about what you think of you.

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Let's Connect:

[stanford]

"How offend able are you?"- this is such a great question! I am now self-reflecting and feeling ownership. Thanks!

[ElaineSpringer]

All your tune-ups are so great to watch, Terri. A tune-up is a great name for them - I feel no matter who we are or where we are in life we can all benefit from your wisdom. Whether these just serve as a tiny reminder or cause a great revelation - these insights are precious, indeed. Thank you so much !

[phil..rubi]

Sadly I'm very easily offended and I think it might be ruining my life right now

[reviwerrajat]

can you differentiate between losing ego and losing self respect there is a thin line in between

[kennethprigmore]

That was juice!!!! Five 🌟 🌟⭐⭐⭐✨✨✨✨✨✳️✳️✳️✳️✳️🧨🎆🎇

[patriachyofficer]

U say anything to me you can probably really offend me but I just wana get over it

[davidconstantine]

Terri cole why are we so sensitive in general these days

[oliviahbardell]

i get offended when boys say “women don’t have rights” or “women aren’t funny” but they say the same joke one million times over and over again

[carolineseguin]

Wow you made me realize i do not get offended too :) feels great!

[Alex-nixv]

Is ego really that bad? What about when it motivates you to do something again and again until you succeed?

[dpu]

Well I am not a egotistical person but if someone offends me then I rely on karma.

[MonicaRanger]

Great vid, thx. My favorite line was "what others think is non of your business". Love that! Check out my channel if you like and thx again.

[somedaysometimes]

Today I came here because this person said a rude comment to my best friend. It was small, and then it got huge. He started swearing at me. Like, really offensive swearing (this was on an Instagram chat) and after I just feel really scared, sad and emotional. Can you help with this? Or is it something that the stuff in this video or I can fix?

[lobsangtharchin]

In society, you have no choice to deal with them all the time, others ego affects me badly, and you are saying all my fault? I don't understand your view.

[syedaa]

How should we respond when a life partner taunts u. In a situation like, u tell him, " I'm gonna make breakfast for u" and it is something u have done before and he responds like, "U? U r gonna wake up and make breakfast for me?" And laughs at u.

[xamandaxgatewayx]

Great video thank you. What about when you think others are being rude e.g. you send an urgent message out which requires a response and they never respond or you have a baby and they don't congratulate you... is that ego too? For expecting it.

[ShroneJohnson]

This is a great video! I came here because I'm feeling offended and I really didn't want to react by cussin' a MF out so I quickly searched a video to help me with my feelings. The problems is, although I rationally know that it's my ego, I'm having a hard time shaking the feeling.