Psychologist Explains How To Stop Getting Hurt / Offended Easily

Getting offended is one of the most unpleasant experiences. It goes against one of our deepest needs - to be understood and valued by others. Naturally, we want to prevent this. Some of the strategies we use to do that, however, only add further stress to our lives. In this video you'll learn about healthy strategies that allow you to get less easily hurt and offended.

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00:00 Introduction
00:36 Unhealthy Strategies To Try & Be Less Offendable
04:14 Healthy Strategies To Be Less Offendable
04:24 1) Take A Break From The Situation
04:53 2) Deconstruct Your Shame Spiral
07:48 3) Keep Nourishing Your Willingness To Do This Work
09:38 4) Work On Your Self-Care
10:33 5) How Do You Want To Proceed In This Relationship?
10:59 General Sensitivity Is Not The Problem
11:34 How Self-Worth Changes The Game

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▶ How To Be Less Affected By What Other People Think Of You
▶ What It Feels Like To Have A Strong Sense Of Self-Worth I Improving Confidence & Low Self-Esteem
▶ 5 Steps To Processing Emotional Injury In Relationships

[Shan.]

Finally a video where this subject is taken seriously and with empathy

[You_tubeqqq]

This is so true! I struggle so much with sensitivity with certain things. I try to come up with an explanation so I feel better but I end up feeling hurt once again if it’s mentioned. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive y’know?
It’s really like a physical pain in my heart and I feel like I can’t do any normal tasks because it just clouds my mind.

Nice video!

[Kaustav]

You just explained and expressed what I am precisely feeling inside my mind...the symptoms which triggers such thoughts...it made me cry

[JulianKeniryGreen]

This is such a kind and thought-provoking lesson. Thank you.

Some of these shameful memories have haunted me for years, and I do wonder whether I should have confronted the people or person who blamed me and others unfairly.

For example, instead of thanking me and the team for a job well done, a colleague simply said, "help us!" to me, after a workshop when I was securing carts for transport and collecting the shipment address for the hosts who wanted a certification kit. Maybe he assumed I was socializing with the male staffer, which I was not.

I had always hustled to put on our workshops, day and night, doing things behind the scenes no one knew, and enjoying it very much.

There are so many examples like this we all go through and never have the opportunity to correct the false assumptions. It helps to feel grounded in self worth and realize they might be transferring their own blame and shame instead of celebrating and listening to others with a loving heart, giving the benefit of the doubt, and "helping." 😢😂

[jonjuan]

This is the best video on you tube that i have seen on being offended and carrying shame. Thank you so much !

[ArshakAndriasov]

"We should take into consideration the fact that the source of our discomfort is often not the acts or words of other people, but rather our own views and self-conceptions." Wisdom and Reflection by Arshak Andriasov.

[reneerossouw]

Thank you for a profoundly interesting; educational and helpful video. You covered all aspects of something I was subconsciously not even aware of. The root of me getting easily offended is shame. Thank you for providing a step by step self-help program, with clarity, compassion and in a non-jusgemental way. I was using the wrong approach, exhaustibg myself. Your gentle tone is also very non-intimidating. With this video, you have allowed me to understand your profession better, to help others. Thank you! 🙏🏻

[elpida]

Wow AMAZING and very straight Forward, i knew that I felt offened by one specific topic because i was ashamed... I really try to Work on it

[ABB-]

The shame spiral I have is less like “why would they say something like that?” but more like “why **am** I like this?” and I find it so hard to change, so so hard. And I wish I could be someone else. I feel like my life isn’t salvageable, even if I do everything right for the rest of my life, I already lost my chance at happiness and I have no one in my team to help me. Nobody really likes me anymore, unless I hide big parts of me.
I wanted to add, thanks for your channel, you have a very soothing voice and I’m glad there are people like you trying to help people like me.

[vilmanassar]

Very well explained thank you so much.

[pinthecat]

Im glad i found this video. I really need it

[saudmolaib]

This video was very validating and revealing. Thank you ❤

[jamespatient]

Thank you for this Maika, you're extraordinary:)

[tessellatiaartilery]

What a wonderful video. Informative, sensitive, careful, encouraging and empowering. Thank you very much Dr. Maika. You are surely helping many people with your channel, and this video. All the very best to you and other viewers. ❤

[kirstenschweikert]

Thank you. You explained the mechanism of the shame spiral so well and also the way out of it. That was very helpful for me and I feel a lot more selfcompassion for myself now. Growing up in a family with an alcoholic father and a mentally ill mother I developed a strong shame spiral with which I have to deal quite a lot. But developing more and more selfcompassion and practicising mindfulness also helps to get out of the circle.

[thano]

Thank you! I found your message to be very sincere and helpful 😊

[drea_p]

This is exactly what I needed today. Thank you so much

[vanetiawellington]

Thank you so much for this. I really needed this.

[saras.]

7:42 “Shame dissipates in the connection, love, and acceptance of another person.”