How NOT to Get Offended (Stoic Wisdom for a Thicker Skin)

Stoic wisdom for getting less offended.

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Andrew Langdon - Light Gazing
Doug Maxwell - Lost in Prayer

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#stoicism #offended #insults

[ld_Scratch]

"Do not pray for an easy life. Pray to be stronger man."

[ArcanumLab]

And they get offended because you are not offended.

[thebrotherhood]

“It’s silly to escape other people’s faults, just try to escape your own” -Marcus Aurelius

[chuckyb]

"Everything is powerless without your reaction" - The Godfather.

[Watchpeoplesurvive]

"If they offend you, they control you"

[ruthjones]

My late grandfather taught me how to deal with people who are being offensive towards me. Stay silent and smile 😊. It’ll drive them crazy 😜

[sss-mdhd]

The worst kind of offense is when ur own friends, f r i e n d s, are laughing at you, cursing at you and getting personal with the insults and jokes. And then when a third party comes along you immediately become the sensitive person in the group who can’t take a joke and ur told to ‘chill’ and that they’re just ‘roasting’ you and the ‘why so serious’ crap. Shit hurts man, if ur joking make it clear that you’re joking to the person you’re joking to ‘cause words can hurt like a bitch.

[DanTrustsTheFathersPlan]

My belief is that if the person intentionally tries to offend you their opinion automatically loses any value to me anyhow.
Excellent content here too Sir! Peace & Prosperity

[crackerjack]

"To the thin-skinned man, everything hurts, " me to me.

[clarapilier]

In my country, we have a saying. "Words only matter depending on who says them in relation to you."
Only I can decide who can offend me. In my case it's only people who know me extremely well and if I want to.

[KiralearnsNorwegian]

This is EXACTLY what I needed before heading to the fam's for the holidays :)

[douglassfunnie]

"He who walks with anger, walks without dignity" - Samurai Jack.

[makawecki]

We can't deny it. Being offended is part of the human experience. Embrace it. Unpack it. Di-sect it. The question is how are we going to react to the offense.

[traderpapertiga]

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
Wayne Dyer

[ottopettersson]

It feels like the people who needs to watch this arent the people watching this

[boondoggle]

For me, I find that feeling insulted comes largely from seeking the validation of others, and people want you to seek their approval and validation as a means of enforcing groupthink and controlling you. The problem is that I reject groupthink and people’s validation, as I think that my own happiness is more important, and I insist on being free to think for myself because that’s the only way that I can have peace and happiness. If something that someone is saying or doing does nothing to bring anymore joy or happiness to my life during my short time here, then I just don’t care. Internal validation and prioritizing your own happiness go a long way towards minimizing the impact of insults.

[williambarrett]

i needed this. its hard to talk to others about how you are easily offended as everyone associates it with weakness

[pilgrimsgold]

Dear Einzelgänger, you got me fall in love with stoicism and it changed my whole life. Thank you for that, and keep up your good work!
Greetings from germany

[sajejekyllhyde]

I really needed this. I’ve been defending myself with some quick witted humor but when I’m alone I tend to dwell on feeling (offended) when really i had no need to. It’s funny how the mind works, but it’s always better when you know how to work the mind.
Thank you.

[edwardseverinsen]

I think the important thing here is to remember that this is *for you* and not for other people around you. Going into this with the wrong intention of _looking_ more confident and cool around others will defeat the purpose of it. You need to truly do this for your own mental health and not a place of ego where you want to one up someone by making them think you don't care because that in and of itself is caring.