Why Are People So Easily Offended?

Broken people hurt each other. It is a sad but enlightening truth. As people are not perfect, they tend to do things that can be offensive. But what if I tell you that you can choose to not be offended when faced with this common predicament? In today's video, I'm giving you four specific questions you can ask yourself to help you stay out of the "easily-offended" mentality.

00:19 Imperfect people do stupid things
01:22 Concept of choice
02:43 The victim paradigm
04:27 Personal vs impersonal component
05:49 How did I create this?
07:50 What can I learn from this?
09:16 What is my commitment to myself and others moving forward?

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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Track: Kisma - We Are [NCS Release]
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Video by Nate Woodbury

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[CharlesBukowski-mo]

The irony of this video is that the cyber-stalkers will get offended that we're actually offended by them getting offended. (NO-CONTACT CURES ALL IN THAT CASE!)

[gremlin]

In these days and times, I feel like humanity is doomed.

[jeanpaulfelix]

It has more to do with ego than anything else. If you had no ego you would not be offended. In time you may realize that You are no one and act accordingly. In the age of narcissism, this is a monumental test that few will pass.

[ceftomapothelyamburcsvlafr]

I said all positive words and I still offended people, by then picking up on one of those positive things and turn it into negative and start a fight.

[CYSYS]

Easily offended people are the #1 reason why I find it hard to apologize or accept responsibility. It's not like when you throw a baseball and smash a window by accident (or otherwise) in which the damage and the one who caused it is obvious. No matter how good or harmless your intentions are, no matter how well you behave, none of that matters. If anyone still gets "offended" by that behavior, for example, allegedly accuse you of "harassment" or say that you made them feel uncomfortable, they're automatically right and you're automatically the asshole. Naturally, you'd try to explain the situation, try to clear away the misunderstandings made by the offended party, only to get accused of making excuses. The verdict gets decided in favor of the offended party while your side of the story, your harmless intentions, are never addressed. Getting in trouble nowadays seems to depend more on what they claim, rather than what you did.

[FAITHFULQRX]

I was always mentally strong I wouldn’t get offended. It’s a waste of energy

[buckeyefangirl]

I am in my early 60's and was just was just thinking about this very thing last night. People are so "sensitive" for lack of a better word, these days. I'm afraid to say anything to anyone. I suppose I'm also old and out of touch with a lot of the current stuff. I'm a liberal minded person but so much has changed and changes every day that I don't know what to say or how to say it. For instance, I don't know how to address all the gender changes when I meet people. Or how to talk to people of other races without saying something that offends them. I certainly don't INTEND to offend anyone. I've always tried to honor everyone and be kind. I never intend to hurt anyone or anything. But these days some people take offense at the smallest thing and that doesn't even begin to address road rage which really scares me that I will tick someone off and be shot! It's a scary new world for sure. People are under so much stress and things are so weird. Thanks for addressing this. 👍☺

[guyfitter]

As a behaviour management (aka attention management) teacher, I wish all teachers could watch and benefit from the freedom this video offers. Articulately put! Thank you

[darkmax]

Modern society created validation for people to get easily offended. Years ago, people worked for their happyness and success. This is one of the billion reasons.

[AlanaL]

I decided in high school not to be someone who is easily offended because I thought it added so much unnecessary drama to life! I truly believe Christ opened my eyes to that reality and gave me the strength, grace and love for others to truly not be easily offended. It’s silly. I’m not perfect and I hope for others’ grace towards me when I mess up because oh, trust me, I WILL!

[sarahbrennan]

Hurt people hurt happy people and sometimes these people just hate their life so much... they want to push their negativity onto happy 😃 people. It’s very sad... but unfortunately people like this can’t even be befriended... 🙏🏻😍 great video.,

[sabrinadaid]

the guy i love said i'm trash at talking and actually im overthinking that right now i seriously cant stop thinking about it

[KingCali]

Society must play a huge part of it, considering how easily offended people are nowadays. Haven't watched the full video yet though, so I don't know if you brought it up or not. Will finish it as soon as I can, thanks for uploading! I like to listen to other reasons (such as yours) to see it from all angles, shout out from Sweden!

[homewithriss]

Wow this is powerful! Great information as usual. Thank you for these videos!

[understance]

I hate when people feel entitled to be offened on other people's behalf

[전유정-gi]

The refusal to be held hostage in order to move forward!

[regulor]

#2 is extremely inconvenient but extremely important. People hate taking responsibility. A few years ago someone I know had their car broken into. When the Police came, the officer attempted to educate the victim about how they could avoid the situation. The victim FLIPPED OUT and went on to lambaste the officer because he was supposedly blaming the victim. I was there and witnessed the interaction, and I can objectively say that the cop was 100% right and the victim was 100% wrong. The victim hated the idea that they could have taken measures to limit the likelihood of their things getting stolen. They hated to think that it was partially their “fault”. The victim was so stuck in their own prideful ignorance that they couldn’t see the other side of the coin, even though it was staring them in the face. However, the cop handled the entire situation calmly and gracefully. Respect.

[j.h.]

There’s also a way you can look at it from a self-defense standpoint in target avoidance, or trying not to be selected by criminals, but that’s a whole other line of thought...Thanks for this message.

[georges_biscuit]

I always get tired of my teachers telling us that all of us are very misbehaved kids even if I'm not one of them. I tried everything to be the "best smart" kid but instead all of it just wasted my time doing the things I love by taking all this bad stuff in to me. Making me think that I'm the victim to the situation.
Thanks by the way. Im happy that I don't have to go through all this again. ^w^

[adumitrascu]

This is so true people nowadays get so offended by anything