How to NOT Take Things Too Personally - Jocko Willink & Echo Charles

Excerpt: Conversation from JOCKO PODCAST 66.

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[derekshoemaker]

I had a combat instructor who said, "If you take shit to heart you're going to have a heart full of shit." That's always stuck with me.

[redbrown]

I teach my students about how to deal with this emotion often.

"Anger is the by product of fear".
So whenever you feel yourself start to get angry, stop and ask yourself, what am I afraid of right now?

And sometimes it's the fear of being wrong. Or the fear that what the person is saying about you is true. Or for a lot of men, it's the fear of being disrespected by another man.

Wisdom tells us that feelings are often times unreliable. They can deceive you and make you forget that anger is one letter short of DANGER!!

So NEVER FORGET!! this little nugget of wisdom.

[americanboxer]

"Whenever you get angry it's because you've been made to see something about yourself that you don't like. If you fix that you'll fix everything" Roy Jones Sr."

[creasybear]

Me - how do I not take things personally?

Jocko - Jiu Jitsu

[Blake]

I remember being at a party in highschool (30+years ago) and opened up a door to a bedroom and some dude was on the floor doing push ups...

[alexspec]

These guys look like they`re outta Gear of War or something. Great podcast btw.

[coolvania]

The more Jocko + Echo wisdom, the better.

This video couldn't have came at a better time.

Thanks again Jocko and Echo!

Through listening to this podcast non-stop throughout the summer, you've helped me drastically change my perspective on life.

[livefast]

That’s confidence. You must carry an abundance mentality that you already have what you need and not only that, but that you have what is required to be successful. Of course this requires that you actually put in the work for self-improvement. Put in the work, be aware of your weaknesses and strengths, current abilities and make daily changes to move toward perfection in all areas. Of course perfection will never be achieved, but the act of pursuing it over time will bring incredible changes and results in one’s life. As you move toward the right direction, out in the work, and achieve small victories, this is where confidence comes from. This is where you don’t take things too personally.

[MrCandyPants]

I do dips and pushups before I listen to a Jocko podcast

[Joe-sgtk]

Drill sergeant always told us "get over it". That was 1979. Stayed w me till now.

[robertjameskaiser]

Love these excerpts. I usually have the podcasts running on YouTube, in the background while I'm at work, because I like to see your guys expressions while you discuss things. It's nice to be able to get these 5-10 minute nuggets of wisdom without having to watch the whole episode, or remember where it was when I wanna go back and watch it.

[cblaskoski]

Thanks Jocko and Echo I don't know how YouTube knew I needed to hear this, this morning but it really helped me swallow my pride and work on fixing a problem rather than being pissed off.

[nc]

Jocko, Echo, and his guests are intelligent and empowering people. This podcast is a blessing to this nation. It's humbling as a civilian, that I even have access to hearing this. First responder groups > military branches, police, firefighters are all intelligent and incredible people.

[adrianxs]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. The way echo explained to jocko that you COULD take things personally and it not be true it could still bother you if your insecure about it. The way jocko explains hey man its good to beable to recognize this way of thinking. It’s dangerous. So I got upset at work today when a girl ask me if i bought my car I took it as “oh she thinks my mom bought it” I handle the situation poorly instead of being detached and not caring weather or not she believed me. And maybe answering with sarcasm. Even though I’m still thinking about the situation the following day I’m glad it happen I think its going to help become a better person and change my way of thinking.

[h.y.]

Why is Echo's left bicep looking like Thanos' chin

[kobefann]

I never used to take things personally and just laugh, recently I have been introduced to a lot of stress and that has made me take even jokes with friends personally and get combative to any little thing.. I’ve caught myself

[blacklabeldjsmilwaukee]

Holy shit echo is jacked! I've only heard the podcast and did not put a man of that stature to his voice. Great message, great show guys.

[abelmagana]

jocko and echo, what you guys are doing is great in my opinion, talking about life problems and resolutions positivity keep it up ...

[KBoss]

When somebody says something to us that we take personally and makes us really mad, I think we often get mad because they’ve uncovered a truth about us that we know is true, but we don’t want to look at that truth or we’re simply not ready to yet.

[Jm_archive]

Screw you two guys for calling me out. I needed it. Thank you. 👌🏽