8 Signs You Might Be Toxic And Tips to Change

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Video by Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on integrative behavioral health approaches including counseling techniques and skills for improving mental health and reducing mental illness.

[nelliem]

A powerful thing i like to remember is "It is not my fault (that i act this way) but it is my responsibility to change."

[ladev]

This is a nice change from everyone constantly focusing on everyone else being toxic or a narcissist. Not nearly enough focus on self!

[MagicMelInNZ]

Violating boundaries
Controlling
Jealousy
Frequent lying
Self Centeredness
Poor communication
Blaming/victimhood
Superiority/judgemental
❤🙏 thank you this was excellent✨

[mikejarrells]

Thanks. I'm toxic. I'm trying to find that healthy balance between being toxic and being a door mat. Your videos are helping me heal.

[ol]

love this! often narcissist or toxic people are made out to be monsters when most of us have some of these traits to one degree or another. Really balanced, healthy video, thank you.

[JulieBounmasanonh]

First steps to healing yourself is realizing your toxic and getting help 😊

[huffysheraton]

Ugh, when I think back on it I was Chernobyl level toxic when I was in high school. Trying to do better as an adult, it's not easy!

[NeonCicada]

As a society, we NEED more of this.
_I thank you greatly!!!_ 🙂

[paceyourself]

I needed this. I just lost a very important 5 year relationship. It was mutual in the sense we both knew deep down it was toxic but I was the toxic bond that did the final push to make her feel the need to walk away. I’m not proud of this but I’m determined to spot and work through my toxic patterns that I learned through observation & to cope from a dysfunctional family. I love her but I know I have to let her go and work on me to become the person I feel I am deep down inside. I watched this whole video, and will return several times. Thanks Doc Snipes!

[letstalklife]

I have toxic relationship and its mostly me, because of abandonment and past relationship hurts...not to mention toxic parents growing up.

[evahometx]

Been in recovery for many years. I struggle with codependency and self center behaviors. This so very good. Thanks.

[kdjourney]

It happens in small layers and is often my Inner Child being poorly parented.

[FaithFashionFinances]

I was never afraid to look at my toxic traits and be honest about them, the downside to that is as a healing codependent people who don’t want to look at themselves try to fix you when they should look at themselves.

[aquariusstar]

This was uncomfortable like i knew it would...you confirmed some things I had a hunch about, I just needed to get a second perspective such as this. I have corrected some of these behaviors after reflection, but I still hv work to do. Thanks for confirming these are learned behaviors so there is nothing to be ashamed about or to shame others bc they learned these behaviors too. Also, i recognize how i have been in some toxic relationships, and I've sustained them bc of my own toxic patterns. Thank you!

[garybowler]

Several places where I worked were toxic and I responded in kind, not good. After getting a new job it took some time to reorient so I understand.

[maynoralvarado]

At first I was not toxic, but at the end of my last relationship I become a toxic person. I’m scared, because I have a soar behavior!!

[melodysanquist]

I dated a guy for two months when I caught him going through my phone, reading old and personal messages between me and my grown children, and any other old message from the previous 5 years. I was so creeped out I couldn’t dump him fast enough!

[lisas]

Dr. Snipes, I so appreciate your content (and I am especially enjoying this teaching on examining when we are actually the toxic ones), thank you!

[billthelen]

Thank you Dr Snipes for doing this video I have thought for a while that I might be the toxic one but I'm living in denial of it. One way that I am toxic is that I don't trust that I won't be hurt. I'm afraid of setting boundaries because when I do and they get broke I become very angry. One suggestion that you gave here is to honestly take a look at what our boundaries are and write them down and share it
I don't trust that my wife loves me. I'm threatened by my wife having a close relationship with our son. Lying is a big defect of mine because again I'm afraid of being hurt. My lying is trivial over small matters. Passive aggressive communication and behavior is something that I need to overcome. I place myself in both the place of being blamed and blaming others. Your suggestion to take a look at my pattern of the way I communicate Mindfully and non-judgmentally taking a look at the relationships I'm in and my part in them is the beginning of change. Writing things down helps me to see things clearly. Thank you Dr Snipes for your in depth video on our relationships and how we might be toxic.

[adrewdio]

Thanks for your insightful precepts and for helping me see a little clearer about my caregivers, how their childhoods affected me, my Brothers and later, my interactions with Supervisors/Bosses. Communication and self help books like yours saved me from much more trauma, as I went threw it, threw every chapter of my life. Excellent on communication, capacities and style...highly recommended you to everyone I chat with.