A NARCISSIST EXPLAINS- A NARCISSIST ISNT ALWAYS YOUR TYPE. IGNORING A NARCISSIST WILL ANGER THEM NPD

A NARCISSIST ISN'T ALWAYS YOUR TYPE. A NARCISSIST WILL TREAT YOU BADLY FOR MAKING THEM CHASE YOU AND PURSUE YOU OVER THE YEARS.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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[nicolehewitt]

We need Holy Spirit discernment to deal with these people y’all. 💯

[therealqueenv]

That’s why a healed secure person will be narcissist deterrent. Secure people will not tolerate abuse. When the punishment and abuse starts and no accountability and responsibility it’s time to go. It took a lot of healing for me to learn this. But I turned that pain into power. get some standards and stop lowering them.

[LadybugPhil]

You don't have to be "pretty" to expect good treatment. Everyone deserves to be loved and valued. A good heart outweighs outside beauty.

[cynthiafortier]

Yup, I was NOT attracted to him AT ALL. He just would not stop, he pushed me into a mess. Lesson learned!!!!

[ericahampton]

My ex did EXACTLY this‼️ I felt safe and when I started dating him, he treated me like COMPLETE and TOTAL 💩

[DanteWesker]

I'm amazed that there's a narcissist who is aware of the way he is and has decided to make an effort to spread awareness of disorders like NPD

[kevinprovenzano]

Should have stayed in the friendzone…Yeah Pretty much. I’ve noticed that when someone gives you a bad feeling in your stomach, that’s your body saying your brain isn’t working.

[mantwamadiba]

Wow! Thank you. Stop lowering your standards for people.

[TheOriginalJenafire]

Wow.. This is crazy. I deserve to be treated well because I'm a good person, I'm loyal, hard working, easy going, not materialist, fun etc. I'm also attractive but never vain or conceited. I guess that's still to be punished in the mind of a narcissist. The only upside is I was abused by attractive narcissists. I know there is no upside but geesh. Having any self esteem, even the healthy kind, is threatening to these sick souls.

[minibuns]

Im Self aware. We make you feel like we the easiest decision you ever made in life, that’s the goal

[pagemastrogiovanni]

Just had an "aha" moment. I had several narcissists pursue me relentlessly for year or so like I was some kind of trophy, and I had no attraction to any of them except they were smart. Smart is my type but these were malignant, manipulative hustlers. They pretended to be my good true blue friend, but once the mask slipped... OMG, they were the Cracken! They punished me and did (or tried to) and said every thing you said. But I never thought I was this or that because I suffered from low self-esteem. But one of my narcs said he NEVER understood why his friends hated the friend zone because he viewed the friend zone as a stepping stone or formality to getting where he wanted.

[coreecooke]

My narc was so intimidated by my looks and hated that I received so many compliments while out he started to un invited to places said I couldn't go anywhere with him every outing was a "guys night" he was just overall jealous that I was attractive this makes total sense

[kindredsurvivors]

Had this happen to me!! He PUBLICLY pursued me... then PUBLICLY degraded me once he had me!! At first I was embarrassed until I realized that everyone saw it for what it was and then he blamed me because he made a fool of himself in the process of trying to damage me!! 😂😂😂😂

[rturtle]

I never dated him because i felt safe but he did chase me and love bomb me until i gave in. I didn’t know about love bombing and i never dealt with a person with NPD before. I naively believed his lies. I gave in because i thought a man who would go through this much effort for me deserved a chance and he was very charming. His looks were a little above average but his charm was like a secret weapon.

[Anarramirezw]

That was true, my ex was older and obese when he was on highschool and in School of Medicine, the attractive girls never looked at him. So he married another doctor student that was overweight like him. Four years before I met him he got a bariatric surgery and lost weight.
He chases and seduces nightclub models, local beauty queen aspirants and strippers to show his colleagues and friends that he can have these kind of women. He divorced his wife because she wasn't thin and she has a post master degree, he likes women intellectualy inferior to him, so he only shows as an "official girlfriend" these kind of girls, and the professionals and intellectual girls are in the shadows as mistresses only. He hated me because when I met him I was underweight, I had a treatment for a condition that made me lost weight (Hyperthyroidism). In the devaluation stage, he always made fun of me and said that I was too thin and I had no butt and was almost flat chested, he even hit me for that and humilliated me in front of other doctors, he even laughed at me because I am 30 years old and I look like in my 20s. He was envious because in his mind he was still fat and older.

[godsfavor]

Yes my daughter felt safe with him not knowing at the time she was sitting in the lion’s mouth. When it snapped down, it caused some damage and she got away with some injuries but is now on amends and has learned her lesson.

You’re absolutely right Lee he wasn’t attractive as she and made her feel like a 3 at the end of the situationship. That confidence she once had vanished but is now living her life like it’s GOLDEN!!! 😉

[antoinettegorman]

This is exactly what happened to me . I had no interest whatsoever. But I gave him benefits of doubt. I did get pregnant quite quickly. That’s when the treatment started .

[liljerseygirl]

All of this is so scarey, how can someone treat another human being so horrible? Some balls! One of the many reasons I'm too afraid to go back with him. But, you're right, it's not all about physical appearance. They look for someone the have the best chance of controlling.

[keeleehudson]

Yep! That safety aspect is so true! I've learned to feel safe within myself.

[VintageNailArt]

Well… I’m younger, smarter, make more money, have more education, treated him like the fuckbuddy he behaved like, kept my distance (emotionally), etc because I knew something was off.
This definitely explains why he got me pregnant (I’m thinking intentionally) and started to treat me like crap. Guess he didn’t really expect me to terminate and move on with my life. Still help him out because I’m that kind of person.
Relentless pursue pt2.. decides to friendzone me when I’m finally willing to give him a chance… I move on, keep him as a friend and start dating someone else.. he goes full on dark trying to destroy me emotionally with what he knew would actually hurt.
Piece of S. “Should’ve stayed in the friendzone” indeed. Or you know.. the one night he was always meant to be. 😒


(And no, I don’t think I’m better than everyone, just him because of his actions. I would say he is just as attractive as me although I may seem more successful. Is not being conceited, but rather acknowledging that I was and probably am in a better position than that cheating, lying, manipulative pos 🙃)