What We Wish We Knew About Sex Before We Got Married

Sex is a beautiful gift from God given to a couple to enjoy within the confines of marriage. However, often times people don’t talk about what it takes to have a satisfying and fulfilling sex life in your marriage. Most often, people just assume and expect that everything will happen naturally and you won’t have to work at it. In this video, my wife Jennifer Parr and I will discuss some ways we’ve improved our intimacy and we suggest you implement in your marriage as well.

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[thebeatagp]

Hey BEAT family! My uploading schedule got off by one day this week but I wanted to upload this before the weekend ended. My wife and I have been planning on doing some videos on marriage and relationships and here is one of the ones we shot recently. I hope you enjoy this IF it applies to where you are right now in your life.

[whunt]

Rule 1 never stop dating rule 2 always tell them randomly how pretty and smart your wife is wives tell your husband how proud of them you are. Rule 3 don't wait for special days to get them a small gift.

[nickdiso]

Just got engaged 2 weeks ago after dating for a year and a half. We are waiting! It is not easy but it will definitely be worth it!

[sissyrae]

This video made me cry. My husband and I have been married going on seven years, and I was saved about four months ago. He jumped on board shortly after. While our marriage has healed significantly (before I got saved, we each had one foot out the door), our sex life is still suffering. My biggest problem is I never get cuddles without him trying for more every single time. Sometimes I just want to be held without being expected to "perform". He shows love in other ways, but I'm sorely missing that emotional connection, and that part of your video really hit home. I'm going to have him watch this later. Please pray for us in this matter, and thank you for sharing these things! God bless!

[JuanDukeSharpII]

This topic is a great one that needs to happen more often! B/c our sex life w/ kids, business, and ministry can play a huge toll on our marriage! Shoot TBH, I was upset today b/c my wife wasn’t in the mood! SMH… I had an attitude all day!! 😂🤦🏾‍♂️ Lawd help me!! Thank y’all for this video! I’ll try and talk with my wife tonight, instead of giving her the short-answer-silent treatment!! Y’all pray for us! 🙏🏾

[dboydustin]

I do think that singles and engaged people should watch this. It’s tasteful enough and done at a level high enough that you don’t get into the specific and cause lust or unneeded emotions but the point is still heard loud and clear. Very well done.

[TheInsida]

This is great- an honest discussion on sex from a Christian couple done with real integrity. Bless you guys!

[paulajames]

Your wife has such a respectful and kind tone in her voice/spirit. I need more of that. Sexuality is so important. Glad it can be talked about openly. Wish more churches could do the same.

[stephaniesharp]

We ask each other do you feel up to it. We never force each other for sex because we think something is going on. We talk about the reason why we don't feel like it. Communication is very important in a marriage or relationship.

[mizzmeliinspires]

Pastor Allen your wife is so lovely! Not just her physical apperance but her sweet soft voice and caring heart shines through as she speaks! What a woman of God :) Thanks for this video!

[jacquelynedwards]

As a single, this was very helpful to know. More topics on these things should be talked about in church because of all the temptations out there to think sex in marriage is not that great.

[alishadtm]

Your wife speaks with so much grace. The light of Jesus is evident in her. God bless you both!

[mastersway]

BEAUTIFULLY DONE! My 3 favorite take-aways: 1. Discern your season 2. Adjust your expectations to your season 3. Prioritize connecting with your spouse emotionally. ---Thank you both for this!

[starockprince]

Single men let's gather here in the Lord as we wait for the next video 😅

[newcreationinchrist]

My first experience with sex was getting raped multiple times so I've had a lot that God has had to help me with in this area. Please pray for me that I can think purely in this area of my life because it's been a life long struggle for me. Thx 🙏

[Eka]

This was the cleanest discussion on sex in marriage. Really well done 🙏🏾

[joymosley]

Thanks Parr's, as a single, I felt that you all explained this with respect and tact. So many people including Christians don't know how to talk about the subject without being afraid or w/out going to far to seem cool. As a counselor I really appreciate this and will be sharing with my single girlfriends.

[nathanieldaiken]

I'm glad you brought up illness. It can really wipe out your sex life. Also, aging changes what you want, capability, and frequency. Men also have emotional needs: we are not machines.

[Qedoshim]

1 Corinthians 7:5 "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."

[jondal]

Please saints pray for me. I pray God give me strength to be delivered from lust of pornography indeed please. Thank you 🙏🏾 I fast, pray, then I find myself falling, but I feel like I’m on the edge of been delivered. I’m just sick of this, I regret opening that door