What Is LIMERENCE? The Link Between Unmet Childhood Needs & Romantic Obsession

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In today's video, Thais Gibson explains the 6 key differences between limerence and infatuation.
Watch now to find out what these differences are and what you can do if you or someone you know experiences limerence, as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:06 - What Is Limerence
00:01:35 - The 6 Key Differences Between Infatuation and Limerence
00:04:20 - What is limerence actually telling us
00:05:01 - 6 Stages of a Relationship
00:06:38 - IAT Promo
00:07:32 - What Can We Do About Limerence?
00:08:27 - Unmet Needs
00:11:14 - Traits
00:14:57 - Limerence and cheating
00:16:00 - Conclusion
00:16:20 - Course Promo: Overcoming Limerence

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[ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Have you ever experienced limerence before? What was your experience like? ❤

[Calicokitty]

A cringe when I realize how exactly this described me for years until I started listening to PDS. I had no clue limerence was a thing! Thank you for opening my eyes.

[Littleowl]

Limerence can feel like a helpful dream that gets me through the day. I suppose other people will daydream about hamburgers and being a millionaire, I'll daydream that the unattainable love object is chilling with me as I slog through some task or other. I'm not sure what need they meet specifically, but it just feels like they're always coming towards me, standing next to me. I had to tough it out alone a lot when I was little. I do make a habit of being there for myself more these days and not dissociating like I used to. But when I'm limerent I couldn't tell you what I liked, all I know is that being around them is like being high on drugs. But I don't let it stop me doing the things I want to do, I imagine them with me as I do them 😂

[carlosbautista]

Limerence is what brought me to PDS, so at the very least I’ll be always forever grateful for that 😂. Still going with the trait integration, which in my case was even bigger than the needs part. Not easy work, but it’s just very pertinent feedback at the end of the day. The funniest thing is that isn’t really about the person that we are in limerence with, even when it’s so easy to be so externally focused on them, and thus believing that it’s about them. But no. Good luck to everyone going through that, as it’s usually rooted as almost always in childhood unresolved trauma limerence really goes in my opinion to the roots of our lives

[danitaoliver]

I always imagine us touching, kissing, just being close in each other’s Company. He’s unavailable, he also enjoys Bread Crumbing, not just me but others Females as well, who are in his Sphere. I’m questioning the

[GrdyGenius]

I dealt with this a LOT when I first got out of rehab. I thought it was simply my emotions being awakened, after numbing them with substances and alcohol for almost a year straight. I’ll be two years clean and sober on the 25th of this month, and the feelings are still there, but it alternates from one woman to another, then another. I have two at work, and a handful at each meeting I frequent. I guess even my fantasies like variety.

[LifeExplanatory]

This is incredible, god is good so is Thais! I was just talking about a guy whom I was dating who was in serious limerence at the beginning stage. 2 months down the line, things got more serious and he revealed that he was in a 3 year relationship…With a guy who is married to another guy🤓

So limerence = a red flag to me now 🚩

[driiput]

I was going to say that I don't think you have to know someone to "love" them. Love to me is what I feel for my kids, but romantic love is different. I think that we want who we want before we talk to them. It's energy and vibration, and attraction. Hopefully they don't turn out to be a BH, cuz if it's happening, it's happening.

[Ingrafre]

Hey Thais, these examples of your rich experience with concrete events of other people's lifes enrich our understanding enormously! Please continue with bringing such stories.

[freespirit]

Thank u for sharing this video.✨ I reall hate the feeling when I am in limerence.

.now I know why I keep obsessing with a person...it's their traits that I hunger as my needs for myself..soo.wow💛

[vallea]

Thank you for this very informative video.

[ModusVivendiMedia]

I have never had a relationship that even remotely resembled those 6 phases that you describe, or that kind of timeline. For instance, one relationship had a power struggle from day one (which never went away), all the rest never had a power struggle at all, even after 10 years. I also never noticed any difference that would describe stability, commitment, or bliss "stages".

And while I do have a tendency to occasionally (maybe once every 5-10 years) fall in love with someone I'm not actually dating in a way that might feel like limerence or infatuation, it only happens after knowing them and talking to them for a month or two (generally as a classmate or coworker), never just "love at first sight". (And also not really while I'm already in a relationship with someone else.) Also, I didn't sense that those people particularly embodied anything that I was missing, I just felt that they seemed potentially very compatible.

I also find the apparent need of psychologists to devalue other people's feelings and describe them as being "not real" or something other than "true love" by making up a succession of essentially derogatory characterizations, from crush to infatuation to limerence to whatever someone will come up with next, to be deeply insulting and not particularly useful.

[loopperson]

You are the You've really evolved with your vids too. Thank you! You are very appreciated! ❤

[storm]

This is def one of my top favorite vids from PDS. I love the shadow work aspects ❤❤

[davinathedivine]

My feelings for him developed over a period of time. It’s been 14 months I wasn’t drawn to him so strongly until I prayed about him & god made it perfectly clear that him & I have a mission together. Then after that the feelings just got stronger & stronger

[sifublack]

Interesting... so limerence is essentially about someone making you feel secure and having traits you lack. I guess the old adages, "wanting what you can't have" and "opposites attract" come into play here...🤔

[ForrestMystic]

Wow. I've only had 2 relationships get to stage 3, and never further.

[GeoffreyAngapa]

And what I can't stand is Shmollywood's glorification of this, painting it as if one is helpless, without self-control, and of course, the spouse or partner often framed as the rotter. If it feels good, why not?

[saragalangil]

I have suffer limerence since forever. I actually touch rock bottom in 2023. Like when you eat the same food all the time I end up 🤢 not sure if I have heal but the only idea of entering in limerence again made me 🤢 PDS was my way out! Thx

[danitaoliver]

❤THANK YOU THAIS. IS THERE A CERTAIN ATTACHMENT STYLE THAT HAS LIMERENCE MORE THAN OTHERS? ALSO WILL THE COURSE ON LIMERENCE IDENTIFY N ADDRESS THE HUNGER, N THE NEED FOR TRAIT INTERGRATION?❤