What Happens When You Stop Chasing An Avoidant Attachment Style?

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In this video, Thais Gibson reveals what happens when you stop chasing an avoidant attachment style? This includes the fearful avoidant attachment style (disorganized attachment style) and the dismissive avoidant attachment style.
Learn about the concept of "feeling minus fears" as well as the importance of knowing your needs as Thais offers up some guidance and tips. For a much deeper dive into advanced needs, explore the empowering course, "Advanced Needs Course: Understand, Express, Equilibrate & Reparent Your Needs," for powerful tools you can begin using immediately.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:10 - Feelings Minus Fears
00:02:51 - 7-Day Free Trial: Advanced Needs Course
00:03:07 - Know Your Needs
00:04:13 - Set A Deadline
00:05:01 - Conclusion

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[harsieseutasu]

The emotional abuse ends? yay!!! No more ghosting, stonewalling, gaslighting, lying, cheating and fault finding??!! Yay!!!!

[nicolesiemens]

Basically what happens is the relationship ends. Because they don't care about you at all. They love when people "chase" them- but that's all they want. The second the relationship moves to a more "serious" stage- they begin belittling you, playing mind games and giving you the silent treatment- followed by attempting to get YOU to break up with them, because theyre like a child when it comes to relationships. They WANT you to continually tell them how amazing they are- without THEM having to put any effort into the relationship.
Honestly, it's just not worth it. It's emotionally exhausting, and you feel like you wasted months- if not years of your time on a person who will never give back to you.

[sshuteandrew]

When you stop chasing you become liberated and set free. Stop chasing. Now. Live your best life!

[Annakb]

What happens when you stop chasing them……. You realize you deserve someone who can actually reciprocate a relationship, you deserve consistency, clear communication, and someone who is capable of commitment and a secure relationship. You deserve someone who is sure of you and can reciprocate your feelings. No more guessing and detective work. You become more sure of what you want and don’t want, what you can tolerate and not tolerate. You can now set healthy boundaries and find someone more aligned with you and your values. Your life is now a whole lot better.

[Nakedape]

Bottom line, if you arent pepared to do all of the work with nothing in return, get out. These relationships will crush your soul...

[amarchelk]

Best advice: Avoid the avoidant. They need to Cowboy Up and deal with their crap just like the rest of us.

[wisconsinfarmer]

First your self respect improves, then you quit caring about somebody who does not want you.

[bbli-bqxj]

We anxious attachers clicked the video to know if they will come back 😂
Even if they come back we should not let such ppl who dont wanna work on themselves hurt us.

[Lorij]

It's hard to stop caring about people that you care so much about, but eventually you need to realize that if you're not caring about yourself and they don't care about you... Who cares about you? So why am I then giving all of my care to somebody else? Becomes more self-preservation than it is a relationship. And as hard as it is, the best thing to do is both stop chasing but also to just let it go and let them experience life without you and move on and find someone who sees your value. Most importantly starting with yourself.

[sstruthinclusive]

On top of it all you don't find out their an avoidant until all this mess comes out .. like you just walked into an emotional tornado.. then they just disappear

[narcissisticfreezone]

When someone has an avoidant behavior let them go. This kind of person needs time to heal so they don’t exercise this type of behavior. No one wants a push/pull relationship that’s unhealthy for everyone involved.

[spiritwanderer]

What happens is you stop chasing and caring, your passion dies, they continue not caring, two ships sail at night and relationship slowly dies off. The funny thing is I saw it coming a mile away, even phrased my concerns about it multiple times, tried explaining it logically without emotions, but no results. It was like talking to a wall, no effort whatsoever. After nearly 3 years of being pushed away every time I got close I ended the relationship and the endless torture. I realized that me being an amazing supportive partner for them equals either completely abandoning my needs (which I did in the end) or fulfilling all of theirs and getting pushed away in the end when they start feeling connected or good about the relationship. You can't win this mind game...

[hiowvid]

These people can seriously damage your health. The second you realize they are an avoidant run the other way as fast as you can... These people are ruthless and can seriously damage your life... They are like cardboard cut outs no feelings nothing.. It cost me huge amounts of money. My business my home everything the whole thing was a complete joke...😂 Even when you point out that they have problems they just ignore that.. It's very sad.. But they are just not worth it.. The person I met was the sweetest thing i'd ever known she turned out to be the most horrendous person I ever met... Run run run away.

[northshorelight]

DA's love drama even though they claim that they just want peace. That's why they often get with the most toxic and dramatic people - or make the person that way. I just started detaching. I'm a secure attachment and this is not what I'm looking for. Just started a new job and trying to get a fresh start. I don't need this kind of drama.

[muack]

DA will love bomb and disappear. I went from secure to anxious and crazy because of such treatment. It’s painful. It’s so hard to heal! I am worried that this experience will leave a trauma in me. I am also so embarrassed that I shared my exp with some friends and they think I’m too crazy for a man :(😢

[Graceme]

Your relationship ends. GOOD RIDDANCE. 😂

[asmallbitchybanana]

What happens to you is you become a more secure individual and realize you deserve better.
What happens to them, they keep dating and going from person to person, and its always the same end game….. that person was too much, roo clingy, too this, too that. They did npthing wrong, and are extremely secure.

[Varmiesaylors-brvo]

My DAs last comments to me after I messaged some some sincere words to her were, “lol”. I never messaged her again. Very painful at first, but thank goodness it’s over.

[Ckyt]

Nothing. He dumped me. I walked away. We never talked again. Yes, still hurts like hell.

[lisasunshine]

Oh, God she nailed it! They need the space, you give them the space, and then they’re not coming toward you anymore, and then they act like the relationship has lost its passion! And they are the one who asked for it 😢 2:10 Two ships passing in the night..