WHAT I REGRET ABOUT MY WEDDING (What I’d Do Differently) pt 1

[ripwednesdayadams]

I’m a photographer and am pretty shocked that the photographer didn’t get a single “just married” celebratory shot of the couple exiting down the aisle. No matter the wedding or the style of photography, some shots are mandatory and that is one of them.

Even if you think the couple is not traditional and won’t care, take it anyway. No one has ever complained about an over abundance of photos. The “just married” exit shot makes more sense to me than a first look with bridesmaids— very weird for the photographer to push that. (Unless your bridesmaids aren’t involved with the getting ready process.) Definitely sit down with your photographer before the wedding and go over what shots are most important to you/your expectations so everyone is on the same page.

Also, everyone always says go for an expensive photographer if you want good photos/“you get what you pay for”. This isn’t always the case. If you live near a college with a good photo program, recent grads can professional, gorgeous photos at a lower price point. They’re also getting experience/shots for their portfolio and you’re getting a discount on your photos. When I first graduated I shot several weddings and it really helped me build my professional portfolio.

You looked gorgeous, love the whole aesthetic.

[AScuriosity]

Hi all, I just want to say - I got married in October 2022 and at first, you may have some regrets such as: “why didn’t I get this picture? Or do my hair this way, instead of that way?” Etc. please ignore the thoughts, eventually they’ll go away. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative instead of positive. Your wedding day I’m sure was perfect, and at the end of the day it’s not the peak of your marriage. It’s just the start of many wonderful things to come. Enjoy your pictures/videos and take care!

[zhmw]

What is important is to move on from your wedding and make sure every day of your marriage is 'near perfect' and without regrets. My husband and I eloped. For us, everyday of our marriage is the most important day, not our wedding day. We have been happily married for 37 years. It's not important to have a 'picture perfect' wedding, what's important is that you love each other.

[diamondsanddoggies]

That exit photo is probably on a bunch of phones! Your friends and fam were probably recording the exit. You can take a still from that. had the same thing happen and everyone had the Snapchats of the exit walk 😊

[Wesjag]

As a photographer I want to judge the lack of a leaving photo…but also as a photographer I can’t say shit because I have definitely missed good shots.

[catherinep]

When we got married 17 years ago, we just had my parents and brother. No other guests. The ceremony was so intimate and we loved it because it was our special moment. We didn’t have to worry about who can sit with who, and inviting people we didn’t want to, but “had to”. After the ceremony, we went out and had a meal with our “3 guests” and it was so relaxing. No wedding planners, no photographers, no organising flowers, no having to do this and that. It was intimate and magical and I regret nothing.

[vanessawearslilly]

1. The absolute best picture from my wedding was a candid shot a guest took at the reception. He caught a moment where my husband and I were looking at each other with marvelous expressions on our faces. Even this guy realized how good it was when he had the pictures developed because he mailed us the negatives. Had it printed larger and it has sat on my husband’s bedside table for 26 years.
2. The misspelling of a common menu item is on your printer not you. That is their job and a reputable vendor would have corrected it. Someone’s name or an unusual menu item I could understand, but NOT a menu heading. 100% on the printer.

[sandradee]

I know what I do differently at mine not show up

[tarahazelrigg]

For a wedding, “near perfect” is PERFECT!! The thing that makes weddings so amazing is the bringing together of two people (two lives becoming one). All the other stuff is just a thing!
You looked beautiful, by the way 😍

[shadeinthedesert]

Mr Preacher Man called my husband Craig throughout the ceremony. His name was Greg. 🤦‍♀️

[ronisedaluz]

Oh no…..I’m a photographer and walking down the isle photos is an absolute must have! First kiss as well but it looks like they got that. Although one thing I do ask the officiant ahead of time is to step aside when they do kiss so I can get l pictures without him or her in it. I also remind my couples (if they are comfortable) to make this kiss last so I can snap a ton of great images. If I have a second photographer then one of us will already be at the back waiting for the couple to walk out. If it’s just me, I quickly make my way there after the kiss. I also prep my couples beforehand to ensure I am there before they start exiting. It’s also possible that everyone will forget everything I said as they are dealing with the rush of emotions and I have to make the best of what I have. I hope this is helpful information to you all.

[katieedwards]

Your dad is one of those guys who just looks like the nicest person ever. ♥️

[DianaJudge]

You can renew your vows in a few years and have another wedding 😀

[tellybelly]

I was told that if everything went perfectly on your wedding day then you'd miss the real priceless moments.

[hollyro]

I would’ve done everything the same but uninvited everyone. Was fun but I was socially exhausted for over a week afterwards and honestly I think people were more bothered about being there than we were about having people there. Mid-argument with one guest I literally told them if they don’t show up it’s for them to regret. I’ll still be getting married and having a good day. Up to them if they want to join.

[ScarlettOHara-zndn]

I feel like the appetizer one is cute, its the imperfections that make it your day. Nobody can copy your day

[oheyitskayyyyyy]

What a beautiful bride and gorgeous dress. That style is timeless

[alicruz]

The misspelling on the menu actually gives it character and a chuckle!

[zaidmoges]

Instead of the paid photographer, I got the best pictures of my friend walking down the isle with her mom, one full body and one close up. She has been forever thankful for that picture. My only suggestion after my sister's wedding is to have a person responsible to double check the photographer has take key pictures, even if there is a photo list request. Cheers!

[jzwalzrobin]

The desire for a "perfect wedding" makes the event imperfect...