Dating Over 50: How to Be Memorable on a First Date? The Key to Asking the RIGHT Questions!

Do you know how to be memorable on a first date? The key to being memorable on a first date is asking the right questions! Today, Relationship Expert and highly successful Matchmaker April Beyer, reveals the key to asking the right questions on a first date, that make you stand out and lead to a second date! Yes, you can leave someone wanting more, and thinking about you long after you’ve left the room, simply by asking the right questions!

April Beyer is the founder and CEO of LEVEL™, a hybrid of intuitive AI matching technology combined with human support to make dating effortless and rewarding again. A pioneer and 20-year veteran in the personal matchmaking industry, April has been one of the most sought after dating experts. Dr. Phil calls her “The Best of the Best” and she’s been featured on 20/20, Dateline, ABC News, morning shows, and countless other print and digital publications.

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[fredc]

Euuuu, the job interview! This is why I don't prefer "dates." I do social adventures where I meet like minded people having fun. So much easier and it feels natural. Over a period of time, we're both sold on getting to know each other better, or not. Until then, I'm still having fun. Oh, during that period it is easy to weed out companionship undesirables.

[RobinL-rs]

This was a very helpful video! I havent dated in a good number of year but now understand why it was unauccessful for me and always felt like a job interview. If I date in the future I'll take your advice and ask "feeling" questions rather than "information" questions

[jluis]

For me the strategy was taking women on cultural dates: museums, quality cinema, concerts, theatre, city walks and drinks. No job interviews or romantic dinners to impress. A person who knows how to aprecciate the nice things is more likely to be a keeper

[alexanderlapp]

April seems to get it. If someone just asks a bunch of nosey questions about my divorce, it will just put me in an unhappy mood.

I would actually enjoy having a conversation with April. She would ask fun, friendly questions.

[sue]

This was SO helpful. I realize I’ve been guilty of asking thinking questions.

[kimm]

I think just being yourself is most important. If i am true to myself and they arent attracted then we arent compatable

[tsav]

You get that question a lot, "what are you looking for?". I think people want to make sure you have the same goals. Are you just looking to go out on dates with different people, or are you looking for a relationship etc. I think at 50 or plus age, people are not wanting to waste time. Since it's so common of a question, I don't think that's a unreasonable 1st date question.

[michellenz]

🎉❤Fabulous & valuable stuff, thank you❤🎉

[tonybocelli]

Yes... A date is not a biz interview, leave the suit, vision, mission, and purpose in your office, all of that stuff is a total buzz kill. As far as the past... everyone has somewhat of a sorted past by the age of 50, it's boring and know one enjoys going backwards and recalling their past experiences, save those discussions for your therapist. We are all hopefully evolving and growing with each passing day discovering more of what lights us up. The purpose of the date is to have some FUN enjoying one another's company and companionship, the more in touch we get with our child within the better prepared we are to be our most natural playful, teasing and flirty selves as we more than likely aren't on a date with this person is we didn't already find some aspect of them attractive. As the date is evolving and you indeed do find yourself enjoying them and they are reciprocating in turn then your definitely vibing well together, you can tell by their body language, their touch, you can feel them seeing and listening to you, you can hear them laughing and enjoying your playful banter as you go about sharing the love and the joy together. Stay in the present moment, do not drift off into planning future dates or time together, stay focused on what your feeling and the emotion being experienced. If this is all occurring your going to naturally want to share a second date together, I personally like to bring the women into my world so she can experience my social life, my friends and some of the events and activities that I really enjoy, this allows her to see me in my world, with my friends and how we all interact and I likewise get a chance to see how she interacts and enjoys my social circle. If this all goes well quite often what organically occurs next is she wants to reciprocate and bring you in for a view of her social life and activities as well.

[mypov]

My focus is on a long-term relationship that does not wind up in divorce. I never ever ever want to go through divorce again! Of course you can't guarantee that but there are many things you can do up front which require a lot of relationship work to minimize the possibilities of future divorce. Being " marriage minded" is not enough. All you have to do is look at the divorce statistics for 2nd or 3rd marriages. It takes courage to be authentic when you know you might be rejected and it takes courage to be vulnerable when you also know you might be rejected. But that is the path to happiness and true love

[heatherjane]

Thank you for the helpful perspective to focus on connecting through emotions rather than logic.
That said, how to change the conversation when our date approaches us with the usual, dry line of questioning?

[dewholdingsllc]

Funny things don’t change. When I got out of undergrad long ago and moved to DFW I was amazed how the women in Dallas were qualifying you in five or ten minutes. Job, car, zip code, etc.
Ladies in Ft Worth were more interested in if you like music and were a good dancer and if you had any hobbies.

[davidhendricks]

Great things to think about! On the first date

[stevenrathke]

April - I do know what I want. it's behavioural, faith etc.

[TheNemsue]

And a good question to ask yourself is…” are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?”

[deansorge]

Hi, this question is probably off topic. I will be 60 June 19. Single, never married, no kids, retired military, will be retiring from my 2nd job in 24 months. I have been in 2 long term relationships, I wanted to get married to the last lady I was with, she didn't so we decided to go our separate ways. I have tried dating sites, the popular ones. Reading some profiles, some women, not all, who have been divorced 1, 2, or even 3 times state "If you have never been married don't bother to send me a message, I want someone who can commit". WTF, Seriously, I don't get it. I am done with dating sites, spent way too much money on dinner dates and it's turned into a joke. I am 6'1, 235, work out 3 to 4 times a week and have lots to offer. I have dated women my age, a few years older and younger, I have no clue what they want. I will just continue to live a happy, peaceful life, watch a few of these videos and wonder or not, what women want.

[Crtor-]

I'm 49 and single. Anyone having expectations or trying to change somebody You're already at a loss. If you can't accept somebody as a companion for what they are and have. Then someone on your better side might not accept you

[alexanderlapp]

Why do you say you are almost out of time? This is YouTube, and videos can be as long as you want. April was really interesting, and I wish this video was longer.

[BucketWheat]

I DO Remember "That Date"... "Whatcha thinkin'?"... I do not recall her name, but I still have that 'Movie' in my mind! A 'Memorable Date'..? In the WORST WAY!
It was a "Double Date" and I was good friends with both parties of the other couple... and they had been dating for a long time -- and later got Married. And the young lady was a nice-looking girl.
Not the "Home-Coming Queen" but certainly was appealing and visually attractive ... But we were total strangers. And she must have asked me that question at least a dozen times...
And sadly, I did not really have a good answer. Generally, I am a "Talker" but I could not think of anything she seemed to be interested in. Really a frustrating night... Of course, the other couple was going on without us...
I always seem to have the most interesting times, when I ask them what THEY enjoy doing.
I enjoy a LOT of different things, as well as exploring new things... So whatever THEY enjoy, I start asking questions about THAT, and some of their most Enjoyable moments... and MAYBE I have done that before also! Or we can plan to do that together in the future! (Setting up a FUTURE activity together!) But YES... as you said, it gets them visualizing US doing things together in the future...

[azmike]

What NOT to do: pull out your harmonica after the meal and begin playing. You'll wind up saying, "Hey, where you going? Come back! Hey!"