How To Become The PERFECT Partner (Find Love Today!) | Esther Perel

[mazi]

Single woman here who has followed Esther and her practices for some time now. Can never get enough of what she has to share. Unfortunately many people out there are not operating in a space that allows for successful relationships. These teachings should be mandatory before marriage and after divorce.

[kb]

She is one of the few people I hear who puts accountability on both parties.

[Pat]

Esther is a genius! My husband & I play @ the park on the swings, slide & jungle gym! It is so fun to have him push me on the whirly, whirl! This 30 min fun activity causes the next 2-3 days to be joyful! Play is absolutely essential to our marriage! I am 54 & my husband is 62!

[Fiona-West]

“humor and play is possibility. possibility invites change. change invites healing” what an incredible quote. i just recently found Esther and i love her perspective!

[cinderling]

"Play is the opposite of fear"

What a genial woman. I'm so grateful💖🙏

[countrygospel]

To whoever is reading this, you are loved. You are blessed. Your dreams are manifesting as we speak. Time is on your side. Everything will work out in your favor. May you find more love, peace and prosperity. Keep shining your light in this world. We need you and we love you. Bless you with all the best🙂 💖💖💖

[mrkeitt]

Good to hear true wisdom not saturated with modern day toxicity. She really has a great view on human behavior and mannerisms.

[aning]

I am really impressed by the way that she explains difficult things in easy way

[yzma]

She is incredible. Accountability is a key step to true healing.

[akumacode]

i loved the focus on "play" at the end of this conversation. When i was in university, i studied psychology and did some research and wrote papers on how fundamental play was in child emotional development for both boys and girls. Which also lead me to secondary research on how important fathers are in play and emotional development from childhood into adulthood

[moragmcgill]

Wow! Brilliantly authentic and insightful as always. The questions to ask ourselves.
Who was I in this relationship?

What role did I play?

What did I see that I didn’t want to pay attention to?

What things do I wish I had done differently?

Where do I wish I said less and where more?

What did I learn from this relationship ?

Who do I want to be in the next relationship?

3:12 we are not the same person in every relationship which is a "figure 8" of dynamics
4:14 not blaming game but understanding the dynamics
5:34 What keeps us "connected-alive" with a sense of possibility? Calibrating expectations; Diversifying your social connections; taking risks, doing new things and play.
08:06 humour is essential

[Starlight-qrcq]

3:15 We are not the same person with different partners. Different things come out, depending on what is being sent over to us...we are constantly responding to each other. Different people bring out different aspects that are already within us.
Thankyou Lewis & Esther for such an insightful & powerful interview! I feel more empowered to make positive changes within myself to heal a painful marriage. 🙏💖

[Timocoh]

She is a smart person and one of the best I’ve heard on relationships. A true professional and specialist.

[KlaraP]

Wow! I have only watched a minute and a half and I am already blown away! I already need to rewind and then stop for personal reflection! If you are stumbling onto the work of Ester Perel for the first time, listen closely and find more videos! So much insight and wisdom and her ideas are applicable to both women and men. Thank you!

[Englishroserebecca]

I’ve never heard anyone explain things so well like this before. It makes things so much easier to understand. It gives us a better insight into everything.

[trisha.spiremusic]

I love the focus on humour! My friends and I call this “clowning”. Where we exaggerate an aspect of a situation with jokes or even an expression of emotive embodiment of the irrational fear. For the purpose of bringing it to light for observation of the group in a palpable, digestible way.

[beatasynowiec]

without communication there is no negotiation, no transformation, no relationship. And we can't blame or win anything unless both sides are heared. We must listen and communicate, the end. Beautiful interview Mr. Howes. 🤭🌹

[tulsalien]

i love how esther talks about the importance of humor even “making fun of”. i’m a survivor with cptsd and my favorite relationships involve roasting ourselves and one another in friendly ways that don’t cause pain just lots of laughter. i realized through this conflicting values don’t always have to mean tension, stress, and arguments. not everyone feels safe playing with everyone though.

[FlorinGN]

Duuude I just realized that I hadn't had time to listen to your podcasts lately, I actually remembered how I enjoy them. Not just the guests but the interaction, your listening skills and the fluidity of it all.

[jonasbermejo]

This video of Esther Perel is great and more than great... enlightened, for us who walk in the dark without knowing it. Merci beaucoup Esther Perel !!! 🏮