Psychiatrist Explains What Guilt Is

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[eebbaa]

> i feel negative emotions
> they make me want to change
> i do nothing
> i feel negative emotions

[HeliosPlayGames]

The worst thing is when you feel guilt but you're not sure what is right and wrong anymore

[EllyValentini]

Dr K: I can use that anger…
me: to kill them
Dr K: to set boundaries
me: oh…

[MrBoegela]

im conflicted because a lot of parents and./or systems use guilt to gaslight and manipulate people, it tells you that you're wrong, but what that wrong is, is determined by the people who instilled it in you

[schaughtful]

Just like how confessions used to dissolve the drive for action, therapy too can inspire complacency.

[guidosalescalvano]

It is important to realize that not all anger guilt or shame is reasonable... Sometimes you need to metabolize it with a therapist...

[steggopotamus]

I gotta say I've met too many people whose entire strategy for change when they feel guilt is to force themselves to change most often with the words "be strong".

Thassit, their whole plan.
So I've been comparing it to wanting to be in a weight lifting competition. Which is the winning strategy?

1) get a personal trainer, develop an exercise routine, have a lifting buddy or group, learn about how to do tge exercises, get the right diet.

Or

2) be strong (i guess that would be just walk up yo a barbell the day of a competition and try really hard?)


If you can't think of what to do and keep back sliding, find ways to talk with others, seek professional help, and set up daily routines for things that could help you.

[HelensWorld]

I learned to use anger as a driving force for change.

[koalagangsta]

I agree that sometimes negative emotions are great drivers. With that, sometimes they are not justified and create anxiety.

[Toastymuffin]

It isn't a driver for doing the right thing. It is a mechanism of social evolution that keeps you safe and secure. If you go against your tribe/ social group, you will feel guilty regardless if you are doing the morally correct thing or not. A long time ago people would be removed from their tribe and have to wander around in no mans land and risk death by going against their tribe. Guilt would help discourage you from continuing that behavior that would cause you to be exiled from the tribe. It is why it is common for societies to do the wrong immoral thing like commit genocide and not feel guilty about it.

[torin]

You can also use the anger and bowl it up into a murderous rage when you attack him, Giving you a better chance of winning the fight and getting your stuff back!!😮

[junkoyaki]

is it really the right thing when people use ur guilt to guilt trip u tho

[johntheknight]

I find super interresting how many people need just the basic understanding of their value and how insecure so many people can be while there is literally no reason to.

[upmayo]

That's if your negative emotion is appropriately placed. I can think of a thousand examples of when it's not.

[christiangraulau]

Yeah but sometimes guilt and anger can be so strong it does more harm than good

[HighParativityTools]

I struggle with guilt. On one hand I know I need it to do better, but I find myself feeling guilty throughout the day about things that happened years ago and things I wouldnt do in the present day. So really this particular guilt I feel is useless for me (as ive already grown past what caused it).

[Dialogos]

I feel a sense of guilt and shame no matter what I do

[masonofcamelot]

All these negative emotions and I’m not perfect yet?!?!

[gardenandcalico]

idk about guilt because a lot of us feel guilty about things that werent bad. ie for breaking up with someone who was treating us terribly. for using our own money to buy things we like for ourselves. etc

[Johnnystiletto-riht]

Guilt kept religon alive for thousands of years...