Guilt versus Shame | Kati Morton & Dr. Alexa Altman | Kati Morton

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[MimouFirst]

Brené Brown wrote some books in which she talks about shame as well. She makes the distinction like this:
-Guilt: I did something wrong and I know that. (I want to not do that again/ make it better)
-Shame: I did something wrong and therefor I AM wrong. Which directly attacks our self worth.
She also sais that talking about your shame makes it lose it's power on you. So it's a good idea to find people you can trust and talk about your shame. It will help you heal.

[AliciaStyleAndGrace]

Alexa needs her own channel she’s so intelligent and sweet!! I love hearing from her. I’m a nerd so I could do this all day. She should consider teaching! Thanks for inviting her again Kati!! Sending love!

[sbeast]

A good way to deal with shame or feelings of inadequacy, is to realise that our feelings never reveal the truth about who we are or our inherent self worth, however, they exist to give us vital information about our environment and how to get our needs met.

[ketikatz]

I just noticed that when I babysit and something happens that isn't really their fault I tend to explain that I'm not angry because they did anything and that they don't need to feel bad. And I mostly do it because I feel like they need to understand why I'm angry or why I yelled. My parents never explained it that way and I'm always filled with shame and don't want that for the kids I sit for or for my kids when I have them. I'm happy to know that was good to do

[Neeshpeesh]

I’m so excited about this topic. I was wondering can you do another video in depth about how to process and deal with those motions?

[SlugcatEmporium]

Alexa's "video voice" is getting much better! :) I always find these topics helpful, especially trauma-related. Thanks!

[followingbreadcrumbs]

i've had a lot of trouble dealing with shame and in therapy have been doing inner child work, but only periodically because it can be pretty overwhelming. it's interesting to hear it broken down in to two kinds and expanded on. thank you so much for this video.

[xephini]

So happy to see Alexa again! Your earlier videos with her have been SO helpful for me ♥

[luticia]

What I love about Katie most is that in her profession she's still able to manage to be herself. She's authentic and honest. I love how she admits that she also didn't know the difference between guilt and shame and actually she's learning w us now. Super natural and especially approachable.

[itsjakattack]

This is like the difference in shame v guilt that Brene Brown talks about!

[sunlightheaded]

Guilt vs Shame was explained to me like this: Guilt is feeling bad about something you did, shame is feeling bad about who you are.
Thank you for expanding on this! :)

[Mushroom-]

Gosh, it's amazing how at times you Katie and Dr. Alexa has said exactly how I feel .

[caucasianafrican]

Wow! You actually help your son understand his own feeling! Wish I had some of that as a kid!

[hairyfrankfurt]

OH MY GOD TOXIC SHAME! That's what keeps happening with my mum and I

[drkbi]

I cried so much during this video. Thank you, Kati. Your videos are being really helpful to me during a difficult time, hopefully in time I will fully heal and understand that I'm worthy. Yay!! I hug you from Argentina.

[atheers]

it makes me cry when i see you understanding all i feel and its real

[davidbrown]

Tks so much, it’s hard to process on my own but now I have some tools to help me break the shame cycle . Mine came from earlier childhood traumas over many years.

[theblanketfortcohort]

I needed this video so bad rn. Going through therapy for childhood emotional abuse, and this is a big thing I struggle with!

[michaelnajera]

I ❤️ Alexa, glad that you got back with her todo more videos

[bebeezra]

Excellent video and intriguing guest Kati.

Speaking only for myself and my experience, organized religion has toxified these 2 emotions, understands their power and manipulates that power more effectively than any other institution.