Disciplining Your Children - Jocko Willink and Jordan Peterson

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 98

[marqueswilsonn]

Don’t be cruel. Alway be firm. Always discipline your child reasonably. If you don’t, the world will. Remember that discipline from the world is cold and harsh. It comes with iron bars, records, or death.

[ArvidTheViking]

I’m starting to wake up to how immensely important it is raising your children right and teaching them proper discipline, how it affects society and cultures on a macro level. Glad I learned this before having children of my own.

[MarkJones-yurs]

I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using

[MiaogisTeas]

I'm a father and have been a teacher of young kids. What Jordan said about infinite creativity is spot on: firstly, creativity without bounds is not creative, it's chaotic, it's cancer. Secondly, a child who has been taught to always have the right answer and not make mistakes is utterly terrified of limitlessness. They will sit there and feel like dirt because they can't perform what is required, and they'll be immobilized by the void in front of them. In order to serve the most kids in the best way possible, you must impose a boundary on their creativity.

Some practical ways of doing this: setting a location boundary around their play area, with a consequential reason they cannot go outside of it (mom's garden is out of bounds, imagine how she'd feel if...). When you give them an artistic assignment, allow them to choose only 5 colours, or perhaps they can only use 5 different geometric shapes to construct their image. If you set them a writing task, supply them with the "who" or the "where & when" to use in their composition. By locking in these restrictions, it allows them to take creative risks in other areas of their play, and teaches them to begin to solve problems using only the tools they have on hand, instead of getting sidetracked by shiny possibilities that never pan out.

Hope this helps!

[Jeff-luwi]

Be firm, be consistent, most importantly be there!!

[andyd]

Best lesson I learned from my father: discipline includes the why - why was the discipline and punishment administered. After discipline is given talk with the child about why they were punished. Fosters understanding, reinforcement of expectations, and communication.

[Morganwmahan]

We need another couple hours of jocko and JBP

[samwheller]

Jocko put a clip up of his interview where he doesn't say a word the whole time. If that isn't a sign of his ability to be humble in the face of wisdom, well, I don't know what is. A sign of a man who's looked inside and can be honest with what he finds.

[jakobole]

I started listening to Peterson 3 years ago, and started to take in his advice on having children. I've tried to the best of my ability to live up to it, and my son is now 4½, and everybody loves him, and says he's a great kid.

[magnolia]

Discipline is so important. Consistency is key. And so is explaining "why we have rules." But I also feel kids should have their emotions validated by their parents if they're sad, scared, etc.

[frozenkilt]

Remember, you aren't raising a child. They already know how to be that. You're raising an adult. Make sure it's an adult worth the name.

[Barrieq]

My girlfriend has a 6 year old girl and listening to JP has helped me so much in finding my feet as a parent figure in her life and brought us closer as a result.

[artugert]

I’m a first time father of a one-and-a-half year old boy. I’m going to come back and listen to this from time to time to remind myself. Every father should listen to this.

[TEX]

Yes sir,
It will keep them free from jail, prison an personal hell.
Remember :we made these children to love them!
Didn't make them to hurt an hate them; but to love an raise them to be loved an respected.
Thank you Mr. Peterson an Sir Jacko for being the right an bright light, for men to role model after.
"Great foundation builders; for a loving, sturdy an disciplined home"

[BB-xuhk]

I love how Jocko is just sitting there listening.

[hannahtyron]

Jordan Peterson speaks the truth that others don't want to say, but the world needs to hear!!!!

[lede]

- Never, ever, be mean or cruel to your child.
- Always show them they're loved.
- Create habits consistently to internalize discipline through conditioning.

[johnvaness]

ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS VIDEO!!!! This gets right to the heart of parenting. We just returned from a restaurant, and were Amazed by the uncontrolled behavior at the next table, kids running through the restaurant, etc. My folks would have died of embarrassment if my sister and I had acted that way! We were Loved, and Disciplined reasonably, based on the offense. Structure is not an evil thing. Structure builds manners and good behavior habits in young people. (Jocko knows all about structure.) Young people who understand structure have a much easier time adapting to moving out of the house, and going on into their own adult life. Again, fabulous video, thanks very much!

[Hijodeganas]

This is what I love about Dr. Peterson. He makes explicit (and quite lucid) that which I have often felt intuitively. I love my child, but I would be lying if I said I never felt that sometimes I just didn't like her. And I knew I couldn't keep being a good parent that way. I also knew that if she continued to do unlikeable things that not only would I dislike her more and have trouble really enjoying being with her and looking forward to spending time with her, but so would other people, and it was actually that latter realization that bothered me more. So, in a firm but loving manner, I would make it very explicit to her that I didn't like her behavior and I wasn't going to put up with it. The idea wasn't "punishment" but "logical consequences": if she continued the behavior, I would either stop spending time with her, or remove whatever objects she was using inappropriately, or remove her from the situation, whatever was most appropriate and most in line with how the social world works. And it worked amazingly. As long as I had the courage and motivation to do what was best for my child, she very consistently learned to act well, very quickly. The result? Our home is a calm, relaxing and loving sanctuary, where everyone understands their role and they understand appropriate behavior. My daughter is an extremely happy, sociable, conscientious and kind individual, and I'm very proud of her, and I can't wait to see her every day.

[bridgetteojo]

As a mom to a 3 year old and a 1 year old, I’m learning how to manage my emotions and work on myself by listening to Dr. Peterson. My mind has expanded so much and I will make sure to raise humans who are pleasant to be around.