How To Outsmart A Narcissist

Want to outsmart a narcissist? In today's video I provide the eight best ways to disarm and outsmart a narcissist. Narcissists are cunning and calculating individuals who know how to manipulate people into doing their bidding. So in this video, I'll provide tips on how to deal with a narcissist and protect yourself from their manipulation.

This video is for people who are struggling with a relationship with a narcissist, or who have been hurt by a narcissist in the past. I will also provide you with additional resources so you will be rock-solid in your ability to use them.

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Hi, I'm Kenny, a Coach, YouTuber, Podcaster, and Author in Phoenix, Arizona. I make videos about the strategies and tools to help you heal from emotional hurt to elevate your life. I'm an advocate for truth and healing.

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[briansaiditsoitmustbetrue]

How to outsmart a Narcissist
1) NO CONTACT
2) NO CONTACT
3) NO CONTACT
As long as the NO contact is 100% "Watertight" ... Texting or reading the Narcissist's texts is a breach of "No Contact" ..Looking at the Narcissist's social media is a breach of "No Contact" ..Talking to the Narcissist if they turn up at your home or work is a breach of "No Contact"
Your SILENCE kills them.

[Giuliana-zxgd]

They win if we stay. We win when we leave them. Just break free. Just do it. Stop the immature torture. Peace and love to all those who fell victim.

[glenbateman]

Walk away, without a word, and keep walking.

[ronilittle]

I LOVE the way he IMMEDIATELY starts giving you answers WITHOUT a boring conversation at the beginning!
I subscribed immediately for this reason! Refreshing! I wish ALL podcasts would do this! I cannot thank you enough!🙏✨💜✨👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[tharealcommentator]

It's much harder when the narcissist has your small children and neglect them to upset you. It's very sickening. They are extremely unwell people. I applaud those who can easily step away.

[JamesPetroff]

I think the narcissist either targets another narcissist or a very good person who is naive. The good person is not flawed, they are loving, giving people who can't fathom anyone being evil. It doesn't cross their mind. And the narcissist gets them to commit by love bombing, stories of trauma, getting the victim to make promises to them (playing on integrity).

[wanderingfree]

Someone once told me., . A narcissist worst fear is to be insignificant and when we don't engage with them, it brings that right up to the surface. I've found this to be 100% true

[laurabarber]

The ONLY way to win a no-win situation is not to play!😎

[hanna]

Amazing advice! If I fight with him , he wins every time! He’s much louder, much taller, much stronger, and he has a lot more money. When I called the police, I just made a fool of myself by crying, acting confused and shaking , while he’s standing there calm and collected, rolling his eyes. Never a good idea to bring narcissist’s wrath upon yourself, better to let them save their face and proceed out of there with caution.
Far, far away...

[drlarrymitchell]

Actually told my ex, "I'm not fighting about reality anymore."

[loneyhearts]

I know this to be true. I am alone and put narcissistic people out of my life. I have been threatened, and harassed not giving them what they want. They have no power over you unless you give it to them. You may be alone, but you will have more peace

[storygirl]

"We aren't some empathic angel.. we are easy prey." Amen! I always felt saying the narcissist wants you because you're so extra wow, was stroking our egos ( ironic no?) and not getting to the core issue.
Being so nice to get people to like us, because of childhood traumas, to the point of suppressing a person's own wants and needs, isn't angelic, it's a perfect situation for a narcissist to exploit.

[leeboriack]

Depriving a narcissist of attention is like depriving them of oxygen, eventually they seek oxygen supply elsewhere.

[julieq]

You said, don't do it alone. Too late. I left my narcissist 3 years ago. Walked out with 2 suitcases. Everything else was just STUFF. I never went back. No contact. I was with him for 38 years. It was hard to be myself, but everyday I get better. The break started when I refused to engage. I started taking back my power. BTW, at the time, I didn't know what a narcissist was. But now that I watch these videos, I see the dynamic. And, yes, I slowly gave away my power until one day I snapped. Glad I got out alive. Thanks for sharing 👍 😊 your knowledge. Great video. Love the purple 💜 (which is a power color).

[carolynmalone]

Regarding agreeing with the narc, my narc called me crazy. I agreed with him and said, "Yep, I'm crazy." He couldn't say anything else after that.

[tootie]

You can love people from afar!!! Peace, Love and stability in your life is important.

[shahadah]

1. Use a Wall of Pleasantness, Maturity, and Moderation. 2. Hire a coach or therapist to help us. We need an outside place to go for support when we want to go back to them. 3. Don't defend, explain, engage, or correct them. They will NOT see the truth. Don't call them out or shrink or feed them. 4. Agree with them even if what they say is ridiculous. Don't argue with them. Whenever someone criticizes us, they don't realize they are criticizing themselves too. Whenever someone judges me they are actually telling me about themselves. 5. Get into your own life. Show them how insignificant they are. Find your interests that have nothing to do with them. They filled a hole in you that you need to fill for yourself. Recognize your own mistakes in not pursuing your own needs and wants and by getting into the relationship with them in the first place. Don't stay the manipulating, disempowered victim. Don't give yourself away, and stop saying yes to things you know are wrong. 6. Mirror their behavior and act just like them. Trick them. But if you start hating yourself for treating them badly, it's not really worth it. Pay attention to your feelings. See the part you're playing in the Narcissism dynamic. We are responsible for our actions. 7. Heal yourself. Own that you chose the narcissist because of childhood dysfunction. Make healing that childhood trauma a priority. Then you can stop reliving it. Take responsibility for the part you (unconsciously) played in choosing them. You can forgive yourself for being perfectly imperfect. Let yourself off the hook. Discover what your needs and wants are. Realize that you were manipulative too. 8. Just don't do it---don't become a narcissist.

[helenver]

Put them aside as soon as you know who they are and what they do. Don't "offer" your life to them. Life is too short.

[matthewworthington]

I look back on my behaviour and laugh at myself. I allowed it all to happen. My intuition told me something was wrong but I still kept going back because of my early trauma. The day things changed for me was when I practised dropping into my body into the hurt and it just faded away. I had a couple of slips after that but felt much stronger overall. It’s a journey.

[m_]

I'm in the very early stages of a marriage separation from a clinically diagnosed NPD/BPD husband. This is one of the most helpful videos I have watched on this topic. I have been doing a lot of self-reflection as to how I ended up here, knowing I have a lot to answer for to myself. I really appreciate how blunt you are about taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Being a with a narcissist truly has to be one of life's greatest gifts for personal growth and development!