How To Outsmart and Shut Down A Narcissist

Sometimes you cannot go no-contact with a narcissist, meaning you will be exposed to them in all sorts of settings. Dr. Les Carter explains that you still have reasonable options as you are faced with their annoying tendencies. As you mentally match your expectations with reality, you can then choose to speak up in ways that clearly let the narcissist know that you won't get sucked into their negativity.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[kymchessall]

Never be afraid of a narc. Behind that bully is a coward

[fred.k]

We suffer not because we are bad people we suffer because we are good around bad people.

[flash_flood_area]

Wish I'd had someone who taught me about this as a child. It would have helped me to get through decades of torment far more easily

[SHANDI]

A few of the best ways I’ve learned how to shut down an narcissist is to not engage with them, do not seek their approval, do your own thing, most of all, stay calm! They want you to blow your stack so they can can then turn around and point their fingers and tell everyone “ See, I told you so ( about you)”. Don’t join their circus.

[eaglehawk]

Never tell anyone your dreams, goals, plans, likes, dislikes, career plans especially to these types of people or they will use it against you.

[jackilynpyzocha]

I will avoid him like avoids me. He won't even notice.

[Cabroliinda]

Let there be 1 crazy person and not 2. Do not engage, don't play into their game.

[jessellabenedict]

And in my opinion it's even harder not to get into a argument with a narcissist that you've had children with.

[slimsantilli]

My Narc elderly dad always talks about his inheritance for my brother and I. Whenever he starts about it, I talk about subjects that have nothing to do with what he was saying. Mostly subjects he knows nothing about. Then I get up and leave.

[nonie]

Married 46 years to a very intellectual narcissist. I am still learning how to protect boundaries. Emotional pain is an everyday occurrence.

[roxyabrooks]

Dr. Carter has helped me more than any doctor I've ever had IRL. The hallmark of a great Dr is that he makes everything highly comprehensible in a calm and wise fashion with zero ego and lots of compassion. Bravo, Doctor! You're helping more folks than you know ! I'm endlessly grateful 🌟

[lisamadden]

I've been married to my husband for over 15 years, and he has no idea who I really am. It's like he decides who I am on a daily basis. One day I'm cheating, lying, and unworthy of his trust and time, and after a day of silence, and mumbling behind my back, he's ok for a couple weeks. But like clock work every 2 to 3 weeks he has to throw a name calling accusing fit. I've had enough, I'm planning my escape, I'm gonna be homeless for a while hopefully I can find a shelter to go to.

[alezandercorben]

When they start with being narcissistic, i have learned not to instantly react but to stop and think that this person isn’t normal and just let them play out their scenario then find it funny.

[georgewolfiii]

I once shut down a narcissist by spraying him in the face with pepper spray. After that I had no more trouble out of him ever again.

[MoonsongReverb]

The narcissist hates boundaries. It’s amazing how a simple No can shut up a narcissist

[flyundertheradar-seven]

Go no contact and sit back and watch the fireworks

[mjharris]

The narc DOES take the time to get to know people; however, it is only to evaluate how the other people can be manipulated to the narcs benefit.

[izawaniek]

Narcisists opinions are irrelevant. Dignity, respect and civility matter. Thank you dr Carter❤

[evelina]

Key phrases to help disarm a narcissist:
“ ...“I Can't Control How You Feel About Me” ...
“I Hear What You're Saying” ...
“I'm Sorry You Feel That Way” ...
“Everything Is Okay” ...
“We Both Have a Right to Our Own Opinions” ...
“I Can Accept How You Feel” ...
“I Don't Like How You're Speaking to Me so I Will not Engage”
✨☘️🙏

[openbuddhistforuminternational]

One of good methods to shut the narcissist down :
think about them as completely unimportant and ignoring them ! 😃
Let the SOVEREIGNTY REIGNS 🥰