Limerence: What is it and how do we overcome?

I have recieved questions regarding the struggle of limerence. What is it and how does it impact our lives? In this video I want to bring out the factors that influence limerence, how we can recognize it and grow in developing healthy relationships. This will encourage you discern the difference between maturing love vs addictions and obsession.

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[TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks]

Attachment coach here! I love the study of limerence. If it’s not reciprocated love than it is most likely limerence. Block, delete on all social media, delete photos, quit your job and run as fast as you can. Only accept mutual love and admiration and find a hobby and church.

[katlyndeshort]

God breaking my limerence overnight after a lifetime of dealing with it is literally my whole testimony.

[Tony-Pino]

One of the best tips I learned from Mark is that when im depressed to have mercy on myself "its okay to not be okay", and see God as a loving Father who I can go to when im depressed for nurture, instead of run from out of shame and self-hatred.

[tamikad]

Wow I had no idea this was a thing until today. I’ve been struggling with this since the age of 13. I so needed this video. Limerence has literally made me feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one.

[jenniferoliveira]

I appreciate this video. I had several events happen to me since May and ended up having a crush with a married man. I have worked with him for several years and never felt this way. I was fasting yesterday and found your channel. This is exactly what I am feeling. This is what I am going through. My God this is insane and I can’t believe this is where I am in my life now. Thank you so much!

[youngandwildandfree]

This hit home. The part where you said "if you have limerance....it is a sign that you need to emotionally develop". That part was eye opening. I like to think of myself as this mature self reflective emotionally intelligent peroson. Not someone who needs emotional development. 😅
But I obviously need to emotionally develop. I did project many unmet childhood needs on my limerant object. Just like the person in the letter I wanted him to affirm me. I wanted to hear that he is proud of me and I wanted that he would sort of adopt me on teacher student level. I wanted to be his favorite student that he feel very attached to. I wanted to be loved, supported, motivated and cheered on as his most beloved most talented student.
I very rarely got validated and cherished as a kid. In that area Im a bit stunted. I have severe lack of trust in my competense and my abilities. I never heard from my parents that they proud of me. Other people will never be able to fill that void for me. Its all about your childhood pain and unmet childhood needs.
Im a very feminine, nurturing women. I noticed that some man who have a big mother wound are strongly attracted to me because of my nurturing quality. Those who had a cold neglectful mother project their hope to finally get the nurture that they never had.

[CatrinaHill]

"GOD I'M FOCUSED ON LOL!! This has been so me!! I have developed a sad case of limerence over a man, and given into a false guilt or something because my focus is not on God when I'm thinking about him. We both have feelings for each other but won't act on it in order to keep from giving into premarital sex. Thank you for this teaching today. Limerence was exposed in my life earlier this year. Please pray my strength in the Lord.

[Thomas-mn]

It's hard to let that person go as they became part of your identity. You have to untangle them from you first to get to know who you are without that person. Then you can with God's guidance, of course.

[LydiaKettle]

That soul to Soul song is an anthem for limerence. The next line is "However do you want me, however do you need me", then it goes on to "I'll leave it in your hands, until you're ready"

[ringforthrev]

Oh man, this was good. Hurt like hell but was sorely needed, comedy was the extra juice in the blender that made it taste good going down

[brianabramsjr.]

Excellent video! Definitely appreciate the comedy you bring to your content Mark 😂🙏.

[Livingbygrace]

Thank you mark for bringing up this topic!

[thehomer]

Mark, I'm so happy you did a video on this! I've been dealing with this all my life but about a year ago, met a woman (not a pastor, FAR from that, lol) whom I cannot stop thinking about. I woke up this morning and searched "falling in love too easily" and was pleasantly surprised by all the results. I'm not alone in this, and there is a way out. Russell Brand actually has a wonderful 8-9 minute video on this, but then I searched "limerence" which is a term I'd never heard before. I discovered your channel and books about a month ago and was so pleased you have a video specifically dealing with this! Keep up the good work, brother.

[cathygarrick]

Thank you. Much needed advice, delivered with love

[womanofvalor]

Dealing with this, wasn't nutured growing up and my limerance object was kind, nuturing and funny. You came for me when you made fun of us for "focusing on God" 😂😂
I pray I marry someone that makes me laugh the way your wife laughed at the end. Made my whole day!

[chrishart]

I think this condition is very prevalent among elderly people especially, singles and particularly those who have never married (not a laughing matter). The "church" culture has contributed to the problem by ignoring singles especially older singles or society thinks that "love" problems are for the younger people. My thoughts and prayers go out to the older brother and sisters, don't entertain an alternate reality. Philippians 4:4-8 Jesus is with you, always.... you need someone cry out to, cry out to him for what ever is on your mind....🙏🌿🕊️

[beaberean]

Mark, at the end of this video you just made me laugh in a way that I have not laughex in such a long, long time!
I love your videos and your teachings and I have so much to learn and I thank you for your wisdom.
And I also thank you for your sense of humor. It's much needed during this difficult time of my life God bless you 😊

[Sevse-nhfi]

I find that “urge surfing” helps me resist urges to think of or check on someone I believe I should not

[chestersteentalksmukbangsa]

I love his voice
A very radio type voice
Plus this topic is so great
My first time hearing about Limerence.

[madeleinejones]

Emotional immaturity. Addiction. Dominates your intention. Learning to practice self control. Im going to look for good relationships and love myself and focus on Jesus. Thank you God they are attractive. Nuture wounds are there. You need to deal with the intrusive thoughts. You, God and other people. Do not act on neediness.