Where Do I Start After A Divorce?

Alan is recently divorced and is starting over. He calls dave for advice on where to begin.

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[casualpreparedness]

When I got divorced, I had seen two things or signs:
1.) This too shall pass.
2.) Worry kills, not hard work.
So, I pulled myself up and got a second job. Problems solved.
Good luck. 💯👍👍😎🇺🇸☮️

[christopherstimpson]

There should be a class in marriage and laws pertaining to marriage in high school. Often, divorce is the single most devastating financial event in a person's life. My divorce took a full year to complete with the lawyers. Getting married in the courthouse cost $35 and only took about 20 minutes.

[skibum]

Alan- Do it one day at a time brother. I went through the same thing eleven years ago, I was 44, married for 23. Horrible divorce and over money. Get counseling. I slowly dug my way out of the huge financial mess the divorce caused. My new house will be paid off in a few weeks. My retirement situation is looking way rosier and the financial freedom of having no debt is a way bigger high than the low of the divorce.

[TheQueenEC]

I love that Dave didn’t ask what happened, all that mattered was this guy was hurting hope he is able to find some peace and comfort.

[ferrumregit]

I’m in the same boat as this guy, now. Please say a prayer for me. I will pray for others hurting right now as well.

[kuhataparunks]

That was some remarkable advice Dave gave

[ChrisInvests]

It's sad that money is the number one cause of divorce 😒💵

[rosycardenaspastrana]

Wondering how this person is doing now, almost 1 year after this call. I pray he is in a much better place emotionally, financially and just in general!

[arescue]

As a Sacramento native, I just want to second Dave’s comment, there are a lot of great people all over Sacramento that would like to help Alan through this tough time in his life. There are several good meetups in this area for singles, come out and join us. We do a lot of fun things that don’t cost a lot. Most of us are on a budget.

[OKCMark]

That guy doesn't realize yet that this was the best thing that ever happened to him. Your ballast has been released. Now, start from scratch, and soar...

[plasmaarmelund]

Divorce is like going to war. Assume that your ex is going to do the worst. You don't know someone for real until you go through a divorce with them. Prepare for battle.

[bigvic]

My wife just filed for divorce yesterday, these videos really help me, I'm still heart broken and hurt

[georgesontag]

Most divorced men with children end up with no place to live and broke. The court system told me to find a second job, if your still having trouble - find a third job.

[hj-mhge]

Poor guy. He can get through this and start his life over again

[sandrop]

Divorce is horrible, there’s 3 side of this story. His side, her side and the children’s side. Everyone of them are in a painful situation, 1- only The love of Christ can help. 2-If you’re in a church join a bible study group, you’re gonna need a lot of spiritual and emotional support.3-pray, pray and pray some more.4- stay away from social media, all of them. 5-Do not argue with your ex in front of your kids ever. 6- stay away from alcohol. 7- Do not badmouth your ex to anyone especially your kids.8- get a second job. 9- take FPU class if you haven’t done it yet, rice and beans brother.10-exercise daily, not for your looks but for your sanity, you’re gonna need it.11-spend lots of time with your Christian brothers.12-Do not touch your 401k ever.13-Don’t make any big financial decision right now, you’re too emotional.14-spend time with your kids and always assure them that none of it it’s their fault and that you and your ex will always love them and you two will still be friends. I don’t know who you are but I will pray for you and your family, God bless you all🙏❤️

[susun]

He needs to relax...let the dust settle and than you can rebuild. 👑

[minmatenx]

Bout to split w my wife. Never been on my own and kinda scared.

I work full time tho. We've agreed that I'll live at home til I save some money.

It's gonna be a lot more expensive on my own. But the stress of the relationship will be over and I'm greatly looking forward to that.

Anyway I over sharing in a dang comment. Don't have many friends or folks to talk to so idk... Thanks anyone who reads

[mannyjeanpierre]

this phone call is eveey mans worst nightmare. Major reason why men are hesitant on marriage n kids nowadays. Society has literally taken almost every incentive away for us to even think about it

[swavekbu]

Any woman who wants you to sign a marriage contract to feel "closer to you, " is suspect.

[juliemortenson]

I could hear his "gulp" when he referred to her as his ex, sadly.