self-criticism

The interplay of shame and self-criticism and how to find freedom. Ideas drawn from Compassion Focused Therapy.

[cameronmaners]

dude a podcast would be a game changer

[anzkk]

I’ve literally just cried about not knowing what I want to do with my future and my ability to pursue a career in my degree an hour ago

[jordanarmstrong]

'Treat yourself like you treat someone you love. Thats how you achieve self love'❤

[elizabeth]

I feel as though you speak directly at me sometimes, as odd as that sounds. In fact, this video really meant a lot because I’ve thought about becoming a therapist for a long time, but every time I seriously consider the idea I talk myself out of it, just like you did. It really inspires me to see that you overcame that self doubt.

[cingfx]

I think that self-criticism is what limits me in life, it is the biggest problem in my life, hell. I remember when I was young and I apply this self-criticism to everything I say and do. This is why people enjoy life and I am stuck in my head. I criticize everything I do and say it as if people are gods and I am their slave. But now I understand that life is short To criticize yourself for everything

[briannaparker]

I need you as my therpaist. I've never listened to someone who has made this much of an impact on me in 16 minutes.

[sammytay]

I have been struggling with self-criticism ever since I can remember. It's gotten to a point where it is crippling and stops me from living. This video lead me to tears and opened my eyes to a lot of the roots of my shame and self-criticism. Thank you for this.

[DerpyGrump]

“Hey it’s okay, you matter. Like you can do this. Like this is really hard, and you’re figuring it out and there’s pieces here that you don’t have a full grasp of yet, but you’re learning and you’re trying, and if you keep pressing on, there’s hope.”

I could feel the twitching in my muscles when you were saying this. Had to write it down for myself, whether I keep it in the notes on my phone, or I print a sheet with this on it. I doubted it, yet it hit home.

[amygordon]

You have such a presence about you that I can't explain
This is your calling from God. You will change so many lives so desperately needing it. Be proud. You are amazing!

[nolantegge]

This is something that both my girlfriend and I struggle with. The things I’ve taken away from this video and many of your others are life-changing. I am going to take these lessons and use them to better myself and our relationship. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all that you do.

[Ccstars]

This is definitely my comfort video when I find myself snowballing into anxiety, worry, and self criticism, it helps calm me down

[maryadams]

You are my absolute favorite therapist. You are encouraging and spot on. Thank you for being you!!

[kittiemarie]

I never really hit the bell for many channels but I did for this channel. Because I feel like we're having a one-on-one conversation with someone who just loves people and is learning to love themselves too. This is beautiful, and keep going! This is so inspiring and I need something like this often because it's so inspirational.

[myrideank]

I LOL'd! 😊 Not only was your answer re: your specialty funny; it's valid. While doing an internship at the Dept. Of Justice, I was brought on as part of a federal initiative on crime prevention through social development (CPTSD) where we tried to help communities address the root causes of crime (poverty, addiction, abuse, etc) by setting up initiatives focusing on youth, women and Indigenous Peoples. Super villains have been in the system and they are resistant to treatment or starting their path to rehabilitation by developing empathy, regulating emotions, forming attachments, etc.
Btw, I just got your motivation journal. Thank you!
Thank you for this vlog too. It gave me some food for thought.

[amaliamoodie]

WOW...this made so much sense, especially the part about halfway through when you said ..
"The actions that the shame inspires actually create more shame" and explained this so simply
"The fear that I have is propelling me to act in a certain way that's bringing about the thing I fear"
If only you were in the UK 🙏

[alorahwilds]

You saying there is hope has had me crying non stop. I have felt like there is just no hope for so long.

[avathemis]

Thank you for sharing so honestly. I have a vicious inner critic, which attacks most of all about the ways I try to prove that I am worthwhile. I had never heard my behavior described so accurately by another person.

[kylamccormick]

I'm becoming a counselor now, and this is helping me so much♡ peer support for peer support. Thank you. Please don't stop making these videos!

[toavs]

As someone who has attempted 4 times and gone to therapy for suicidal depression. The sentiment that "Giving up is a more reasonable conclusion that trying harder." Is a more relevant and personally valuable understanding to have. Not that it is true, but through the recognition that you view life that way you can understand why it is wrong and grow.

[BLHomestead]

Sir this absolutely brought me to tears! The last part is what I’m severely struggling with! No support! So it is bringing on severe doubt. Married 18 years 3 kids and no support structure. Severe depression and can’t figure out why. Ugh. Thank you for your content sir. I truly felt you were talking to my soul on this! 🙏🙏🙏