7 Ways Your Inner Critic Makes You Hostile Toward Yourself

Do you have a critical inner voice that's always putting you down? In this video, I'll share seven ways your inner critic makes you hostile toward yourself. If you're ready to start taking care of yourself, watch this video to help recognize when you’re being too hard on yourself.

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[joseph]

Love and prayers for this wonderful Doctor. Her work has been a great blessing in this viewer's life.

[irisalexander]

i am truly the worst critic of myself. nothing i ever do is good enough and i'm sure it somehow stems from childhood, but i'm sick of it. i want to make music but everytime i finish a song i like it for a moment, then listen back and am disgusted by the entire thing and scrap it. this video was spot on for me, thanks doc

[Rimshathaesthete]

For me blaming myself for trauma that happened makes me calm instead of accepting the fact someone intentionally hurt me repeatedly in in humane ways

[TheHorseshoePartyUK]

0:30 exaggerated perfectionism

1:04 Ruminating round problems instead of attempting to solve problems, even if it means accepting nothing you can do about the truly worst situations

1:12 Comparing your lives to others, feeling 'less than' resulting in Inferiority Complex

2:02 excessively blaming yourselves with too much intensity and frequency in proportion to the problem

2:38 completely giving up and surrendering to depression, instead of trying to learn how to increase your emotional intelligence. What non-professionals call Victim Mentality

3:16 Inferiority Complex about physical appearance

3:35 Unconscious, defensive, psychological projection

4:06 Excessive focus on the past, especially mistakes, emotionally beating yourselves up instead of learning from them

[vulnikkura]

My therapist helped me realize that my inner critic was directly linked or "influenced" by two particular people in my life. Notice the patterns and question how people speak to you. What is their true intent. People will be passive aggressive, overly critical under a guise of being "concerned" when really all they are doing is attempting to make you feel ashamed/embarrassed/lesser than they are. Do yourself a favor and kindly remove those people from your life and focus on the people who are genuinely kind and encouraging to you. Do your best to catch yourself when those old, mean voices pop back up and rework them into positive encouragement. ✨️

[jowens]

I recently learned about self sabotage. I wasn't even aware of my critical thoughts. The first step was acknowledging the problem, and separating them from yourself, acknowledging that this thought isn't necessarily true. When I have a critical thought, I've learned to say "I'm having the thought that." I'm grateful for all of the resources that's helped me on my journey.

[TarkMcCoy]

"Guilt is like a bag of bricks. All you've got to do is SET IT DOWN."
-The Devil's Advocate

[deargodwhyme]

Wow. I really needed this today. I had a sense I was overly critical of myself but I didn’t expect to identify with every single one 😅

[KatelynMrsBamaIngle]

Sooo relatable to myself no doubt.. I have panic disorder and OCD.

[luissierra]

Omg this happens to me on a regular basis almost all of them which has turn my life into a nightmare thank you so much for the video

[Plysdyret]

I was bullied a lot when I was a child. It ended with me, blaming myself for every nature disaster, war, death and other horrible things happening. I thought the whole world hated me because of this.

[garlandxx]

There is never a straight line towards a goal. Failure, bad results from life decisions and emotional ups and downs are part of a life’s journey. Recognise the bliss of the present moment. Embrace every emotional moment. That’s what makes us human. If the world were to fall apart we would resort to day to day survival and recognising the joy of each day regardless of our decisions.

[Itsrichardash]

I cannot express to you how much I needed this video today. Thank you so much for continuing to make these videos, they help me immensely and I will be forever grateful to you, Dr Marks 💚

[rgcoldworld]

Bingo! thanks 4 sharing, I wasn't diagnosed with autism till I was 52 three years ago. This video is a state of mind that is hard to escape when peeling back the delusional mask of the past " how does anyone get past "just not getting it at a normal level. "
I've watched many of your again thanks 4 sharing....

[negin]

Cant wait to part two. I can recognise myself at every second of the video

[InnerWorkGuideShobhali]

The breakdown of the signs of an overly harsh inner critic is so relatable and eye-opening! It's striking how we can be our own toughest critics, setting unrealistic goals and then beating ourselves up for not meeting them. I really appreciated the example of comparing ourselves to others or feeling guilty about past decisions, really hit home. They show just how much our inner critic can affect our self-esteem and happiness. Your approach of acknowledging these patterns and then learning to confront them with self-compassion is both encouraging and practical. This is such crucial info for our mental well-being!

[hide.andcreep]

Bells on for part 2!! 🖤 This is extremely informative. I cannot wait to hear the next segment.

[MissJetsa]

Aww I cannot wait for the second part. It's the first video I see from you that shows only the problem without suggestions for improving. I'm struggling with tons of self criticism right now and I wish I could have your advice.

[katharinewilson]

Hmmm I was told I was overly critical about myself. These descriptions aren’t exactly how I think or speak. However, I’m definitely on the spectrum of it. The perfectionism, past mistakes and harping on them and spending years blaming myself, and lack of self compassion, guilt and self loathing for sure.

[brendamaillet]

Thank you for another great video Dr. Marks.😀