5 Stages of Manipulation

If you’ve been feeling trapped, confused, or constantly questioning yourself around someone, you might be caught in the stages of manipulation.

It doesn’t matter whether this person is narcissistic, toxic, or even seemingly healthy—the key issue is how they make you feel.

Manipulation often works in cycles, like a hamster wheel you can’t seem to escape from. Without even realizing it, you find yourself going through the same stages over and over, feeling stuck and powerless to break free.

In this video, I’ll guide you through these stages so you can recognize the signs and take steps to regain control of your life.

Thanks for watching!

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[ilovemelodyjane]

This is the type of video that denotes a shift in life. Before you knew this and AFTER you begin to apply it.

[tsie_simba]

I attracted manipulative relationships both romantic and friends, because I was an unhealed giver and people pleaser. Manuipulators will study and know you better than you know yourself sometimes. Thank you Steph for these videos.

[elevate]

Takes a long time to heal from being destroyed. The worst !

[CarolParsons-vt]

I just broke up with my BF a little over a month ago. I had to go no contact, no talking, no texting, no seeing. It was the only way I could finally stop this. He left multiple notes, wrote letters and tried to get in my garage door one night late. I changed the code the day before. I have no idea what would have happened had he gotten in. I was scared to death. It's been quiet for about a week and a half. Keeping hope that it stays that way.

[bethpantazopoulos]

Stephanie, when I entered the abuse stage and was desperately trying to understand, you were there. I moved through it to the other side, because of you. Will be eternally grateful to you. ❤

[candyc]

Took me two years to heal after my ex he used my grief of losing my mom in 2020 during covid and me being an only child against me because I trusted him and allowed him in to the point I always was wrong til he I had a miscarriage in 2022 going thru two losses and having to heal from both is what made me wake up.

I was told i was wrong or i was this horrible person until he finally admitted in 2022 "your everything Im not" . I really wished i knew the things i do know now. My mom was a people pleaser too and stayed with someone for many years who wasnt good to her. Thank you so much for this

[jagahua-dmhj]

After watching your videos, now I feel lucky that I jilted a narcist one and a half years ago. I never understood she was a narcist back then. But my life was so ruined, and now I am gradually thriving in my career once again. Thank you very much for such truthful advice to innocent people like me.

[juliantej]

Thank you. Im a father and this absolutely helped. Alot of what you said is what ive experienced/still going through

[Mattheus]

This is enlightening and profound, yet also despicable. It is terrible to connect with a person not to like them, build affection and friendship, but rather to use, drain, control, and manipulate them. To take their best, and to have no guilt or qualms for your abuse.

That’s sick. And I have experienced it, like many here. Then when you confront them they call YOU the abuser, they heap more shame, guilt, criticism, bashing on you, say everything is your fault, etc.

[gloriadonahue]

They love to create a WHIRL-WIND in your life.

[NarcNarkNerk]

Great video! When you said the unhealthy taker is grooming the unhealed giver that hit me hard. It makes a ton of sense. I appreciate you. ❤

[emptynesters]

Sure wish we had Stephanie Lyn earlier in life! Super grateful for her now!💖

[richardlenz]

Profound. Thank you 🤭👍I have always problems with my narcissistic wife. I have married her 20 yeas ago. She is exactly like you say. Therefore it is good you give reminders, because the behavior of narcissists are really unbelievable 🤦💜

[jannamartens]

I’m watching this video because I grew up in a family with minipulative behaviour s and I’m trying to break the cycle of minipulation . I’m trying to gain as much knowledge as possible . I’m trying to put a stop to the head games. People shouldn’t do things for you and then tell you off this is a controlling issue . Which is why I’m trying to be more independent. Yes you have learn who is healthy for you and who is not . If there behaviours are not healthy to be around distance yourself.

[billdavis]

Thank you. I was married to a covert narcissist for 20 years. As soon as I left that marriage and dated someone, they turned out to be a sociopath and discarded me after I became addicted to her. In all cases I was not a healthy giver and thought I had a hole I needed filled by someone else. Well, that put a bullseye on me and made me an excellent target due to lack of boundaries and people pleasing. It hurts but I realize it’s not safe for me to try a relationship again with these issues.

[LPDponce]

The simplest thing you can say about these people, specifically in a relationship, is that they are not in it for "us"; they are in it for themselves. One of the biggest ways, IMO, that this manifests is the resentment they will harbor in passive-aggressive style silence anytime you make a decision in the best interests of "us" that wasn't their idea. They will wait months carrying that around as motivation for some type of gotcha moment further down the road.

[llucaguilocordero]

I am sure, i will not ever be capable of expressing how thankful i am to this woman for explaining human patterns in such perfect way for me to understasnd

[ursulagates]

Wow… 😮 Everything stated in this video is so true. So informative….I saw all these phases in my ex- narc. When I realized he was not going to change I ended the relationship. Never going back. I’m so done. Thank you 😊

[haylesm]

Ty, the way u explained boundaries is a gold nugget for me 💫 ❤ 👌

[stevensawyer]

I was conned by a narcissist emotional manipulator trauma therapist. 16 months no contact now but can't seem to break the trauma bond cord. Feels like swimming in an ocean of concrete.